Unless you’re not being honest about your reasons for following him, then your intentions were good. That’s not always enough, so you can try at least honor whatever wishes he has for you to do with the information.
So ask him.
If he wants you to keep it a secret forever, the way to prove to him that you I only have his best interests at heart is to agree. And do it.
You can work on yourself and your “picker” and find a good woman that you can trust enough.
That's easier said than done though, how many people do you think got into a marriage or relationship only to have it all come crashing down because of their SO's treachery? If you go over to the adultery subreddit, you'll find all sorts of people engaging in extramarital affairs, what's worse is that quite a few of them have legitimately happy marriages, but just enjoy the thrill. These people are putting on a persona and are able to lie so convincingly that you actually can't tell them apart from anyone else. That's what's scary.
I think you should go for it. If this breaks the relationship, then maybe good riddance? I think true friends can move past this if he truly isn’t interested.
He really did! Also I looked down there maybe 3-4 days after giving birth and it was like someone erased my vagina. It was just a dinner plate sized hole and I could see my uterus. If that was how it stayed we’d sneeze and guts would fall out.
Thanks but I don't want to do that either. He isn't the type to suddenly want me back if I don't contact him. He will be hurt and angry if I cut him off. My best chance is staying close with him, no matter how much it hurts me. I'd rather be in this situation for now, than dead. I guess, anyways.
I don't like other people, no one my age is mature or introspective enough for me, I don't go anywhere, I'm afraid of men, and I have a small friend group. I'm not a part of a community or anything. Frankly I don't want to do any of those things either, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.
The friends and boyfriend I have now are the only people I know and love. Random people that I have nothing in common with are sickeningly undesirable. I'm going to bed…
I suspect your new boyfriend will take it upon himself to take discipline into his own hands while you turn a blind eye because you “are in love.” This is a clichéd stereotype as old as time
That's what worries me.
You can’t make people forgive you.
Unless you’re not being honest about your reasons for following him, then your intentions were good. That’s not always enough, so you can try at least honor whatever wishes he has for you to do with the information.
So ask him.
If he wants you to keep it a secret forever, the way to prove to him that you I only have his best interests at heart is to agree. And do it.
You can work on yourself and your “picker” and find a good woman that you can trust enough.
That's easier said than done though, how many people do you think got into a marriage or relationship only to have it all come crashing down because of their SO's treachery? If you go over to the adultery subreddit, you'll find all sorts of people engaging in extramarital affairs, what's worse is that quite a few of them have legitimately happy marriages, but just enjoy the thrill. These people are putting on a persona and are able to lie so convincingly that you actually can't tell them apart from anyone else. That's what's scary.
I think you should go for it. If this breaks the relationship, then maybe good riddance? I think true friends can move past this if he truly isn’t interested.
He really did! Also I looked down there maybe 3-4 days after giving birth and it was like someone erased my vagina. It was just a dinner plate sized hole and I could see my uterus. If that was how it stayed we’d sneeze and guts would fall out.
Honestly, it doesn't sound too promising imo.
Thanks but I don't want to do that either. He isn't the type to suddenly want me back if I don't contact him. He will be hurt and angry if I cut him off. My best chance is staying close with him, no matter how much it hurts me. I'd rather be in this situation for now, than dead. I guess, anyways.
I don't like other people, no one my age is mature or introspective enough for me, I don't go anywhere, I'm afraid of men, and I have a small friend group. I'm not a part of a community or anything. Frankly I don't want to do any of those things either, it makes me feel sick to my stomach.
The friends and boyfriend I have now are the only people I know and love. Random people that I have nothing in common with are sickeningly undesirable. I'm going to bed…
I suspect your new boyfriend will take it upon himself to take discipline into his own hands while you turn a blind eye because you “are in love.” This is a clichéd stereotype as old as time
What exactly do you mean by this?