No, just no. You don't seem to understand how any of this works at all. While that might be a deal breaker to you, and a sexless relationship would also be a deal breaker to me, that is not the case for everyone.
You're invalidating a relationship that may otherwise be fine, because of hormonal and likely mental issues beyond the scope of this sub. You should get off the internet for awhile
I think ur boyfriend is probably making this up since all of the times he's been telling you S wants to hang out with him more, he's not even there? Doesn't make sense
No, you shouldn’t stick it out. You have already given her 15 years, she doesn’t deserve to destroy the rest of your life.
But that’s not the important part.
The important part is YOU.
It’s time to get control over YOUR life. Your drinking, your depression, your marriage, your frustration with your job——they all go hand in hand. It’s time for YOU to change.
To be a better father.
To be a better man.
Your wife isn’t in that equation. It’s over with. She is just one toxic thing dragging you down. Your excuse to get out of this relationship is her emotionally cheating on your with her ex. That’s the easy part.
If my pattern is out with friends and I’m home, the only communication I expect is if he won’t be home by the time he said he’d be so I’m not worrying.
It’s rude to be all on your phone when you’re with friends. Just because we have phones doesn’t mean we have to make ourselves available 24/7.
Don’t be so needy. Have your life and friends and just catch up next day
I'm not saying this to put you down but maybe you didn't understand. Maybe he wanted a united front but to him you tried to get him to lie about who he is. In the end you approached him asking if he would lie about his beliefs, something that he might have already struggled with in his own family. I'm sure if you came to him saying “My family wants me to convert you to Islam but I'm going to tell them that WE will not be doing that.” Then that would have brought the subject to him while also showing your support of his beliefs while also giving him a chance for any input. The idea of marriage is that you both work together and in this situation you went to him after discussing it with your family. Unless there is more going on than what we know I don't think it's a bad idea to make it known that while you were conflicted with your family, the family you want with him is what comes first now, that includes standing together against your families to protect your beliefs.
I am sorry you are going through this, something like this must be very nerve wracking to try and navigate, I just suggest you align your priorities and stick with it. Being influenced by the person in front of you can make you do things you don't agree with unfortunately
horrible and abusive thing to do
Oh for crying out loud….
No, just no. You don't seem to understand how any of this works at all. While that might be a deal breaker to you, and a sexless relationship would also be a deal breaker to me, that is not the case for everyone.
You're invalidating a relationship that may otherwise be fine, because of hormonal and likely mental issues beyond the scope of this sub. You should get off the internet for awhile
seems like he just dosent care.break up
she won't pay you back and does not want to get married. she just used you.
“I don't know how to convince her (for sure we're not letting this one go) to make her feel safe with this.”
Yeah, my words. Guys, take some reading course or something.
I think ur boyfriend is probably making this up since all of the times he's been telling you S wants to hang out with him more, he's not even there? Doesn't make sense
No, you shouldn’t stick it out. You have already given her 15 years, she doesn’t deserve to destroy the rest of your life.
But that’s not the important part.
The important part is YOU.
It’s time to get control over YOUR life. Your drinking, your depression, your marriage, your frustration with your job——they all go hand in hand. It’s time for YOU to change.
To be a better father.
To be a better man.
Your wife isn’t in that equation. It’s over with. She is just one toxic thing dragging you down. Your excuse to get out of this relationship is her emotionally cheating on your with her ex. That’s the easy part.
It’s time, my guy.
If my pattern is out with friends and I’m home, the only communication I expect is if he won’t be home by the time he said he’d be so I’m not worrying.
It’s rude to be all on your phone when you’re with friends. Just because we have phones doesn’t mean we have to make ourselves available 24/7.
Don’t be so needy. Have your life and friends and just catch up next day
I'm not saying this to put you down but maybe you didn't understand. Maybe he wanted a united front but to him you tried to get him to lie about who he is. In the end you approached him asking if he would lie about his beliefs, something that he might have already struggled with in his own family. I'm sure if you came to him saying “My family wants me to convert you to Islam but I'm going to tell them that WE will not be doing that.” Then that would have brought the subject to him while also showing your support of his beliefs while also giving him a chance for any input. The idea of marriage is that you both work together and in this situation you went to him after discussing it with your family. Unless there is more going on than what we know I don't think it's a bad idea to make it known that while you were conflicted with your family, the family you want with him is what comes first now, that includes standing together against your families to protect your beliefs.
I am sorry you are going through this, something like this must be very nerve wracking to try and navigate, I just suggest you align your priorities and stick with it. Being influenced by the person in front of you can make you do things you don't agree with unfortunately