I'm going to say it: HIS BEHAVIOUR IS ABUSIVE TO THIS GIRL.
Stop putting up with it. This is going to be so damaging to her mental health and self-worth. She could grow up trying to find approval in every man she meets.
Cut the shit and tell him to pull his head out of his ass. Go to therapy with him if you have to. Find a mediator. Get a DNA test. Then let him realise how awful he is and how much grovelling he has to do to make it up to this little girl.
If he doesn't do anything to better himself, divorce. That's the best thing you can do for your daughter. It doesn't matter if he's a good father to his other kids. He's not a father if he's picking and choosing. It doesn't work like that.
How do you think it effects your other children? Are they going to grow up thinking this behaviour is okay? Fear being treated like their sister so they turn to putting her down to gain his approval?
I have no doubts he thinks she isn't his and that you stepped out and got yourself pregnant. At the moment you're the only one who's there to protect your child. Do your job.
I popped out of one who was raised by even crazier than this and who married one that wasn’t quite as crazy to have me and my older brother with. My childhood was fun, especially during the holiday figh…. parties.
Did I mention I’ve been in therapy for over 10 years and have mental breakdowns over this?
Plus they both know she had IUD. its sad that he assumed that condoms are only for birth control and she having IUD is cool. It could be anything, from past experiences i realized that people tend to complicate simple things.
You “can't” tell your boyfriend because you did cheat on him. You went out with your ex, got drunk and did coke and now you're lying to your boyfriend about it.
but other times he’ll try and put it in me anyway and gets mad when i push him off me
That would be rape. At the very least if he's not getting it in it's very serious SA and bullying.
a part of me feels like I’m just being entitled, I don’t know if I’m making a big deal out of nothing
You are not being entitled by not wanting to have sex, participate in something that will cause you pain and suffering. You are not making a big deal out of nothing.
i feel like when he gets horny he forgets my feelings matter too.
He's a selfish prick.
Why are you with him?
Were you 18 when you got together? Or were you 17?
Why the hell are you engaged already?
He's likely going to escalate his behaviour towards you. Be very, very careful with him. He is not a nice person!
Well, I’ve a liar for years so I must be honest, I didn’t come to her just to say that, I had to answer because she was asking me about what I looked for because of my porn addiction, I know it’s still all my fault.
Man often thé reason two people get together is by sheer luck, weird or even ambiguous situations.
What matter is what happened next. May be she had a crush on that easy going sleazy dude but she then got with you. Doesn't mean she wouldn't have been with you in the end just with à bit more time.
What matter is she really took à liking in you when discovering you and then got to love you and since then all is good and she never looked back.
I'd take a good life over being thé first choice any day of the week.
He clearly has insecurities and you probably didn't help when you left him for your ex just to come back. He probably feels like your just with him because he is a safer bet than your ex.
What are your ages? It really might change the way people answer you if we knew your ages.
Your GFs issues are not normal. Her requests are not normal.
In fact? It is considered abusive. If she does not like the fact that you have to work? That is her problem.
You don't have to adjust your work schedule because she wants you to spend all of your free time with her.
That's not how life works.
That's not a healthy relationship.
And if she's willing to break up with you because you are working? That's definitely a ?
I understand. I wish feelings are super easy to remove
I'm going to say it: HIS BEHAVIOUR IS ABUSIVE TO THIS GIRL.
Stop putting up with it. This is going to be so damaging to her mental health and self-worth. She could grow up trying to find approval in every man she meets.
Cut the shit and tell him to pull his head out of his ass. Go to therapy with him if you have to. Find a mediator. Get a DNA test. Then let him realise how awful he is and how much grovelling he has to do to make it up to this little girl.
If he doesn't do anything to better himself, divorce. That's the best thing you can do for your daughter. It doesn't matter if he's a good father to his other kids. He's not a father if he's picking and choosing. It doesn't work like that.
How do you think it effects your other children? Are they going to grow up thinking this behaviour is okay? Fear being treated like their sister so they turn to putting her down to gain his approval?
I have no doubts he thinks she isn't his and that you stepped out and got yourself pregnant. At the moment you're the only one who's there to protect your child. Do your job.
I popped out of one who was raised by even crazier than this and who married one that wasn’t quite as crazy to have me and my older brother with. My childhood was fun, especially during the holiday figh…. parties.
Did I mention I’ve been in therapy for over 10 years and have mental breakdowns over this?
Plus they both know she had IUD. its sad that he assumed that condoms are only for birth control and she having IUD is cool. It could be anything, from past experiences i realized that people tend to complicate simple things.
You “can't” tell your boyfriend because you did cheat on him. You went out with your ex, got drunk and did coke and now you're lying to your boyfriend about it.
Break up with your boyfriend and get help.
but other times he’ll try and put it in me anyway and gets mad when i push him off me
That would be rape. At the very least if he's not getting it in it's very serious SA and bullying.
a part of me feels like I’m just being entitled, I don’t know if I’m making a big deal out of nothing
You are not being entitled by not wanting to have sex, participate in something that will cause you pain and suffering. You are not making a big deal out of nothing.
i feel like when he gets horny he forgets my feelings matter too.
He's a selfish prick.
Why are you with him?
Were you 18 when you got together? Or were you 17?
Why the hell are you engaged already?
He's likely going to escalate his behaviour towards you. Be very, very careful with him. He is not a nice person!
Well, I’ve a liar for years so I must be honest, I didn’t come to her just to say that, I had to answer because she was asking me about what I looked for because of my porn addiction, I know it’s still all my fault.
No, find yourself a real Asian man.
Man often thé reason two people get together is by sheer luck, weird or even ambiguous situations.
What matter is what happened next. May be she had a crush on that easy going sleazy dude but she then got with you. Doesn't mean she wouldn't have been with you in the end just with à bit more time.
What matter is she really took à liking in you when discovering you and then got to love you and since then all is good and she never looked back.
I'd take a good life over being thé first choice any day of the week.
? ?
He clearly has insecurities and you probably didn't help when you left him for your ex just to come back. He probably feels like your just with him because he is a safer bet than your ex.
We already made the plans to meet at the friends house. I worked late so they went out to kind of kill time.
I just wish I could find a way to bring this up/what to even say. It’s hard to put all the rapid thoughts into an actual sentence