It takes two to tango! He's probably thinking the same. The content of his replies are the indicator of whether he is interested or not, not the frequency of reply. If he sounds bored with short answers or avoiding the questions then he's not really interested. There is not much you can conclude from your experience so far. Ask more engaging questions and you'll find out.
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Really they allow it to the outside world.. but staunch Catholics would absolute rather have the mother die in birth to save the kid. My mother had a college friend that happened to. All of her grandparents and her parents were pushing them to have the kid. Her husband begged her not to because it would be dangerous but my moms friend didn’t want to ostracize her extended family from their lives and future children’s lives so she pushed through and she does giving way premature birth.
Really they allow it to the outside world.. but staunch Catholics would absolute rather have the mother die in birth to save the kid. My mother had a college friend that happened to. All of her grandparents and her parents were pushing them to have the kid. Her husband begged her not to because it would be dangerous but my moms friend didn’t want to ostracize her extended family from their lives and future children’s lives so she pushed through and she does giving way premature birth.
You know what? Instead of just down-voting you like everyone else I’m gonna explain why this is a god-awful take:
Whatever else is redeeming in OP’s boyfriend is irrelevant. This issue is solely about OP’s boyfriend feeling entitled to have 100% of his meals made for him under the guise of, “Having someone cook for me is my love language.” Who is basing a relationship solely on this? What led you to that conclusion?
Why are you purporting to know what her WFH day is like? Do you have ANY idea what OP does for a living, what kind of deliverables she is expected to have done and by when? Do you know she can “shut her laptop whenever she wants”? You are delusional if you think not having to physically go into an office means work is a free for all. For example my job is hybrid – I am in the office 3 days a week and WFH the other 2. Some in-office days I can stroll in at 9am and clock out at 5pm, have very few meetings and my day is not at all stressful. Some WFH days I am online for 12 hours straight in back-to-back meetings and trying to get all my shit done in time. Guess what my fiancé does on those days? Manages putting dinner on because even though he went into the physical office, he got done with work well before I did.
I wonder what OP’s boyfriend did to feed himself before he met her. He’s a grown-ass man. He decided to join a physically demanding career and then whine about how tired he is all the time, while simultaneously telling his girlfriend how “easy” it is to cook. So which is it – so easy that he should be able to feed himself despite being tired, or a laborious task that he should appreciate someone is willing to do for him 80% of the time?
She never said she wanted him to come home from work to cook dinner. She acknowledges it’s easier for her to make dinner during the week. She wants him to make dinner sometimes on the weekends, and not complain about variety when he’s not the one cooking.
Your whole “good luck finding a man” thing is just dripping with so much misogyny I feel like a Matt Walsh-shaped goblin manifested in real time as I read that.
She’s not asking for 50/50 in the kitchen. She’s asking for 80/20 with the large onus still on her. Maybe you were too busy turning this into a Mens Rights Activist rant to read the part where she literally says 80/20, you illiterate fucking imbecile.
The only person weaponizing, “If you loved me you’d do this” is him. If he’s allowed to say being cooked for is his love language, why can’t it be hers too?
Move on. Unless he is literally caring for his niece instead of sitting in his room 24/7 gaming (which is what he is actually doing), I find it difficult to believe that he is cycling through all of these illnesses each week. He's using his niece as a convenient excuse.
It takes two to tango! He's probably thinking the same. The content of his replies are the indicator of whether he is interested or not, not the frequency of reply. If he sounds bored with short answers or avoiding the questions then he's not really interested. There is not much you can conclude from your experience so far. Ask more engaging questions and you'll find out.
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If I 22M ever get that lazy, I'm already dead.
That is gross, hope he stops it and improves from depression.
How is his diet? What he eats can make depression worst and decrease his energy levels by a great amount.
Please find contacts for women shelters or domestic violence contacts!
Pretty sure he’s planning on playing on a different team next year anyways ?
There is a scale to the argument. He values life. But, if the woman is in danger he values her choice to save her life first.
Pro-choice, as OP has described it, should be changed to pro-abortion. It's not supposed to be birth control.
Let the downvotes begin.
Really they allow it to the outside world.. but staunch Catholics would absolute rather have the mother die in birth to save the kid. My mother had a college friend that happened to. All of her grandparents and her parents were pushing them to have the kid. Her husband begged her not to because it would be dangerous but my moms friend didn’t want to ostracize her extended family from their lives and future children’s lives so she pushed through and she does giving way premature birth.
Really they allow it to the outside world.. but staunch Catholics would absolute rather have the mother die in birth to save the kid. My mother had a college friend that happened to. All of her grandparents and her parents were pushing them to have the kid. Her husband begged her not to because it would be dangerous but my moms friend didn’t want to ostracize her extended family from their lives and future children’s lives so she pushed through and she does giving way premature birth.
You found someone who is the same kind of weird. yay!
You know what? Instead of just down-voting you like everyone else I’m gonna explain why this is a god-awful take:
Whatever else is redeeming in OP’s boyfriend is irrelevant. This issue is solely about OP’s boyfriend feeling entitled to have 100% of his meals made for him under the guise of, “Having someone cook for me is my love language.” Who is basing a relationship solely on this? What led you to that conclusion?
Why are you purporting to know what her WFH day is like? Do you have ANY idea what OP does for a living, what kind of deliverables she is expected to have done and by when? Do you know she can “shut her laptop whenever she wants”? You are delusional if you think not having to physically go into an office means work is a free for all. For example my job is hybrid – I am in the office 3 days a week and WFH the other 2. Some in-office days I can stroll in at 9am and clock out at 5pm, have very few meetings and my day is not at all stressful. Some WFH days I am online for 12 hours straight in back-to-back meetings and trying to get all my shit done in time. Guess what my fiancé does on those days? Manages putting dinner on because even though he went into the physical office, he got done with work well before I did.
I wonder what OP’s boyfriend did to feed himself before he met her. He’s a grown-ass man. He decided to join a physically demanding career and then whine about how tired he is all the time, while simultaneously telling his girlfriend how “easy” it is to cook. So which is it – so easy that he should be able to feed himself despite being tired, or a laborious task that he should appreciate someone is willing to do for him 80% of the time?
She never said she wanted him to come home from work to cook dinner. She acknowledges it’s easier for her to make dinner during the week. She wants him to make dinner sometimes on the weekends, and not complain about variety when he’s not the one cooking.
Your whole “good luck finding a man” thing is just dripping with so much misogyny I feel like a Matt Walsh-shaped goblin manifested in real time as I read that.
She’s not asking for 50/50 in the kitchen. She’s asking for 80/20 with the large onus still on her. Maybe you were too busy turning this into a Mens Rights Activist rant to read the part where she literally says 80/20, you illiterate fucking imbecile.
The only person weaponizing, “If you loved me you’d do this” is him. If he’s allowed to say being cooked for is his love language, why can’t it be hers too?
But how do you know he isn’t banging Pennywise? Maybe that’s a weirdly specific kink lol
what should I do?
Move on. Unless he is literally caring for his niece instead of sitting in his room 24/7 gaming (which is what he is actually doing), I find it difficult to believe that he is cycling through all of these illnesses each week. He's using his niece as a convenient excuse.