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you had no issue being open and honest in this post, but you have an issue being open and honest with your boyfriend. The solution is simple, show him this post if you're so keen on being honest.
Naw she's just a super protective friend. She told me before I met Lucy not to go after her lmao
At the time they were trying to reconcile, so lying about the affair being over rather than ongoing was definitely not for his sake
Let her go lmao ?
I had an ex try to do this with me. It all fell apart when he got jealous about something and yelled at me because he was operating out of his feelings and I was operating out of friendship. It ended the friendship completely and wiped out any chance of us getting back together. The funny thing was that if he’d put as much effort into fixing himself as he did into trying to win me back as a “friend”, we might’ve been able to reconcile. Instead he just ended up breaking my heart twice.
You need to work on yourself and figure out how to change the things she said were hurtful. You’ll either become the person she needs or you’ll be a better person for another woman you can start fresh with. Either way you’ve taken steps in the right direction.
Not joking, maybe you should take some mdma (Molly) with her and have a true deep discussion about your relationship. It used to be successfully used in couples therapy in the 80s before it got popular in the party scene and DEA banned it
So why do you need weed in your life? Does it give you something your boyfriend doesn't? Do you plan on having kids with him? Drugs have no place in a relationship.
If weed is more important than a commitment from a loyal guy, then I guess your priorities will reign. Good luck
Yes.
Title alone. Yes.
My love for giving her oral sex makes asking in the bed that much more appealing. Hoping she will let me do it soon. I'm weak for it
So you feel that you were happy but wasn't that mostly because you were in ignorance of the fact that she was cheating on you? And now you know she appears to have a history of this and just acts shocked every time you find out that she's crossed a boundary, you are now struggling to believe her commitment to you?
The fact is you suspect this has been going on for years don't you, and you now can't trust her, of course. I think the thing that seals it for me is her reaction to your continued struggle with her cheating. She isn't really surprised that you are struggling, she just thought she'd shut you up about it and is surprised her usual tactic of acting blindsided hasn't worked as well as she thought this time.
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This has been going for a while (about 3 years) we’ve been together for 4. If he had the choice of sex vs masterbating, he would choose the latter. He does this edging thing where he spends about 1-2 hours wanking. If I come near him, like into the room or shout him for dinner – he’ll scream at me to go away.
Is there something I can do when he does shout at me? Or should I just leave him alone?
TL;DR – boyfriend wanks instead of doing stuff with me, how do I make him stop?
? ikr! Go through the whole process of getting an abortion, just to shoot yourself after… it’s so absurd.
Then don’t date him?? It’s honestly not rocket science. You either want to be with him or you don’t.
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My dad is still in the picture. We had a very rocky relationship in the past (he was an alcoholic). So, I definitely try not to rock the boat with him. We go from 1 to 1000 pretty quick, although it is rare that things explode. When they do, it is very bad.
However, I know that he knows that something is wrong. He’s tried to get her out of the house to no avail (according to him). He’s fallen into her ideology as well, although he is still moderately reasonable.
Nope. End it. She is not loyal and is going after other guys. She will continue. Not to mention that there are now nudes of her out there and will be forever.
Calm yourself and think this through. Assuming Ex carries Child to term, what do you want, for yourself, for Ex, and for the Child that your culture regards as a bastard?
First, I'd like to remind you that under many cultures and religions you have a moral obligation to a child you made, and/or its mother. Not knowing your background, I can't spell those obligations out for you. If you won't listen to your religious or cultural teaching, at least listen to your conscience.
Do you want nothing to do with Ex or Child? If Ex is agreeable, get a paralegal to document this agreement. Do you want to play a role in Child's life? Make an agreement with Ex, and document it. Do you want Ex to keep your secret, and tell no one that you're Child's Father? Make an agreement. Do you want to keep all options open? Then make sure the law of her country recognizes you as Child's Father, or you could lose your rights, and your options. Do you want Child not to be called a bastard? Do you badly want this visa that you considered marrying her to get? Agree to marry Ex before Child arrives, and also agree to divorce at leisure – no deception about your intentions, please; your conscience already has enough of a burden to bear without this.
Would your family oppose this marriage-of-convenience? Do it in secret. Do you want to make this acceptable by the religion that you don't practice? Talk to your Imam. Or persuade Ex to embrace Islam. Perhaps for your sake she will go thru the motions of accepting Islam and then become a nonpracticing Muslim like you. Just a short initiation, recite the watchwords of the Faith, then she goes right on with life as before.
Do you want Child to have a proper Islamic name, and to be raised as a Muslim? Ex may exact a high price for that, if she is willing to even consider it. Would you settle for Child as a Muslim in first name only? Some first names familiar to Islam are not used exclusively by Islamic families. Offhand I can think of Laila/Layla. Jasmine/Yasmeen. Aisha/Ayesha. Eliza. Omar. Ian. Kaiser. I'm sure there are many more. Bargain with Ex.
He says he loves me and that he doesn’t think he’ll break up with me
Oh great stuff, he doesn't “think” he's going to break up with. So he's on the fence, going to give it a ruminate.
If this guy can ditch relationships and friendships on a whim of “oh I sad, bad time, bye now, don't let the door hit you on the way out” then how can you ever feel secure in a relationship with him? You probably can't.
Honestly, I'd want to have words with your parents. This guy can just pick and choose his friends and relationships, yet your parents like him? Also, parents aren't always a good metric for good partners (sometimes they are in fairness, it's not 100% either way.)
It's no surprise that you don't feel comfortable here, he could ditch you and all his friends at a moments notice. In fact, during a fight, he used the break up card because he knows that's a weak point for you. That's really shitty on his behalf. Maybe it was off the cuff on his part, or maybe he knows that he can get you to fall in line by threatening that every time an argument happens.
You say you've never loved someone the way you love him. Granted, that feeling is no less real for you at 18 than it is for me at 42, but he's just one guy in a world of MANY guys. From shit to fecking awesome, a whole maelstrom of options out there. I don't doubt you'll feel more for someone in the future that isn't him, by age alone, you've only started shopping…. and it's a BIG shop.
Don't give your heart to someone that treats it so casually.
If you ask, that's a problem she can't come back from. But if you don't ask, that's a problem you can't come back from.
Ask bro. I mean, I would ask, she acts very suspiciously.
Maybe I’m weird but I don’t like having sex with multiple women. Honestly I just did this so we could have fun together it was fun at first. Now she just brings random women home to our room and do the deed while I play cards
Is 7 years too big of an age gap?
I mean always? No
Here? Maybe
Are we in two far different places in life and it won’t work?
Probably
But “won’t” is a little too definitive
It’s not impossible but probably not long term
Is that possible true, but should I date her anyways?
What exactly would you get out of it?
Just some short term enjoyment?
“This probably won’t work out but should I do it anyway?”
Why though ?
Ok, now do you want to be in an open relationship where only your wife gets to have sex? You need to communicate boundaries and state that you not having sex is a deal breaker, especially since she wants to still be open on her side.
go to the house with friends and family to avoid drama.
of course you cry. you have been repetitly betrayed. it is far saner than keeping it inside.
Boring… Yeah I don't think we're gonna see eye to eye on this but thanks for sharing your perspective. Have a good day
I think he’s got some major damage/baggage from guns divorce and the walls he’s put up aren’t coming down. Not for me at least. And how insulting is it for someone to have to try to love you? Yeah I really am angry about that, I’m fucking awesome. Thank you
Make sure you have your evidence. Get screenshots of his posts, any correspondence you have between them, etc. Make sure your families know what happened, if only because it appears he's obsessive and unstable, and you need to have them in your corner. Then leave his sad little ass on the curb.
You're going to come out of this stronger, and with your head held high. He's going to be outed as a creep, and an unfaithful douche bag, and is going to be left alone with nothing, and no ability to ever have anything real in his life.
She is a roommate not a friend. Find another roommate. If you can't, don't be friends with her.
I just read your husbands posts. I'll get my comment removed for the name I'd call him. That low life wasted 20 years of your life!! I am furious on your behalf. Also what a joke using his religion as the reason he stays with you. I'm quite sure it's un Christian to deceive people ( you & wasting your time) and then having an affair with someone else even if it was one sided emotional one.Utter garbage of a human. You deserve so much better. Lucky you have your children. But I can't get over how he stole 20 years of your life. Fuck this guy.
Zodiac signs don't mean shit ?? but hey, I'm a carmadellsan so what cam you expect?
Did Ben Shapiro write this?
All jokes aside my dude you're doing great, no need to overthink it
Honestly my takeaway from this is that he's been harassing her, and she doesn't deserve your ire. Even if he toned it down after she asked, he still made her uncomfortable to begin with, and seeing as he's initiated every conversation since, she seems to already have been trying to pull away. I empathise with her. Given what appears to be the large age gap between them, that he hunted down her phone number and has already made her uncomfortable, etc, she might feel pressured to play nice with him rather than tell him straight up not to contact her any more. The situation likely sucks for her too.
As for your boyfriend? He's honestly seemed like a creep the moment he went all out to grab her phone number from the group without asking her himself, and if she hadn't asked him to stop, he'd likely still be complimenting her and calling her “gorgeous”, which doesn't seem a purely platonic statement in the context. I'd leave him before he creates more off-putting one-sided infatuations, or even one that goes both ways.
Women have a limited number of eggs. By age 30, 90% of them are gone.
5 years and you aren’t sure? Like another said, let her go and stop wasting her time.
Thank you so much! I really appreciate this, it is so reassuring to hear this isn't an alien concept!! I also generally prefer not to do double dates for similar reasons, I also think there is too much room for it to all end in tears with breakups and general dramas. I think that you're right that I need to just stick to the introvert thing and move on
I am hoping to build more on my personal relationships with the wider circle too, maybe it would be questioned less if they know me a bit more and understand that my relationship is solid
Mmmm, you are right. Language wasn't great. I cheated. I am a cheater.
I am assuming your advice here is “Talk about the cheating”?
How in the hell did you take a message where he talks about being physically confronted and his daughter potentially losing a friend and still make it about his wife? WTF????
You won't progress to the point in a relationship where marriage and children are a discussion if you're literally not contributing anything to the relationship.
It seems, as you said, you're the reason a lot of the fights happen? Have you tried telling him in a calm voice, what you want from him in certain situations, because he is young and not a mind reader. It's all about calm communication and teaching eachother about your needs
He shouldn't be dating a vet if he doesn't want pets.
Damn, get rid of her. If he knew you asked her out, get rid of him too
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Then just do half the chores… Not very hard bud.
Start by cooking all the dinners…
I mean people move around in their sleep. This is very disturbing. Also, since she doesn't see him as a dad, why is she going in their to get comfort to sleep? Would she sleep in any bed naked? Like if she went on a trip and was in a separate bedroom, would she just pop into whatever person's bed in the next room bc she can't sleep alone?
Is she open sexually? Is being naked natural for her? Revealing clothes? Or did it take some time for her to get nude with you?
Ok hears my advice. The long and short of this is no matter which side you come down on in this debate (personally I agree with you that this is disturbing behavior), you two don't agree on a very big, personal issue.
Say you stay and she never gets in step dad's bed nude again (? btw, if you do stay you should probably get her to agree never to get in bed with anyone other than you), what happens next?
Say you get married and have kids one day. Do you want to have them with someone who would sleep naked with her children into and including adulthood? It sounds like you wouldn't expose (no pun intended) your child to someone like this so why keep exposing yourself?
good idea, thanks.
Also Syrian here. My middle name is my dad’s name (I’m a woman and for a while growing up it made me feel pretty insecure). If he’s not willing to budge and you’re not in a serious relationship, take this as a red flag and make decisions about the overall relationship accordingly. If he is willing to compromise, suggest his parent’s name could be the middle names of the kids (assuming you’re okay with this) and choose the first name together.
Also, keep in mind you’re 20. He’s 23. Neither of you should be thinking about kids right now. Sounds like he needs to grow up a bit and you likely do too. Good luck!
I choked on mine!
No she wouldnt be doing this unless she either wants to torpedo her “friends” relationship becasue hers has or she is interested in you.
He’s not being selfish. You’ll set yourself on fire to keep others warm. That kind of martyrdom does no one any good.
Why have sex you don’t want to have or that hurts you? Why is he “selfish” for wanting to be comfortable? For stopping when it’s not comfortable? Z
As far as gifts? Give him a list. Some people are going to be different than you. My partner and I don’t do forced gift giving on bdays or holidays. We see something we know the other likes/needs, we buy it. For some people (especially with ADH) remembering dates is hard and then when you do, it’s panic buying because you don’t think about it til you HAVE to.
I (44F) think that maybe you’ve been in some shit relationships where you couldn’t stop or say no in sex without shame. He’s not that kind of asshole.
right? sounds like emotional terrorism and stonewalling to me. OP should read Why Does He Do That (despite the book being about hetero relationships, the tactics could still apply)
Training you to “walk on eggshells” , give her her way on everything. Teaching you fear. Other people do it different ways , but still classic abusive behavior rather than discussing and handling things like adults.
Some people have this idea that a relationship and a friendship are completely different things.
Others feel that a relationship is…kind of like living with your best friend, who you have super-fun sex with.
I think she belongs to the first group, and has trouble wrapping her head around that what you two have is sort of going off in the direction of the other group.
She has A LOT of insecurity about her looks. And as a result, she also has doubt about your reasons and your honesty.
You are not going to convince her over just a weekend. In fact, the convincing part will take a while. Months, probably. But you probably don't mind that it will take time, because you are her number one fan.
If she needs to be told every bloody day that she is beautiful, then you are going to do that. Right? You ARE going to tell her that you fancy her, in every way possible? Because you should.
Eventually it'll start to sink in. She'll evolve from not really believing that you think she is beautiful, into realising that “huh, he actually DOES think I'm beautiful” combined with a complete lack of understanding about WHY you think she is. And that is the next battle.
But you love her. And you really fancy her. So you are going to bloody do it.
A piece of warning, though. If she puts emphasis on you two being friends, maybe she is is hinting at that you feel more for her than she does for you.
I still think it's your bloody job as a sexual partner to encourage her to believe in herself, so I don't think you should stop praising her as long as you are completely honest.
But, you know. Figure out what you two are.
You've been in her bed. And in her, at that. She deserves your praise. Especially since it's so sincere and honest. It will cost you nothing to insist that she is this beautiful creature that you'd like to have in your life all the time.
But it may be that you are not actually going to have her in your life all the time. But that's another side of it.
He is a good liar like he’ll stick with a story. But he says he’s changing that and working on it etc and he said I didn’t give him a space safe to be honest lmao
Okay ?
The fact that you are trying very hard to find your way back to this abuser is very troubling. You are trying to accepted the blame for his behavior. You are trying to figure out if you can trust him and that he has changed. He has not! If he has changed he would apologize and then leave you alone. I am more concerned about your behavior and thinking. Because even if you stay broken up with this guy the way you are currently thinking you could just replace him with another abuser. You need to see a therapist and figure out why you ended up in this type of relationship. I want to tell you stop fixating on him and if he has changed and start focusing on changing yourself. In the long run working on yourself is going to get you into a much healthier relationship!! Good luck!
Which is why everyone here is telling you to leave. You cannot be with this man and not have it be draining and exhausting. Those two feelings come as a package deal with him.
You didn't push him to anything. He is responsible for his behavior. He won't be better to anyone else. Abusers gonna abuse. Even if he were, fine. Let her have him. He sucks.
Wtf I’m a bi woman currently with a man and cheating is cheating this isn’t ok. Tell her if she gave oral to a man would it be cheating? What a nitwit
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I 29M have been with my girlfriend Serenity27f for 3 years. I’ve never went through my gf phone until a few days ago and I found abunch of text from girls. Flirting, talking about their sexual encounters. When I confronted my girlfriend she says it’s not really cheating because it’s with a girl and she doesn’t have intercourse, just oral. When I ask her why she just says because their better stuff it then I am. She didn’t even seem upset. I’m at a loss I’m so upset. I love my girlfriend, we live together, have 2 cats together. Advice?
She is actively cheating on you and you have a question about this. Break up with her. What is wrong with you. Overlooking this will make things even worse. Thank god you don’t have kids.
Modern men and women are not suitable for marriage. Period. This is more proof of my opinion.
Is it silly to get upset, yes but they're not asking you for the moon here.
It's a simple request, it's important to them and such an easy way to say I care about the things that matter to you.
Hmm, I mean yeah let her go..
I'm not saying this situation with your friend isn't giving some red flags here.. Asking the girl your dating to buy another girl a birthday present, then going out with her and having her sleep over at your house is a pretty reasonable situation to feel uncomfortable about.
But if she, at 30 years of age, feels that dramatically causing some scene is a more appropriate response than even attempting to communicate at all, then yeah she's emotionally immature and you should just move on.. no relationship will ever thrive if you can't talk about basic shit like boundaries.
Why are giving someone you've been dating for 2 months a key to your apartment?! You're lucky she did rob and roll you.
Just leave it. Obviously, she's not worth any effort. She broke up with you. Change your locks.
I agree with all of this. The “ruining his career” is ludicrous, since he's a journeyman electrician. I can't think of anywhere, except possibly extremely rural areas, where it would career-ending to be an electrician.
She may be all those things, but damn she sure is effective.
“I’m not comfortable with you going out with your friends.”
“What?? Why??”
“Because you cheated on me.”
“OMG why aren’t you over that yet? Stop throwing it in my face!!! You have trust issues!”
She cheated soon after marriage? Ohhh boy. Not worth it man.
Yes! You can’t explain to your abuser that you don’t like being abused. He doesn’t care because he enjoys it.
I get that people seem worried when a partner changes behavior re: appearance, but that’s a pretty normal thing. I wear makeup to work. I don’t put on makeup at home. Does that mean I’m trying to look hot for my coworkers? No. It’s a confidence thing. Just because we might not whiten our teeth or fake tan doesn’t mean there’s anything inherently sinister about that. Wanting to feel more aesthetically confident around a bunch of strangers is pretty normal.
As to the sleeping arrangements, that’s weirder to me. But nobody here is going to be able to answer the question you’ve asked. You’re going to get a bunch of people like “I’ve never whitened my teeth so he definitely cheated”, but that’s not useful to you. I think you just have to talk to him.
The “go get him back” thought process is what’s fucking me up the most. I’m not this type of woman, and I’ll never be this type of woman- I know it’s purely circumstantial and most likely rooted in loneliness over missing him as my partner. I hate that I feel this way and it makes me so fucking sick.
The “go get him back” thought process is what’s fucking me up the most. I’m not this type of woman, and I’ll never be this type of woman- I know it’s purely circumstantial and most likely rooted in loneliness over missing him as my partner. I hate that I feel this way and it makes me so fucking sick.
Cleaning. My career affords me a lot of flexibility and freedom in my schedule, and I am also the “breadwinner “, though I loathe that phrase. I just view doing chores around the house as a boon to both of us.