I think that might be a bit extreme. While I completely agree that he's not obsessing over video games, he also mentioned that they don't get a lot of non-parent time together. That leads me to think that she resents the fact that he makes an effort every week to fit in his gaming but he's not making the effort to have quality time with her. Because that is just as important as him making time for his friends and her finding a hobby.
You're going to have a hard time changing set habits after 18 years.
I'd go back to basics – make a list of chores, talk to her, avoid an argument by politely leaving the conversation on hold if it moves towards argument or tit-for-tat territory. Split the list of chores up evenly and fairly.
Don't use absolutes like “You never”, try using “I'd like…” or “If I do this, could you do that?”
Is she working and does she have a source of income? Renegotiate the bills. “I know that I've generally paid for the holidays in the past, but I'd like to split things more evenly now.”
Divide the closets into her space, and your space. Get her some big hampers for the bottom of her closet. Same for the laundry room.
Like you think there are more female users overall in this sub, or more lonely female users?
I think that might be a bit extreme. While I completely agree that he's not obsessing over video games, he also mentioned that they don't get a lot of non-parent time together. That leads me to think that she resents the fact that he makes an effort every week to fit in his gaming but he's not making the effort to have quality time with her. Because that is just as important as him making time for his friends and her finding a hobby.
probably wants to keep you on the back burner incase her relationship doesn’t work out
As a person with ADHD I'm offended, what does her horrible personality have to do with ADHD?
I believe the OP is more asking for ways to get out safely than asking if they should.
You're going to have a hard time changing set habits after 18 years.
I'd go back to basics – make a list of chores, talk to her, avoid an argument by politely leaving the conversation on hold if it moves towards argument or tit-for-tat territory. Split the list of chores up evenly and fairly.
Don't use absolutes like “You never”, try using “I'd like…” or “If I do this, could you do that?”
Is she working and does she have a source of income? Renegotiate the bills. “I know that I've generally paid for the holidays in the past, but I'd like to split things more evenly now.”
Divide the closets into her space, and your space. Get her some big hampers for the bottom of her closet. Same for the laundry room.