I (28F) honestly would be frustrated with it too. But I can be a little finicky about that kind of stuff.
On the opposite side, I will often start talking about something I was thinking about with no surrounding context—or I will talk without using proper nouns and just a bunch of he/she/they/them to wear my husband is like, “I have no idea who you are talking about.”
But I will always pause, back track, fix it, and try again.
There are times where I feel that he makes connections to things that I don’t understand just because it’s not the same way I would view it.
In the example of your wife saying the friend is doing well because he’s a protagonist. A protagonist in and of itself is the “good guy” of a story (or often the main character). But a protagonist in the personality test has less to do with “being the good guy” and more just an explanation of how he is likely to respond to the situations around him and the people he interacts with.
In instances like this, it could be less that one of you is wrong in your understanding and more so that you guys are just coming at it from different angles.
When that happens, just ask her to explain her train of thought. It’s okay to say, “I think that’s an interesting take or connection, but I don’t fully understand it. Can you explain your train of thought so I can understand your viewpoint better?”
Thank you. I know I am in my early 20s and it should be the time to fool around. But I find jt selfish, the idea of seeing someone just for the sake of finding out and in doing so being intimate with them.
Especially if they really, really like you, and do give off the impression they are ready to commit.
I always told myself I would commit to someone I would 100% want a relationship with. And that a relationship is something you have with a person you, at least at the very moment, see marrying and spending the rest of your life with.
Which for a 21 year old overthinker is not a healthy idea. Though at the same time, if that is not what a relationship is like, what is the point? Just to find out and risk wasting both parties time and getting hurt?
Yeah, I’m just worried that this is my issue bc I’ve been mistrusting in the past and I don’t want to ruin something over my anxiety. I’m worried if I open up this can of worms, it’ll lead me to do it again
Lol op don’t ask things you don’t want answers to he’s 50 and you’re 38 he’s going be blunt cause that’s part of being mature and the people roasting him I’m sure he knows he isn’t at his prime either but he probably doesn’t care
I come down here quite often and go to parties here often. She's been asking to come with but I've said no in the past because she wouldn't be used to it. On the day she asked, I finally said she could come and the first part of our day was good. Showed her around, met up with some of my people and attended the party. I never thought that she would've done that after everything I've told her about what not to do. I will no longer be taking her here.
I just gotta say I love all the comments roasting your husband and your decision to be together with him for 11 years and possibly more. It’s well-deserved.
We live in an area with a realllyyy high cost of living though
I (28F) honestly would be frustrated with it too. But I can be a little finicky about that kind of stuff.
On the opposite side, I will often start talking about something I was thinking about with no surrounding context—or I will talk without using proper nouns and just a bunch of he/she/they/them to wear my husband is like, “I have no idea who you are talking about.”
But I will always pause, back track, fix it, and try again.
There are times where I feel that he makes connections to things that I don’t understand just because it’s not the same way I would view it.
In the example of your wife saying the friend is doing well because he’s a protagonist. A protagonist in and of itself is the “good guy” of a story (or often the main character). But a protagonist in the personality test has less to do with “being the good guy” and more just an explanation of how he is likely to respond to the situations around him and the people he interacts with.
In instances like this, it could be less that one of you is wrong in your understanding and more so that you guys are just coming at it from different angles.
When that happens, just ask her to explain her train of thought. It’s okay to say, “I think that’s an interesting take or connection, but I don’t fully understand it. Can you explain your train of thought so I can understand your viewpoint better?”
Thank you. I know I am in my early 20s and it should be the time to fool around. But I find jt selfish, the idea of seeing someone just for the sake of finding out and in doing so being intimate with them.
Especially if they really, really like you, and do give off the impression they are ready to commit.
I always told myself I would commit to someone I would 100% want a relationship with. And that a relationship is something you have with a person you, at least at the very moment, see marrying and spending the rest of your life with.
Which for a 21 year old overthinker is not a healthy idea. Though at the same time, if that is not what a relationship is like, what is the point? Just to find out and risk wasting both parties time and getting hurt?
18 huh? And you gave her a workbook? The captions write themselves.
How good of a job opportunity is it if you still cant even pay for a bachelor pad in the city…?
Yeah, I’m just worried that this is my issue bc I’ve been mistrusting in the past and I don’t want to ruin something over my anxiety. I’m worried if I open up this can of worms, it’ll lead me to do it again
Lol op don’t ask things you don’t want answers to he’s 50 and you’re 38 he’s going be blunt cause that’s part of being mature and the people roasting him I’m sure he knows he isn’t at his prime either but he probably doesn’t care
I come down here quite often and go to parties here often. She's been asking to come with but I've said no in the past because she wouldn't be used to it. On the day she asked, I finally said she could come and the first part of our day was good. Showed her around, met up with some of my people and attended the party. I never thought that she would've done that after everything I've told her about what not to do. I will no longer be taking her here.
I just gotta say I love all the comments roasting your husband and your decision to be together with him for 11 years and possibly more. It’s well-deserved.