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Maybe he just isn’t into going out. I read your comments saying it’s been like this for years to me it’s sounds like you didn’t realize this was your BF personality he is not a fan of going to parties. A lot of us just don’t enjoy parties while some do.
Wow thank you I never thought about it that way. I saw it as him looking out for my emotional wellbeing. Why would someone act that way? Like what would they gain from knowing my private business like that. Do you think he’s just really nosy? Ugh
This is so insane. I hope you can step back from him and realize all the ways this isn’t ok. You and his best friend are enabling this behaviour by continuing to help him. Why would he pay you back? He can just gaslight you and play to your guilt and never have to. It also sounds like his extremely strange behaviour is drugs.
I cannot believe the amount of bullcrap that girl is spewing, YOU not having the same commitment, yeah no shit, Sherlock. His or your kind of commitment is the true kind OP, not whatever she thinks is commitment. It's honorable of you OP, wanting to try and salvage an un-salvagable relationship. She's already destroyed the trust, and is now only destroying it further.
You deserve better. Also she saw what he was doing and was ok with it, and even cut out you and anyone who showed her friends true colours. You deserve someone who will stand up for you, but more than that, someone who would not have ket that happen in the first place and if it did, would choose you every time!
You shouldn't have to defend yourself for being bullied and made to feel less than.
She has actually done you a favour here. Also, she is isolating herself and cutting off anyone who challenges her friend. That is super creepy and weird.
They seem to have a very unhealthy relationship, and seem to be toxic individuals, not just him, but her too.
Good luck, and know that it shouldn't be this hard to have a partner that is actually a partner.
Got it. When a woman does something I like, DO NOT ENCOURAGE HER.
Despite being trained to do so by every woman in my life.
Shady af!!! ALL OF IT.
I whole heartedly agree
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Mentioned some type of event that only allows over 25s to admitted in and tell him you want to go with him and gauge his reaction lol
Maybe he just isn’t into going out. I read your comments saying it’s been like this for years to me it’s sounds like you didn’t realize this was your BF personality he is not a fan of going to parties. A lot of us just don’t enjoy parties while some do.
Try to block? You don’t respond. If he keeps it up report it to police. If you keep contacting me I will be forced to file a police report. One text.
Wow thank you I never thought about it that way. I saw it as him looking out for my emotional wellbeing. Why would someone act that way? Like what would they gain from knowing my private business like that. Do you think he’s just really nosy? Ugh
Having a traditional Indian wedding in India and a Western wedding in the US is very common.
That she is willing to leave you over this is a red flag to me.
I agree but just seeing if there was a throw away comment that she took as a green light.
That's a highly cynical and narrow way of looking at dating.
A better one would be, We're all looking for somebody we can live with. Finding that person involves a lot of discovering whom we can't live with.
Wise people don't stick at Stage One for ten years.
You leave.
You tell her that she is crazy.
Then you make sure that all your friends and her family (if you know any) know exactly why you broke up.
Anyone
This is so insane. I hope you can step back from him and realize all the ways this isn’t ok. You and his best friend are enabling this behaviour by continuing to help him. Why would he pay you back? He can just gaslight you and play to your guilt and never have to. It also sounds like his extremely strange behaviour is drugs.
I cannot believe the amount of bullcrap that girl is spewing, YOU not having the same commitment, yeah no shit, Sherlock. His or your kind of commitment is the true kind OP, not whatever she thinks is commitment. It's honorable of you OP, wanting to try and salvage an un-salvagable relationship. She's already destroyed the trust, and is now only destroying it further.
You deserve better. Also she saw what he was doing and was ok with it, and even cut out you and anyone who showed her friends true colours. You deserve someone who will stand up for you, but more than that, someone who would not have ket that happen in the first place and if it did, would choose you every time!
You shouldn't have to defend yourself for being bullied and made to feel less than.
She has actually done you a favour here. Also, she is isolating herself and cutting off anyone who challenges her friend. That is super creepy and weird.
They seem to have a very unhealthy relationship, and seem to be toxic individuals, not just him, but her too.
Good luck, and know that it shouldn't be this hard to have a partner that is actually a partner.