…recently my girlfriend has decided to stop taking her birth control. …she just decided that we weren’t going to have sex at all until we were married, …she doesn’t want to have sex. However, we recently came to a compromise that she would initiate once a month.
So she doesn’t want sex. Why would she initiate something she doesn’t want?
So you plan to have sex with no birth control? You think that is wise?
The “bigger picture” you’re looking for isn’t worth focusing on. You two are broken up. You clearly have issues that need to be addressed so I hope you’re doing so.
He moved on. You moved on. Put those in quotes since neither of you actually did. But for whatever reason you remained in contact.
So now, this guy who’s been in a joke of a relationship is mad at you for living your life? Sucks to be him. Don’t apologize for that.
But the thing is, he said he’s done. I doubt that’s the truth but it’s honestly the best thing for you. You’re not right for each other. You need to focus on yourself and let him go. Good luck.
If it's any consolation, occasionally people seem to have a moment of gnosis where they think, “Wowee! It turns out that the woman getting raped on camera was treated even worse than a McDonald's employee!” Though even that is startlingly uncommon.
I think it is absolutely normal for a woman who is uncomfortable reducing herself to a sex object to feel like she is not “enough” for a man who regularly consumes porn, and to start having cognitive dissonance about occasionally playing that role but simultaneously being the one he respects. I'm not really interested in arguing about this, just letting anyone reading this know that you're not crazy and that you do have a right to not only enforce this boundary but find someone who at least has the same moral framework as you.
You can't let your emotions rule you how you feel and how you act. children are ruled by their emotions and act on them. as a grown woman give yourself time to process your emotions if you need to be alone do so if you just need your husband to be with you call him and tell him you need him.
attacking and acting on your emotions is not healthy mature thing to do.
There’s 2 explanations here. Your husband either is a controlling and manipulative person, or there is something else going on and he’s looking for a way out. Either way it’s bad news.
Ig the concern is hurting her & compromising a friendship. Sometimes the messenger does get shot. Still, she needs to tell her friend, just take a day to think about the most compassionate way. & always get the evidence ready.
Things I’ve seen on Reddit at 5am this morning: walmart lady wearing no pants and a thong over a diaper, an update to the r/confessions post about someone’s husband having jars of his diarrhea, and now this person questioning if it’s weird that their dad is giving them hickies.
But she makes it very clear that he is extremely controlling and possessive of her in general. He doesn’t have her back; he’s angry someone messed with his property.
You might want to consider therapy instead of pushing people away. You can learn and grow from your mistakes.
Really wishing you the best OP ♥️
What the fuck?
…recently my girlfriend has decided to stop taking her birth control. …she just decided that we weren’t going to have sex at all until we were married, …she doesn’t want to have sex. However, we recently came to a compromise that she would initiate once a month.
So she doesn’t want sex. Why would she initiate something she doesn’t want?
So you plan to have sex with no birth control? You think that is wise?
The “bigger picture” you’re looking for isn’t worth focusing on. You two are broken up. You clearly have issues that need to be addressed so I hope you’re doing so.
He moved on. You moved on. Put those in quotes since neither of you actually did. But for whatever reason you remained in contact.
So now, this guy who’s been in a joke of a relationship is mad at you for living your life? Sucks to be him. Don’t apologize for that.
But the thing is, he said he’s done. I doubt that’s the truth but it’s honestly the best thing for you. You’re not right for each other. You need to focus on yourself and let him go. Good luck.
Thanks for your answer, do you mind explaining why do you think it's a manipulation tactic?
If it's any consolation, occasionally people seem to have a moment of gnosis where they think, “Wowee! It turns out that the woman getting raped on camera was treated even worse than a McDonald's employee!” Though even that is startlingly uncommon.
I think it is absolutely normal for a woman who is uncomfortable reducing herself to a sex object to feel like she is not “enough” for a man who regularly consumes porn, and to start having cognitive dissonance about occasionally playing that role but simultaneously being the one he respects. I'm not really interested in arguing about this, just letting anyone reading this know that you're not crazy and that you do have a right to not only enforce this boundary but find someone who at least has the same moral framework as you.
You can't let your emotions rule you how you feel and how you act. children are ruled by their emotions and act on them. as a grown woman give yourself time to process your emotions if you need to be alone do so if you just need your husband to be with you call him and tell him you need him.
attacking and acting on your emotions is not healthy mature thing to do.
There’s 2 explanations here. Your husband either is a controlling and manipulative person, or there is something else going on and he’s looking for a way out. Either way it’s bad news.
No. He had a reason. Being a complete asshole and idiot. No excuse. Kick him to the curb before he keeps doing it.
Ig the concern is hurting her & compromising a friendship. Sometimes the messenger does get shot. Still, she needs to tell her friend, just take a day to think about the most compassionate way. & always get the evidence ready.
Things I’ve seen on Reddit at 5am this morning: walmart lady wearing no pants and a thong over a diaper, an update to the r/confessions post about someone’s husband having jars of his diarrhea, and now this person questioning if it’s weird that their dad is giving them hickies.
Good morning!
But she makes it very clear that he is extremely controlling and possessive of her in general. He doesn’t have her back; he’s angry someone messed with his property.
Be upfront. Something like: I like you, I’d like to date you, like a couple , not just FWB, like monogamous .