This doesn’t sound promising. She’s made it clear she’s not willing to do the work to be what you think of as a family. You seem willing to compromise by living in 2 places so she doesn’t have to be bothered with your kid then she raises the bar by wishing you and your ex never had her (I don’t know what else to think she meant by her comment). Unless your daughter has serious behavioral issues, your partner seems to be very uncompromising and wants everything her way. I think willingness to be reasonable is key to a happy and successful partnership and I’m not getting that vibe here.
Being nice (agreeable) is only one aspect that can make someone likable. There also is competency, empathy, openness, integrity, compassion,… and then there’s things that can make you dislike a person, the reverse of the above, incompetent, invalidating, rigid, inconsistent, judgmental.
Maybe try to look for the likable characteristics and ignore or address the non likable things about her. But honestly, it’s okay to not like someone. Of course don’t be rude, but not everyone is going to be your cup of tea and that’s ok.
I have a habit of calling her derogatory slurs a lot, but only when it doesn't get across to her what I am trying to explain. This leads to the situation heating up and some to and fro swearing at each other.
That's why it's important to talk with someone about these things. And at the end of the day it's her body and she doesn't need his permission to get an abortion if she wanted one, he just may not be happy about it. Communication is key, and if she decides for herself that this is a dealbreaker that's fine too.
Lamo “I don’t want a certain woman around my man “ isn’t it enough?! Does he have any deadly diseases and and she is one of very few experts in that case?! Nope . She is a therapist. The most common thing to find in us. He can definitely survive without her and find sb else.
This doesn’t sound promising. She’s made it clear she’s not willing to do the work to be what you think of as a family. You seem willing to compromise by living in 2 places so she doesn’t have to be bothered with your kid then she raises the bar by wishing you and your ex never had her (I don’t know what else to think she meant by her comment). Unless your daughter has serious behavioral issues, your partner seems to be very uncompromising and wants everything her way. I think willingness to be reasonable is key to a happy and successful partnership and I’m not getting that vibe here.
Why do you feel it should be that way I guess is a good question to start. What was your childhood like?
I'm so sorry, but you'll be better now, because you deserve better. Focus on yourself! Sending hugs.
Being nice (agreeable) is only one aspect that can make someone likable. There also is competency, empathy, openness, integrity, compassion,… and then there’s things that can make you dislike a person, the reverse of the above, incompetent, invalidating, rigid, inconsistent, judgmental.
Maybe try to look for the likable characteristics and ignore or address the non likable things about her. But honestly, it’s okay to not like someone. Of course don’t be rude, but not everyone is going to be your cup of tea and that’s ok.
I have a habit of calling her derogatory slurs a lot, but only when it doesn't get across to her what I am trying to explain. This leads to the situation heating up and some to and fro swearing at each other.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
He sounds guilty
That's why it's important to talk with someone about these things. And at the end of the day it's her body and she doesn't need his permission to get an abortion if she wanted one, he just may not be happy about it. Communication is key, and if she decides for herself that this is a dealbreaker that's fine too.
Yeahhhh that's a red flag
Weed is mentally addictive. It make people okay with doing nothing that's why there's the stereotype of the stoner still living in moms basement
Does he sniffle a lot or stay up really late? Clench his jaws a lot?
Those are symptoms of doing coke. He might be lying to u about his use in general
If he doesn't want to stop, u have to decide if it's important enough for u to stop dating him
Lamo “I don’t want a certain woman around my man “ isn’t it enough?! Does he have any deadly diseases and and she is one of very few experts in that case?! Nope . She is a therapist. The most common thing to find in us. He can definitely survive without her and find sb else.
Sorry but he probably cheated on you
That's the problem. My feelings for my boyfriend haven't changed at all. I just developed a new crush on top of that. But thanks for the advice.
Her liking it doesn’t make his dick less broke and flaccid
I’d make sure to insulate myself from the fallout before I did anything. Graduate and move out then tell your dad