just because there nothing on text means shit….. she could have another device or they talk about that kinda stuff instead of messaging. tbh if she’s not sleeping with him yet she probably will soon. seek legal advice hire a pi if you have. she will slip up eventually, just depends how long you can be misrible for…… i mean gonna be honest i would of already packed my shit up one last thing you could try writing down how much time she spends with him compared to you, include tve texing ect. this might make her thing but it’s doubtful as she sounds to self-centred.
You don’t and no matter how mature you may think you are he still will view you as a kid because that’s what you have been during the entire time you have known each other.
Let it go and move on. There are plenty of decent guys out there so take advantage but leave him be. He has given you his answer and you should respect it.
Give him time. With a first child, sometimes you don’t realize how badly you hope for a specific gender.
I was shocked at how much I wanted a girl. I tried not to focus on it because I didn’t want to be “disappointed” if we were having a boy because I was so desperate to have a child (infertility struggles). We had a girl, but if we’d had a boy I’m sure he would have been the joy of my life.
Let him get over his dreams of teaching his son boy things and settle into “girl dad”
Give yourself time to grieve and then focus on yourself. Do you get any support for reintegration?
As for starting a new relationship, lots of people end up single in later life and find love again. Different circumstances but people have 10, 20, 30+ year relationships end and then have the date again. There is lots of information available online.
I’ve tried to leave a lot but always told reasons why I can’t
He’ll say whatever he needs to and undermine you in however ways he can if it means you’ll stay and keep putting up with his crap. But you don’t need his approval or permission to leave. All you need to do is pack your shit and leave. Done. And then enjoy your new found peace and freedom.
If we are playing fair, she also has the same change to become an abuser too. Honestly I don’t blame you for wanting to break up. That would feel like a huge violation on her part if I were you and she’s being super insulting. It’s not like you just started dating a year ago like her friend. You guys have had years and years to get to know each other. I think she needs to go to therapy to learn how to process this second hand shit. I don’t feel like you should prove anything to her, you’ve already done that by being a good partner for 5 years.
Why do you think he isn’t dating women his own age? It’s because they can tell from the get go that he’s a soon to be 40 yr old loser. Has he also told you how mature you are for your age? The fact that you are probably more compatible with his kids makes it super cringe.
She’s entitled af, and disrespectful and has no regard for you or your wellbeing. All she is interested in is having nice things and an easy life. Its all me me me.
A marriage should be two people raising each other up. Honestly sounds like she’s just a massive weight around your ankles. Tell her to step the fuck up, imagine how much shitter her life would be if you weren’t doing so much for her, and tell her you’re taking time for you.
Those office visits? She cant say a damn thing. Working from home? You’re busy unless you say otherwise? Weekends? Go play golf with friends on a Saturday or Sunday.
You do more than enough to justify having respect, and time to yourself.
I feel the exact same way in my relationship. 🙁 I have zero self esteem these days.
just because there nothing on text means shit….. she could have another device or they talk about that kinda stuff instead of messaging. tbh if she’s not sleeping with him yet she probably will soon. seek legal advice hire a pi if you have. she will slip up eventually, just depends how long you can be misrible for…… i mean gonna be honest i would of already packed my shit up one last thing you could try writing down how much time she spends with him compared to you, include tve texing ect. this might make her thing but it’s doubtful as she sounds to self-centred.
They’re my age
You don’t and no matter how mature you may think you are he still will view you as a kid because that’s what you have been during the entire time you have known each other.
Let it go and move on. There are plenty of decent guys out there so take advantage but leave him be. He has given you his answer and you should respect it.
Give him time. With a first child, sometimes you don’t realize how badly you hope for a specific gender.
I was shocked at how much I wanted a girl. I tried not to focus on it because I didn’t want to be “disappointed” if we were having a boy because I was so desperate to have a child (infertility struggles). We had a girl, but if we’d had a boy I’m sure he would have been the joy of my life.
Let him get over his dreams of teaching his son boy things and settle into “girl dad”
Give yourself time to grieve and then focus on yourself. Do you get any support for reintegration?
As for starting a new relationship, lots of people end up single in later life and find love again. Different circumstances but people have 10, 20, 30+ year relationships end and then have the date again. There is lots of information available online.
I’ve tried to leave a lot but always told reasons why I can’t
He’ll say whatever he needs to and undermine you in however ways he can if it means you’ll stay and keep putting up with his crap. But you don’t need his approval or permission to leave. All you need to do is pack your shit and leave. Done. And then enjoy your new found peace and freedom.
If we are playing fair, she also has the same change to become an abuser too. Honestly I don’t blame you for wanting to break up. That would feel like a huge violation on her part if I were you and she’s being super insulting. It’s not like you just started dating a year ago like her friend. You guys have had years and years to get to know each other. I think she needs to go to therapy to learn how to process this second hand shit. I don’t feel like you should prove anything to her, you’ve already done that by being a good partner for 5 years.
Go to the dentist get a cleaning and ask for advice
Why do you think he isn’t dating women his own age? It’s because they can tell from the get go that he’s a soon to be 40 yr old loser. Has he also told you how mature you are for your age? The fact that you are probably more compatible with his kids makes it super cringe.
Don’t marry someone based on a simple Reddit comment from someone that doesn’t know either of you
Still have not told me how this is an issue of progressiveness.
Seeing how I haven’t given any anecdotal evidence than yes it is indeed from studies done. Feel free to look some of them up!
Just hire professional staff to escort any and all clowns off the property.
And if your fiancée puts her psycho brother over you on your wedding day, that sets a bad tone for the whole marriage.
OP jesus dude you need to be straight with her.
She’s entitled af, and disrespectful and has no regard for you or your wellbeing. All she is interested in is having nice things and an easy life. Its all me me me.
A marriage should be two people raising each other up. Honestly sounds like she’s just a massive weight around your ankles. Tell her to step the fuck up, imagine how much shitter her life would be if you weren’t doing so much for her, and tell her you’re taking time for you.
Those office visits? She cant say a damn thing. Working from home? You’re busy unless you say otherwise? Weekends? Go play golf with friends on a Saturday or Sunday.
You do more than enough to justify having respect, and time to yourself.
I’ve had partner’s family’s not like me, which is hard as it is. This would be a dealbreaker for me personally. How he handled is speaks volumes.