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Date: November 2, 2022
Hey thanks for your response, I have said this to him multiple times and it usually works for a day and then straight back to normal. I just feel so defeated having to keep reiterating these requests I honestly just feel like breaking up with him but feel like it's not a good enough reason, I have tried to set boundaries and asked so many times for some space and even tried to compromise by proposing that on every third day they don't come over so I can have a break but it happens once and then back to every day. Legit at my wits end.
Thank you for your advice, it really helps to have some kind of basic timeline. After the discussion she and I just had, I'm pretty sure it's time for me to move on.
That said. As much as I appreciate your advice, I don't like the tone you're taking about her. It doesn't do any good to disparage someone like that. I'm pretty sure this relationship is over, but there is no part of me that's ready for hate.
Red flag. This person should be dating in their own age group, if it’s hard for them, there’s something wrong (with them). Be careful op, you could be getting groomed.
Same, i was 17 (18 in a couple months) & he was 30.
You fortunately have some biological time. So to speak.
Enjoy your time together, but make it clear you want kids. Give the relationship a break clause; should you both not agree in future.
It could also be a way of her wanting out of the relationship, but not wanting to be the person to break up.
Think of it from SIL’s end. It sounds like OP made a scene at her family’s wedding. She’s said some things about her that may or may not be justified. Now she’s inviting her to an event to reach out. She doesn’t know OP isn’t drinking anymore. Personally if someone I knew got pass out drunk at my sister’s wedding, I would talk about them
Did he cheat? Or was this bad communication?
Why did you have a kid with this creep?
Nor does it owe you a brain.
Should I leave him.
Maybe. I read your post kind of fast, but it seems that you're making a case for moving on, and that's probably what you should do.
But there's also something bittersweet here, where he's probably a better person now – after knowing you for 6 years. And in some odd way, maybe the experience of knowing him will somehow help you find, and keep, a relationship that will work better for you.
If you break up now, do you think he can be a friend sometime in the future?
BF is missing the point that is your home and you don't want kids.
Really it is time to break up, you getting involved with someone who is a parent was a mistake to begin with. Don't date people with kids!!
Good. I hope you never have to see him again tbh. Lecherous perv that he is.
Even if he was cheating, at least she wouldn’t be tricked into raising another woman’s children. That’s the whole thing you’re clearly missing.
Yeah it doesnt make sense, did something happen around the time she became like this? Idk family in the hospital, ill children…
Love is a lot more nuanced than just being solely physically, sexually, or emotionally attracted to someone. No one else is capable of telling me how I feel or why I feel it. It is my brain, my body, and my emotions.
Remember honey, you came into my comments trying to start a fight.
I did
How’s your head game?
Many women cannot climax solely from PIV intercourse.
Being good with your tongue goes a long way.
This really is more of personal morals rather than anything. As a mom, I personally don't tolerate associating with people who mistreat their kids. Because of my personal experiences and cuz I generally don't feel there's enough people advocating for kids. This goes for deadbeat dads and moms. So really you don't need other people's perspective because the decision is personal.
I'd suggest putting yourself in his ex's (and son's) situation: you're trying to get your child's father to be an active parent and show your child the love and attention they deserve. You find out that he's distracting himself with a strictly sexual relationship with a woman who's also a single mom (who should understand how hard this is). He's putting more effort into being a fwb than he is being a father. How would you feel?
How are the comments racist?
As a society, we need to stop using anxieties as an excuse for being rude. It’s gotten ridiculous. And I say this as a woman who has always struggled with GAD and OCD- and I get absolutely mental at the thought of guests “dropping in” when I am unprepared. But sometimes, things are just uncomfortable. That’s freaking life.
But this is ridiculous. It would be one thing if your Mom was constantly dropping by, disrupting your day, expecting you to entertain. This was obviously a fairly singular situation. And you and your wife are really over reacting. If you don’t see that after the responses you’re getting here and just keep making excuses as I’ve seen in your other comments, I don’t know what to tell you.
I’m another post you said he was 35 and you were 35. Can you teach me your time traveling ways?
If you don't view this as a red flag waving in the wind, you're asking for trouble.
People need to live within her means. She wants to live beyond hers. And on top of that she wants you to fund it.
I would tell her that you don't think it's a good fit and move on.
Seriously she is a gold digger.
Well said. The right relationship will make OP want to brag about him to everyone she knows.
This guy sounds like he doesn't respect her. OP – respect yourself by leaving him and finding someone who does.
I'm 24 and an 18 year old girl is already too young for me. Ffs my little sister is 18. She's immature as fuck. As is the overwhelming majority of 18 years olds…..because they're 18.
Why did you feel the need to check her phone? Because I would guess that, either consciously or subconsciously, she gave you a reason to be suspicious if you genuinely weren’t at all before.
You can’t just avoid a fight, you can’t control her reaction. If she reacts poorly, you’d have to tell her that it’s “okay” to deescalate her, which it’s clearly not.
Have some boundaries and some self respect. What she’s been doing is inappropriate and terribly disrespectful to your relationship at best, and cheating at worst. If she reacts poorly, it’ll be a fight. That’s not your fault.
It's not about lack of confidence, time or even lack of knowledge. It's a lack of care. You don't ignore your partners pleasure because you lack confidence, you don't stick your dick in, cum and then roll over because you don't know how to make your partner orgasm. If he tried and failed, that's one thing. If he had bad technique he could learn, he would want to.
There are a million excuses, but really only one explanation. He doesn't want to. He is using incompetence to get away with it and when you are calling him out on it, he makes you feel bad. He has been getting away with it for years. Getting him to change now is going to be difficult. He is quite comfortable.
I don't know many women who have been able to fix this, but obviously, it's not impossible. But it starts with you putting your foot down. Don't put up with unsatisfying sex for his sake. You need to rewire your sex life completely. Stop having piv sex all together, and focus on petting and oral for a while, both ways. If he complains and tries to change things to the way they were, it just means he doesn't care at all. A loving partner wants to make you cum, enthusiastically.
Nooo he’s not like that trust me
Kinda cultural thing like a dowry but the money also goes to wedding and stuffs
How long have you dated and how long do you plan to keep waiting for this to figure itself out?
Learn this lesson early in life . When you aren't wanted , leave . When you are treated like shit , leave . When your gut tells you that something isn't right , leave . When you hear , with your OWN EARS , someone talking about the shit that you heard , LEAVE . Don't talk about it or seek “closure” or understanding . WALK . THE. FUCK. AWAY! If you want to do it right , DO NOT TALK TO HER at ALL . People who fuck you over want to talk so that they feel better about what they did . NEVER give a shitbag that pleasure , or the friends that they will send to talk to you . Learn this early in life and you will be a much happier person .
Cheating isn't uncommon, getting pregnant isn't always hard, people are horrible.
Yeah reddit checks out.
Wtf kind of boyfriend tells you he's sad because he misses his ex? Yuck. You deserve better sis
It is ok give up on your husband
I’d leave it. She will see for herself that the boss shouldn’t be trusted.
It’s called abuse.
You’re in your bounds to say you’re uncomfortable to her buuut she’s also in her bounds to dump you for being jealous over platonic affection. I think you’d be better off addressing those issues within yourself instead of projecting them onto her perfectly normal behavior.
You could ask questions before making assumptions. As I said in a previous comment, S was the main person speaking and having issues. A only followed along and made a face with her, as well as she didn’t speak up when she could have. When we got back to S’s house, A went home but I had to grab my purse from inside which is why only S and I talked.
I would not let him meet your kids. Didn't he want nothing to do with them? What happened to that. If he insists get a lawyer print out the texts saying he wants nothing to do with them.
Depending on the jurisdiction, screenshots are not valid proof, or at least important proof, unless they are “validated”. That's because images can be photoshopped to say whatever they want it to say, so many judges are refusing to accept just a screenshot without any form of validation.
As for it looking bad to her, it's her constitutional right to “remain silent” aka she doesn't have to give them proof they can use against her. This is not a criminal case, so 'destroying' 'proof' isn't an offense.
One thing about law: The one making the accusations, be it in criminal or civil lawsuits, is the one who has to prove their claim. If they claim she did something with bad intentions, it's up to them to prove it.
BESIDES, text messages are not enough to have paternity proof, they have to get a DNA test. Thing is, to accept a paternity lawsuit, the judge needs probable cause that the plaintiff may be the father, otherwise any man could request a DNA to any kid. And the messages they exchanged is probable cause. If she hadn't replied confirming, odds are he wouldn't have any proof of their relationship, and the judge could dismiss it.
But I think the best deterrent in this case would be to demand child support. If ex is not on the BC, he doesn't have parental rights to demand visitation or custody. But the moment he acquires parental rights, he also acquires the obligation to pay child support.
Unlike what other people have said, child support comes before visitations, especially in a case where the father is estranged. Child support presumes it's used for food, which is an urgent matter. Visitations, especially with kids who've never met the guy, can be postponed if she has a good lawyer.
Yes. Yes, it is. She misrepresents her character by omitting her past behavior. She lied to him.
Yeah, the bigger issue is what you're describing is child abuse/neglect. She is likely downplaying it because she grew up like this and is embarrassed and either doesn't know it's not okay or just doesn't want to get anyone in trouble. This is a shitty position for you to be in, I'm really sorry. I think you need to report this to a local authority.
I'm much older than you, by over 30 years, a different generation. So, YMMV.
My last SO did not really know how to cook. So, I did most of the cooking, food prep, etc. He cleaned the kitchen up after and did the dishes whenever I cooked. He paid for the takeaway meals. That worked for us.
I cannot blame you for not being on-board with constantly cooking. It's hard when you work full-time with a demanding career.
Is your SO willing to learn how to cook? If not, he needs to put in compensatory labor in the food department to make up for that.
Sit down and take a hard look at your monthly food costs. Do you have the time to make up menus and matching grocery lists? Have you considered using a meal prep service like Blue Apron or Hello Fresh, for example? Another option is to cook larger quantities and freeze portions for a quick meal prep later. Cook two chickens instead of one. Strip off the cooked meat and freeze portions of it so later ypu can add it to pasta, make chicken salad sandwiches, etc. If you make a pasta sauce, double or triple the amount and freeze what's left so ypu can quickly cook some pasta, thaw the sauce, and have a quick dinner. Since you are a vegan and I haven't been on a vegetarian diet for many years, this doesn't exactly apply but I hope you get the idea.
Since both of you work and both of you eat, you need to split food costs 50-50, for the most part. And figure out an equitable division of kitchen labor. It's what adults do. Should your SO balk at this idea, that gives you valuable information about the future viability of the relationship.
Good luck.
He’s taking you for granted to a whole new level.
It may be difficult but you leaving him may be the catalyst that forces him to get his life back on track. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom and losing everything for someone to see what their addiction is doing and finally get the strength to change.
I can’t say that will happen, he may spiral even more. If that is the case, please know it is absolutely not your fault. You need to look out for yourself, as of now his addiction is more important to him than you, and you deserve so much more than that.