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Date: January 12, 2023
Couples counseling ASAP. This sounds like a trauma response on his part– do not make this bigger or take this more personally than you need to right now. Is his ultimatum absolutely awful? Certainly, and there's an enormous amount of accountability he'll need to take down the line– but I'd be inclined to believe that this has a lot to do with his developmental history, unresolved trauma, bottled up emotions, and the lack of permission for men in general to not be ok. If he's willing to go to a professional to talk this through with you present, do that. Your marriage may genuinely be salvageable. Trauma fucks people up, and that makes them do fucky things. I want to validate that this is an incredibly hard thing to offer given what he's proposed to you, and the position that you're in as a result, but if you have the headspace to recognize how little sense his behavior makes, you might also have the headspace to witness this behavior compassionately.
If he declines therapy, and maintains the ultimatum, there's no easy answer. You'll resent him for the ultimatum, and for whatever you choose: you'll hate him if you terminate when you don't want to for yourself, and you'll resent him for staying even if he does should he refuse to talk it through in a safe space with a professional. Absent therapy, either way, I'd assume this is headed for divorce. If he declines therapy, set the appointment regardless, and say “I am going on this day, you can join me or not”. They often wind up going.
I'm so sorry you're here OP.
My ex didn’t get her license till 40. Almost two years after our divorce. Did almost everything to try and get her to drive. Nope. Refused every time. Was just one of our issues.
Driving and picking up can be because of many things. One car. Time. Other responsibilities that require a car. Medical. But I agree 100% that she should work to get her license ASAP. Huge step to being independent. And lessens the stress on others.
And budget.
Take your child to their pediatrician and ask for a drug test. That way you’ll have hard evidence of what he’s done. See if you can get him to acknowledge it over text as well.
What a piece of shit. You are doing the right thing by protecting your kid and leaving.
This has been worth 50+ downvotes
What does he do to make sure you’re sexually fulfilled?
Seriously, make a list for yourself of the times in the last 2 weeks that he did anything in bed that was specifically tailored to your interests, not his.
Esther Perel and Caylee Cresta have both said very interesting things on the topic of men wanting sex with their partners without any of the lead up or background work. Well worth a listen / read!