Absolutely not being unreasonable. You’re friend was VERY remiss in not letting you all know that he is not keeping your confidence and that your communications will weren’t private. The gf sounds like a hot mess, tbh. It’s sucks being cheated in but sounds like she has not dealt with her trauma. But to say you’re all jealous, just sounds like she’s a lot. Good luck to them, he has a decision to make. I wouldn’t be ok with know someone. I do not really know and did choose to engage with was reading my private communications. He chose to allow this, you are all choosing to say no.
He does have a right to say no. Simply put blood is frankly a turn off. Maybe it doesn't feel the same. Its his right to refuse sex and to not be guilted into it if he feels uncomfortable. Yes its a fact of life but no one should be forced/coerced/guilted/made to feel bad if they prefer sex a certain way/time. You can't force him to have sex with you on your period so that you feel “nice”. He has a boundary regarding sex, just as you may have your own boundaries. That should be respected. Imagine him pressuring you into doing something like… for arguments sake, anal, when you were uncomfortable with it? And he turned around and said you make him feel “unwanted” if you didn't do it for him?
In this situation, OP, this commenter's brother's wife is doing a disservice not getting her masters. A BA in social work is nothing, to do real work at a big institution, you need a masters, and she could do more for the group she prefers to work with if she got a masters. The problem is that now she has a husband who has taken responsibility for the debt, left his passion, and is propping up her avoidance.
You can easily avoid this issue by encouraging her to just take the leap to a masters. Lots of jobs are like this: the BA is just the cover charge, you need a masters+ to actually party.
Absolutely not being unreasonable. You’re friend was VERY remiss in not letting you all know that he is not keeping your confidence and that your communications will weren’t private. The gf sounds like a hot mess, tbh. It’s sucks being cheated in but sounds like she has not dealt with her trauma. But to say you’re all jealous, just sounds like she’s a lot. Good luck to them, he has a decision to make. I wouldn’t be ok with know someone. I do not really know and did choose to engage with was reading my private communications. He chose to allow this, you are all choosing to say no.
Down vote smh…….such stupidity
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Life's too short to play stupid games, those are my thoughts.
He does have a right to say no. Simply put blood is frankly a turn off. Maybe it doesn't feel the same. Its his right to refuse sex and to not be guilted into it if he feels uncomfortable. Yes its a fact of life but no one should be forced/coerced/guilted/made to feel bad if they prefer sex a certain way/time. You can't force him to have sex with you on your period so that you feel “nice”. He has a boundary regarding sex, just as you may have your own boundaries. That should be respected. Imagine him pressuring you into doing something like… for arguments sake, anal, when you were uncomfortable with it? And he turned around and said you make him feel “unwanted” if you didn't do it for him?
I'm not disagreeing at all, I'm saying that it's very easy to just say “take the pill” when you're not counting every penny.
Mmmmm I guarantee you his feelings won't be hurt if you gently wipe that off with a warm washcloth before your mouth goes on it.
Lol please point out where OP accused him of cheating. You’re clearly writing you’re own story in your head here
In this situation, OP, this commenter's brother's wife is doing a disservice not getting her masters. A BA in social work is nothing, to do real work at a big institution, you need a masters, and she could do more for the group she prefers to work with if she got a masters. The problem is that now she has a husband who has taken responsibility for the debt, left his passion, and is propping up her avoidance.
You can easily avoid this issue by encouraging her to just take the leap to a masters. Lots of jobs are like this: the BA is just the cover charge, you need a masters+ to actually party.