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great point… I wondered if he knew about this to begin with. She went from spending all her time with him to coming home from my house to theirs at odd hours. Last week she told me he “had her keys” and that she had to be back at a certain time…
She flaked on us “grabbing coffee” which felt odd to begin with because she normally would just come over or we’d do something bigger than something that sounds causal. Not so sure anymore…
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I appreciate the advice. I’ll deff talk about this… but I know that he’s the same way and again, would be incredibly upset if I did it to him lol. Thank you 🙂
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Wow. Your wife wants to sexually please you on your birthday and then make you a BLT. And now you post on reddit to complain about it? Even though you pretty much hurt your wife's feelings. You could of squeezed her boobies and said make me that sandwich baby and I will give you a good pounding after. First world problems at its finest.
Since your husband is German this could be a cultural misunderstanding. It's a common banter to compare to whom of the parents a child looks mostly alike. With an underhanded compliment that the kid looks way more like the other partner.
Don’t shift all the blame on OP. She is equally capable of initiating things, but chooses not to. If he gets rejected 99% of time time, no shit the effort put into foreplay is going to drop. He knows it’s not going anywhere, so he’s probably at the point of why bother. And sure you can come up with a myriad of other reasons to shift the blame to OP, but if the fiancée isn’t bringing any potential issues up, he can’t really do anything about it. Further how is he supposed to do anything “better” if he never gets the chance
I didnt say he would. In fact i agree with you that he is unlikely to be convicted but that his life can still be ruined just by the accusation without truth in it.
What's the use of scare mongering the poor dude?
Because he should be scared. His life can literally be destroyed here.
How does someone first marry a person that won’t have sex with them and then stay with them for 6 years? 6 years married and never had sex. This makes no sense to me.
Everyone in this thread is as insecure as your boyfriend, or possibly has just watched too much porn. It’s not 1890, living with roommates of another gender is completely normal. As someone else in the comments put it, with this mindset are bisexual people just supposed to live alone? I’m male and when I lived with roommates they were female about half the time. Never had any issues. Your boyfriend needs to calm down. If this guys your friend and you trust him it’s as likely to turn out fine as if you lived with just other women
Ummm, no, you don’t trust him. He’s a liar and emotionally abusive/manipulative. Not only has he cheated on you, he’s made you believe YOURE the one who has done something wrong here. Seriously, don’t waste another second on this fucking loser.
It's not really reasonable to make someone move who isn't ready, and I get your urgency. You said your mother wanted to move, right? Perhaps that’s where you need to focus your efforts; see what area she’s moving to, could you apply for jobs in that area? Build up a small portfolio in companies/businesses which align more with your interests. Is there something in education you’d like to pursue? It might make the mental load slightly easier if you’re taking active steps towards the goals you want, but. If your boyfriend isn’t interested in moving, that’s incompatibility and you need to have an honest discussion with yourself about what you want your future to look like. I hate, the “you’re so young card,” but you’re truly so young and it’s okay for some relationships not to work. There’s so much to experience ahead of you.
I'm curious why you automatically do everything? You don't need to tell him to do things but you also don't need to automatically assume that you should mother
This is so long for a 4 month relationship. Are you crazy for thinking this will work out, she’s a cheater and the long distance isn’t going to help you. Move on, this is suppose to be the honeymoon stage.
She kept this hidden from you, that is not a good way to start off any relationship. Now almost every guy had sex with her. They also have nudes of her, and the rest of the guys probably have those same pictures of her.
Now, every time she wants to hang out with them and your not around, Is she messing around with them, This will be in your mind forever. Every thought of when your with her the noises she makes during sex, all of them heard the same thing. Can you look in the mirror and say this is not going to bother you?
It would to most people, She didn't lie to you but she held back vital information for you to make a better judgement.
great point… I wondered if he knew about this to begin with. She went from spending all her time with him to coming home from my house to theirs at odd hours. Last week she told me he “had her keys” and that she had to be back at a certain time…
She flaked on us “grabbing coffee” which felt odd to begin with because she normally would just come over or we’d do something bigger than something that sounds causal. Not so sure anymore…
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Yes! Start women-splaining things to him. Jockstraps, getting hit in the balls, how men flirt or think ect
?? How beautiful is this
She a gender studies student by any chance?
You are tho, you are the cheating type. Own it
I have and trust me it doesn’t work
I appreciate the advice. I’ll deff talk about this… but I know that he’s the same way and again, would be incredibly upset if I did it to him lol. Thank you 🙂
You asking him to cut someone out of their lives, especially after JUST dating, isn't a healthy mindset. Neither is his reaction to it.
Just break up. This relationship isn't going to work.
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Wow. Your wife wants to sexually please you on your birthday and then make you a BLT. And now you post on reddit to complain about it? Even though you pretty much hurt your wife's feelings. You could of squeezed her boobies and said make me that sandwich baby and I will give you a good pounding after. First world problems at its finest.
She needs a night or day a week or at least every other week to herself. To do whatever she needs or wants to do.
I never said anything about pouncing ??
They aren't the type to backstab me. Maybe stab me in the front but not by surprise
Since your husband is German this could be a cultural misunderstanding. It's a common banter to compare to whom of the parents a child looks mostly alike. With an underhanded compliment that the kid looks way more like the other partner.
Don’t shift all the blame on OP. She is equally capable of initiating things, but chooses not to. If he gets rejected 99% of time time, no shit the effort put into foreplay is going to drop. He knows it’s not going anywhere, so he’s probably at the point of why bother. And sure you can come up with a myriad of other reasons to shift the blame to OP, but if the fiancée isn’t bringing any potential issues up, he can’t really do anything about it. Further how is he supposed to do anything “better” if he never gets the chance
“Rude and belittling” is code for “I'm an immature jerk who manipulates you and then gaslights you about it” .
Run far, run fast.
Buy he's not going to jail for 15 years
I didnt say he would. In fact i agree with you that he is unlikely to be convicted but that his life can still be ruined just by the accusation without truth in it.
What's the use of scare mongering the poor dude?
Because he should be scared. His life can literally be destroyed here.
How does someone first marry a person that won’t have sex with them and then stay with them for 6 years? 6 years married and never had sex. This makes no sense to me.
Except he lives at home. He might just be strange. Either way. Not worth the time.
My husband has this saying that “excuses are the skin of a reason stuffed with a lie.”
You deserve better than this. You sound like a smart, accomplished woman who needs a smart, accomplished man.
She threw 6 years away & didn’t care, so why should you? Why salvage a relationship that she ruined?
My brother in Christ you need to be more concerned here.
I think you need to just tell her you are not interested in being in a relationship with someone who’s more concerned with entertaining someone else.
Dude, come on, wake up and smell the coffee
Good thinking. Good luck!
There has only ever been one man in my life, yes every bf I've talked about is the same person.
Everyone in this thread is as insecure as your boyfriend, or possibly has just watched too much porn. It’s not 1890, living with roommates of another gender is completely normal. As someone else in the comments put it, with this mindset are bisexual people just supposed to live alone? I’m male and when I lived with roommates they were female about half the time. Never had any issues. Your boyfriend needs to calm down. If this guys your friend and you trust him it’s as likely to turn out fine as if you lived with just other women
Sounds like you are not really in a good position to be doing long distance relationships if seeing each other in person is a problem.
Ummm, no, you don’t trust him. He’s a liar and emotionally abusive/manipulative. Not only has he cheated on you, he’s made you believe YOURE the one who has done something wrong here. Seriously, don’t waste another second on this fucking loser.
3 of the 4 are now single or in the middle of divorce proceedings
Divorce proceedings…within 4 days. Sure, OP, that happened.
take the test yourself. lose the AH
“This is word for word the terrible things I said.” Agreed. I never buy these stories.
Amanda is an adult! If she doesn’t understand why you left, she is an entitled brat and is choosing anger for no reason.
It's not really reasonable to make someone move who isn't ready, and I get your urgency. You said your mother wanted to move, right? Perhaps that’s where you need to focus your efforts; see what area she’s moving to, could you apply for jobs in that area? Build up a small portfolio in companies/businesses which align more with your interests. Is there something in education you’d like to pursue? It might make the mental load slightly easier if you’re taking active steps towards the goals you want, but. If your boyfriend isn’t interested in moving, that’s incompatibility and you need to have an honest discussion with yourself about what you want your future to look like. I hate, the “you’re so young card,” but you’re truly so young and it’s okay for some relationships not to work. There’s so much to experience ahead of you.
OP, my best advice is to watch a YouTube video by Dr. Ramani. She’s a specialist on narcissism and toxic behavior.
She absolutely wants to do this, it's the only reason she brought it up.
I'm curious why you automatically do everything? You don't need to tell him to do things but you also don't need to automatically assume that you should mother
This is so long for a 4 month relationship. Are you crazy for thinking this will work out, she’s a cheater and the long distance isn’t going to help you. Move on, this is suppose to be the honeymoon stage.
Probably he’s not interested, ull just have to wait and see
OP,
She kept this hidden from you, that is not a good way to start off any relationship. Now almost every guy had sex with her. They also have nudes of her, and the rest of the guys probably have those same pictures of her.
Now, every time she wants to hang out with them and your not around, Is she messing around with them, This will be in your mind forever. Every thought of when your with her the noises she makes during sex, all of them heard the same thing. Can you look in the mirror and say this is not going to bother you?
It would to most people, She didn't lie to you but she held back vital information for you to make a better judgement.