Yep. If OP and this woman didn't go through the courts and make everything legit, there's a chance this woman could literally walk in and taken the child if she's on the birth certificate as bio mom. And a lot of cops won't stop her, they'll say it's a civil issue.
OP is getting a lot of bad advice from kids who haven't dealt with the ugly side of the court system.
I don’t know, though. I’m always criticized for being too nice, and I am far too prone to give someone the benefit of the doubt. But rape? I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who I knew raped someone I never met, who was a terrible person, decades ago. A dear friend, not very long ago? No way in hell I’d be in touch with that absolute POS.
The friend is distancing themselves from OP and the BF…..what more could you want from the friend? Crushes happen all the time even when we don’t want them too.
I agree. The relationship is terminal. He’s not enthusiastic about getting married, about OP, and serving excuses … for six years.
Time to put him in the rear view mirror. No need for exhaustive conversation bc it will elicit another round of flimsy excuses. Times up. He’s never going to commit other than the present situation
I would suggest professional help at this point. Yelling isn't productive. You can talk at normal volumes and express your feelings without raising your voice to some one.
If neither of you can remember these fights or sort out what you are even fighting about, I would say neither of you are really ready to be someone's partner.
I don’t think it really matters whether or not they are bots or escorts. Making a secret Snapchat accounts to message people to meet up. It’s a massive fucking red flag.
But, to answer your question, it’s absolutely fucking bullshit that he is messaging, but just to mess with it.
Could be worse. I had to get a restraining order against my ex when we separated.
Yep. If OP and this woman didn't go through the courts and make everything legit, there's a chance this woman could literally walk in and taken the child if she's on the birth certificate as bio mom. And a lot of cops won't stop her, they'll say it's a civil issue.
OP is getting a lot of bad advice from kids who haven't dealt with the ugly side of the court system.
i assume you had to ask her out, hit on her
Will def try this!
I don’t know, though. I’m always criticized for being too nice, and I am far too prone to give someone the benefit of the doubt. But rape? I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who I knew raped someone I never met, who was a terrible person, decades ago. A dear friend, not very long ago? No way in hell I’d be in touch with that absolute POS.
The friend is distancing themselves from OP and the BF…..what more could you want from the friend? Crushes happen all the time even when we don’t want them too.
I agree. The relationship is terminal. He’s not enthusiastic about getting married, about OP, and serving excuses … for six years.
Time to put him in the rear view mirror. No need for exhaustive conversation bc it will elicit another round of flimsy excuses. Times up. He’s never going to commit other than the present situation
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I would suggest professional help at this point. Yelling isn't productive. You can talk at normal volumes and express your feelings without raising your voice to some one.
If neither of you can remember these fights or sort out what you are even fighting about, I would say neither of you are really ready to be someone's partner.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
I don’t think it really matters whether or not they are bots or escorts. Making a secret Snapchat accounts to message people to meet up. It’s a massive fucking red flag.
But, to answer your question, it’s absolutely fucking bullshit that he is messaging, but just to mess with it.
It doesn't sound like he's going to change and it sounds like this is a dealbreaker for you