It will not go well and her parents will be justifiably horrified. Since you and her dad have overlapping networks and social circles it will probably also ruin your reputation, as it should. Even if your love is pure and your intentions are good, is still embarrassing that you think you have any chance of being the “one true love” to a twenty year old. If she marries you she'll just leave once she grows up.
I say this kindly, but firmly, my friend- end contact with this person and move on.
You don't actually benefit from this “relationship” at all. It's basically not real. Opposite ends of the world. Love-bombing you to hell from the start. You're not able to meet or see each other for years. She's full of drama, depression, sad stories/histories, and you are her couch therapist. She love-bombs you, you soak it all up, and want to be the hero to lift her up… with your short, 30-inch arms, from 9000 miles away.
I don't want to use the term “puppy love” because it may come across as disrespectful, but that's essentially what this boils down to. You have the equivalent of an NFT girlfriend, an online person that you've never physically met and won't, but have lofty dreams together as she puts you through emotional hell, using the power of an electronic screen.
You need to be strong, let this go, and realize just how little you actually get out of these interactions. Right now, you feel all this new-aged pressure to never abandon someone with emotional health issues. I get it. But that line of thinking is wrong. You don't need to set yourself on fire to try and keep her warm and happy- she won't even feel the heat through the screen.
Wtf are you doing with this nasty man? Honestly, just show him these comments. He’s definitely old enough to realize how fucking disgusting he has been acting. leaving poo for hours in a toilet and screaming in your face because you had to clean his mess are both deal breakers. He literally abused you because you plunged his poop. It’s pathetic.
This sucks. I'm sorry you are going through this, but if you aren't ready to be a full time Dad without authority, you did the right thing for yourself. Good luck with everything. I hope you feel better soon.
I didn't really consider anything as more than just her needing someone to talk to. She doesn't have a good relationship with her mom or sister. Yeah, the conversation I mentioned was weird, cause it seemed out of place and random. I didn't think anything of it until she made the comment that she couldn't talk to her husband and I understand more than he does. I just took it as, that seems like a problem and this feels like a conversation I shouldn't keep going
It is an iPhone feature if you set it up.
It will not go well and her parents will be justifiably horrified. Since you and her dad have overlapping networks and social circles it will probably also ruin your reputation, as it should. Even if your love is pure and your intentions are good, is still embarrassing that you think you have any chance of being the “one true love” to a twenty year old. If she marries you she'll just leave once she grows up.
I say this kindly, but firmly, my friend- end contact with this person and move on.
You don't actually benefit from this “relationship” at all. It's basically not real. Opposite ends of the world. Love-bombing you to hell from the start. You're not able to meet or see each other for years. She's full of drama, depression, sad stories/histories, and you are her couch therapist. She love-bombs you, you soak it all up, and want to be the hero to lift her up… with your short, 30-inch arms, from 9000 miles away.
I don't want to use the term “puppy love” because it may come across as disrespectful, but that's essentially what this boils down to. You have the equivalent of an NFT girlfriend, an online person that you've never physically met and won't, but have lofty dreams together as she puts you through emotional hell, using the power of an electronic screen.
You need to be strong, let this go, and realize just how little you actually get out of these interactions. Right now, you feel all this new-aged pressure to never abandon someone with emotional health issues. I get it. But that line of thinking is wrong. You don't need to set yourself on fire to try and keep her warm and happy- she won't even feel the heat through the screen.
the waiting list in my country is years long unfortunately we have a health crisis but thank you. I will see if i can access through my uni.
This is why you don’t catch feelings for Booty calls
Wtf are you doing with this nasty man? Honestly, just show him these comments. He’s definitely old enough to realize how fucking disgusting he has been acting. leaving poo for hours in a toilet and screaming in your face because you had to clean his mess are both deal breakers. He literally abused you because you plunged his poop. It’s pathetic.
This sucks. I'm sorry you are going through this, but if you aren't ready to be a full time Dad without authority, you did the right thing for yourself. Good luck with everything. I hope you feel better soon.
I didn't really consider anything as more than just her needing someone to talk to. She doesn't have a good relationship with her mom or sister. Yeah, the conversation I mentioned was weird, cause it seemed out of place and random. I didn't think anything of it until she made the comment that she couldn't talk to her husband and I understand more than he does. I just took it as, that seems like a problem and this feels like a conversation I shouldn't keep going