It was part of my intensive therapy for rape that the victim gets to decide what happened to them, what they want to call it, and the care team needed to respect that.
Simply put: your boyfriend is being unreasonable. Their bowel movements are not the litmus test for poops. You’re accommodating them the best you can, and that’s all that can be asked of you. Them shaming you for your bodily functions and calling you out of your name is unacceptable.
If they can’t deal with the knowledge that your body functions differently than theirs, that’s an issue they need to sit at their therapists feet to tackle. Not denigrate their partner.
I am so sorry. He is already a liar and a cheater. Stop wasting your time trying to prove it. You are worth more than this. Get your financial affairs in order and start planning on how you will live alone. Try to figure out how to move forward. You have already lost him.
And somehow the gf was the one who got comforted. That is some advanced manipulation crying right there.
Exactly what I was thinking
It was part of my intensive therapy for rape that the victim gets to decide what happened to them, what they want to call it, and the care team needed to respect that.
Simply put: your boyfriend is being unreasonable. Their bowel movements are not the litmus test for poops. You’re accommodating them the best you can, and that’s all that can be asked of you. Them shaming you for your bodily functions and calling you out of your name is unacceptable.
If they can’t deal with the knowledge that your body functions differently than theirs, that’s an issue they need to sit at their therapists feet to tackle. Not denigrate their partner.
Don't feel guilty that he realized what he had when it was already too late
I am so sorry. He is already a liar and a cheater. Stop wasting your time trying to prove it. You are worth more than this. Get your financial affairs in order and start planning on how you will live alone. Try to figure out how to move forward. You have already lost him.
so are you 38 or 40?