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Yeah – he's not the one for you. I couldn't wait to marry my wife. You should be with someone who can't wait to be married to you (if that's what you want).
Well, in my last LTR I did most of the cooking, all of the yard work, cleaned around the house, maintained the cars, maintained the home, and handled all of the bill paying/management. I'd say I did 70% of the daily requirements to run the house. This, while also making 3x as much as she did.
That's a huge reason why I broke up with her. There was a complete mismatch in who provided what to the relationship.
Stop imagining sexual tension. She’s not into you. Nothing you said made me think for even a moment she was into you. Your poor gf. Either love her or move on.
No I like her personality a lot she the first girl to really understand me on a deeper level and I do find her very attractive. I guess I’m just immature for thinking this way.
I feel like they had some special anal connection and I can’t come close to it.
You must know how stupid that sounds right?
What happened was that the tinder guy, turned her on in a way that she sought his approval. She would do things with him because of this. Does that mean she loved him more? No. Because she had a passionate relationship flare with the guy. What you have is more simmering embers type love. Not as hot, but longer lasting. It's for you to decide.
Personally, I think everyone deserves to be treated like the best partner they have had. So if she was willing and wanting to do it in the past, I would expect to be treated the same way. Any partner of mine deserves the same.
You decide what you want to do. You don't need permission to decide to end a relationship or keep it going. If you can get over this then keep it going. She does care about you. If you can't then end it.
Coming from a person who has a father who treats her mother terribly, I wish more than anything that my mom would get a divorce. When I was younger, I didn't know how bad things were. Now, every time I learn about something else he has done or is doing, I am just more and more disgusted by him. More than that, I am just sad for my mom. It is eating away at her, and it is terrible to watch.
No one should have to stay in a situation like this. He isn't a partner to you. He is an abuser. Just because he doesn't hit you, it doesn't make what he is doing not abuse. Eventually, if she hasn't already, your daughter will see this. It will affect her. The longer you stay in this situation, the worse it will be for the both of you.
I mean, if my partner jokingly said “are you playing a prank one me?” I wouldn't be mad, but if they seriously asked if I tried to have her fuck the neighbor I would be offended at the suggestion. It all depends on how OP said it, but unfortunately we don't know.
There are two issues here. One, his standards are in the cellar: ‘pick up dog shit’ is a bar most human beings meet. Two, he may not be a great cook and need to learn more, but ‘I wipe up a disgusting things with something disposable/ I don’t use new body towels to wipe up a mess’ are, again, things I expect a ten-year-old to grok.
He was punishing his wife by ruining her towels. That’s beyond ‘maybe he needs to learn’.
And I’m confident the poor dog would do it’s business outside more if it was taken outside more. Which humans who have dogs also shouldn’t need to be told.
Planning is definitely necessary with kids. I was stuck on needing spontaneity but realized there is such a tiny window open for it. Planning but then anticipating it can be pretty fun (and romantic/hot) if both partners are on the same page.
You should definitely join AA and stay away from alcohol. You may still be a functioning alcoholic, but it won't stay that way forever and you owe it to your babies to be able to actually take care of them. What if your deminished reaction time from being drunk is the difference between you being able to save one of them from a horrible fall or something?
You should also stay separated from your husband. He is obviously not invested in your relationship and the pain won't get any better. He seems to have a low sex drive or he's not attracted to you anymore. Either way, it's not worth staying together as the chances or either situation changing is very remote and you will just become more and more depressed which will make staying sober so much harder.
Her being able to get you to face this and then sit down with you as your sort your thoughts on it points to her being a good egg. Sounds like you chose good! I have no specifics on finding a therapist – though if you have a primary care doctor they’re always a good source to ask. One thing I can say is if the first one doesn’t mesh with you that’s no big deal, just try again. I’ve had normal medical doctors I don’t mesh with and had to find someone else, no same in doing that with a therapist.
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
You’re in an abusive relationship. As soon as your fiancé got you committed to him he started to be more controlling. Now that you are pregnant, he has ramped things up to make you completely dependent on him.
I would get out now. Consider if you want to continue with this pregnancy. Find a friend or family member you can stay with. I would also suggest you find another job; if he’s friends with the owner then you can’t rely on them.
Part of the issue is its very hard to get out of a house if you’ve had smoked clothes in there. You need air purifiers, an extreme deep clean of your house, your cars as well.
You also can’t go back to smoking. You likely will have a smell to you because of how much you placed in your lungs over the years.
I never invite them out, well I mean kids birthday parties they come around but don’t know when to leave, it’s an all day thing for them, the little voice in my head is screaming “You’ve been here like 4hrs, the cakes cut, nothing else is happening will you go home already” my family have already left hours earlier by this stage.
Yeah I mean I go if I really have to, if it can in no way be avoided, my wife wants to be part of all that too, she wants to be going on the vacations the days outs, she doesn’t because she knows I’d hate it and I would but I feel like she resent me for it.
The thing is that we all get hooked up by UP mentioning silicia gel, dog hair and sugar. But if OP intentionally hoards and takes more sugar than needed I take a wild guess that there are many other things OP hoards that aren't mentioned here
I was in this exact situation a few years ago, I folded every time and did whatever they wanted. It doesn’t end well I dropped out and am just starting to get into study again.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
Sending a quiz isn't initiating a conversation. And she obviously sent it to him when he was busy. She could have waiting until they were actually doing something together to show it to him.
I’m missing something: can you elaborate on why you think his views are worrisome?
I personally don’t think there’s an issue with his views. But he has past trauma associated with cheating, then that’s something he should be working on.
I don’t know anyone more intimidating looking than him but a few of my close friends know what’s going on so they’ll check up on me. We have code words set up too
Just my two cents; you respect your community yet did not during this evening. So clearly you don’t totally respect the values, opinions, and judgment. Which is fine BTW.
You sound like your marriage is about living up to the community standards vs a relationship. Relationships need communication and trust to thrive.
Your guilt and your marriage sound like community driven. However isn’t your co-worker part of the same community? He asked a married woman on a date, got her drunk, then proceeded to be less than “conservative”.
I realize you are probably not American but in America if you get someone intoxicated to the point they don’t remember things it’s like they couldn’t “consent”. In very conservative environments here we see the woman getting the judgment even when they were not. Look up the Baylor University case. The women who reported were told they violated the “code of conduct” and would be punished if they went forward with the complaint, sometimes the complaint was rape.
Conservative communities aren’t always the best place for women. Maybe find a path out of that community and be careful who you tell until you know what will happen if you tell your husband?
A bigger ? doesn't necessarily mean better orgasms.
Could be for her though. The idea of big pp could turn her on so much she's much more sensitive to orgasms. Kinda like a self fulfilling placebo. Psyche is a HUGE factor for orgasms.
(I’m happy with all her planning there since she’s lived with roommates before so she knows what she’s talking about more than I do?)
This really isn't funny. This is why you should move out on your own first, and do a bit of growing up yourself.
At the same time, have a look at the term “emotional labour/mental load”, and check out the article “she divorced me because I left the dishes in the sink”. Do NOT expect your gf to plan things for you, she's not your mum.
Why is it so hard for a women to pick up a phone and talk to somebody they are interested in? I made the initiative of calling and having conversations over the phone as well as texting for 3 days straight. So I’m the bad guy because she didn’t feel like contacting me for a week? Whose the one showing disinterest? A relationship takes 2 people. I like a woman who is assertive and knows what she wants. This girl is shy and is scared to text a guy first. We’re not a good match and that’s OK. Go ahead and downvote me, I did nothing wrong. I’ve had plenty of successful relationships.
I personally feel that when your partner expresses discomfort, you take this into account.
Yes, this is how it should be. But not only did your boyfriend not taking your discomfort into account; he completely disregarded it, got upset at you for expressing it, and judged your character for it.
I'm polyamorous, and much like your boyfriend, I don't experience jealousy. However, on the few occasions my partner has told me that something I'm doing makes her jealous, you can bet your ass that I stop doing it immediately or — at the very least — I listen to her non-judgementally, take what she's saying to heart, and give it some serious thought. And all of the functional polyamorous people I know do this as well.
In short, your boyfriend is being incredibly disrespectful of you, and you deserve better. DTMFA, you're better than this.
It's really gross and weird and unsafe to meet someone for the first time in a hotel room. I saw someone posted the poor Canadian girl getting murdered in a similar meetup situation. That should give you a wake up call.
Be smart – if this guy could hide his shit teeth and fatness from you for four (!!!!) months, he could be hiding a lot more.
You are on here arguing against people who are saying she is justified. Reread the comments you are responding to. You’d realize you agree with them, but decides to reply on behalf of OPs boyfriend
She's upset you spend too much time with your family right after your mom got diagnosed with cancer? Jesus Christ, she needs to get a grip. Get away from that self centered attention seeking person and focus on your family. They need you more than ever right now.
So now it’s changed to you hate doing it. See that’s a horse of a different motive. It’s not that he “has more time” it’s you hate doing it. And got used to him being your house bitch. Maybe he feels like you were taking advantage of him. And wants you to do your own shit. He’s not being unreasonable. You are. Wash your own clothes and stop taking him for granted.
To be honest it feels to be much more than three dates cause he fantasizes already about me moving in with him etc. Makes it seem much closer than it actually is. Technically its just the early dating stage youre right
How do you know he wasn't looking at other avenues before that? Perhaps he asked her for help because he was struggling to find something good enough for you.
Yeah – he's not the one for you. I couldn't wait to marry my wife. You should be with someone who can't wait to be married to you (if that's what you want).
Get some legal advice.
Well, in my last LTR I did most of the cooking, all of the yard work, cleaned around the house, maintained the cars, maintained the home, and handled all of the bill paying/management. I'd say I did 70% of the daily requirements to run the house. This, while also making 3x as much as she did.
That's a huge reason why I broke up with her. There was a complete mismatch in who provided what to the relationship.
Nah its a great thing to do actually. What she doesnt know doesnt hurt her, dickhead
Yes I am
Stop imagining sexual tension. She’s not into you. Nothing you said made me think for even a moment she was into you. Your poor gf. Either love her or move on.
I like this metric!
He doesn't want kids.
He takes ibuprofen when headaches are especially bad? So then why does he need to take anything else if ibuprofen helps a really bad headache?
Yeah and she tries to blame the crying it on her being “always too emotional”. it smelt bad at the beginning and now just smells worst
Seriously?! Why are you asking on Reddit for validation of what the doctor said? Listen to the f###ing doctor.
No I like her personality a lot she the first girl to really understand me on a deeper level and I do find her very attractive. I guess I’m just immature for thinking this way.
I feel like they had some special anal connection and I can’t come close to it.
You must know how stupid that sounds right?
What happened was that the tinder guy, turned her on in a way that she sought his approval. She would do things with him because of this. Does that mean she loved him more? No. Because she had a passionate relationship flare with the guy. What you have is more simmering embers type love. Not as hot, but longer lasting. It's for you to decide.
Personally, I think everyone deserves to be treated like the best partner they have had. So if she was willing and wanting to do it in the past, I would expect to be treated the same way. Any partner of mine deserves the same.
You decide what you want to do. You don't need permission to decide to end a relationship or keep it going. If you can get over this then keep it going. She does care about you. If you can't then end it.
I got ‘nice guy’ vibes from him tbh.
Yay, we did it Reddit.
OP didn’t even say where they are, so you have literally no way of knowing what’s illegal there.
Coming from a person who has a father who treats her mother terribly, I wish more than anything that my mom would get a divorce. When I was younger, I didn't know how bad things were. Now, every time I learn about something else he has done or is doing, I am just more and more disgusted by him. More than that, I am just sad for my mom. It is eating away at her, and it is terrible to watch.
No one should have to stay in a situation like this. He isn't a partner to you. He is an abuser. Just because he doesn't hit you, it doesn't make what he is doing not abuse. Eventually, if she hasn't already, your daughter will see this. It will affect her. The longer you stay in this situation, the worse it will be for the both of you.
I mean, if my partner jokingly said “are you playing a prank one me?” I wouldn't be mad, but if they seriously asked if I tried to have her fuck the neighbor I would be offended at the suggestion. It all depends on how OP said it, but unfortunately we don't know.
I think you're right, if i do want to go with her, i should talk to my friend first.
There are two issues here. One, his standards are in the cellar: ‘pick up dog shit’ is a bar most human beings meet. Two, he may not be a great cook and need to learn more, but ‘I wipe up a disgusting things with something disposable/ I don’t use new body towels to wipe up a mess’ are, again, things I expect a ten-year-old to grok.
He was punishing his wife by ruining her towels. That’s beyond ‘maybe he needs to learn’.
And I’m confident the poor dog would do it’s business outside more if it was taken outside more. Which humans who have dogs also shouldn’t need to be told.
Planning is definitely necessary with kids. I was stuck on needing spontaneity but realized there is such a tiny window open for it. Planning but then anticipating it can be pretty fun (and romantic/hot) if both partners are on the same page.
You should definitely join AA and stay away from alcohol. You may still be a functioning alcoholic, but it won't stay that way forever and you owe it to your babies to be able to actually take care of them. What if your deminished reaction time from being drunk is the difference between you being able to save one of them from a horrible fall or something?
You should also stay separated from your husband. He is obviously not invested in your relationship and the pain won't get any better. He seems to have a low sex drive or he's not attracted to you anymore. Either way, it's not worth staying together as the chances or either situation changing is very remote and you will just become more and more depressed which will make staying sober so much harder.
I wish you all the best.
He doesn't respect your property and he doesn't respect you.
Her being able to get you to face this and then sit down with you as your sort your thoughts on it points to her being a good egg. Sounds like you chose good! I have no specifics on finding a therapist – though if you have a primary care doctor they’re always a good source to ask. One thing I can say is if the first one doesn’t mesh with you that’s no big deal, just try again. I’ve had normal medical doctors I don’t mesh with and had to find someone else, no same in doing that with a therapist.
It's really sad that women have to compete with porn … There's no winning with that I would also like to know what the bf is doing on his part…
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
if your partner could go younger he would. you’re obviously not a child but you’re not at that grown ass adult with a fully developed frontal lobe either. you’re not even 20 and this creepy old guy who is nearly old enough to be your dad is creeping on you. what do you even have in common with each other? he’s a predator pal and your parents are looking out for you bc they know. regardless of sexuality and gender he’s a nonce
Yes, absolutely cut all contact. You are right that he is trying to punish you by proxy, which is just so petty. No contact definitely.
You’re in an abusive relationship. As soon as your fiancé got you committed to him he started to be more controlling. Now that you are pregnant, he has ramped things up to make you completely dependent on him.
I would get out now. Consider if you want to continue with this pregnancy. Find a friend or family member you can stay with. I would also suggest you find another job; if he’s friends with the owner then you can’t rely on them.
Part of the issue is its very hard to get out of a house if you’ve had smoked clothes in there. You need air purifiers, an extreme deep clean of your house, your cars as well.
You also can’t go back to smoking. You likely will have a smell to you because of how much you placed in your lungs over the years.
I never invite them out, well I mean kids birthday parties they come around but don’t know when to leave, it’s an all day thing for them, the little voice in my head is screaming “You’ve been here like 4hrs, the cakes cut, nothing else is happening will you go home already” my family have already left hours earlier by this stage.
Yeah I mean I go if I really have to, if it can in no way be avoided, my wife wants to be part of all that too, she wants to be going on the vacations the days outs, she doesn’t because she knows I’d hate it and I would but I feel like she resent me for it.
The thing is that we all get hooked up by UP mentioning silicia gel, dog hair and sugar. But if OP intentionally hoards and takes more sugar than needed I take a wild guess that there are many other things OP hoards that aren't mentioned here
I was in this exact situation a few years ago, I folded every time and did whatever they wanted. It doesn’t end well I dropped out and am just starting to get into study again.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
Yep. This is going to be an issue for your entire relationship if you stay together. Pretty much learn how to “enjoy” giving head or move on. This is part of the dating process.
You believe her?
Pay for the repairs would be a good start.
Sending a quiz isn't initiating a conversation. And she obviously sent it to him when he was busy. She could have waiting until they were actually doing something together to show it to him.
I’m missing something: can you elaborate on why you think his views are worrisome?
I personally don’t think there’s an issue with his views. But he has past trauma associated with cheating, then that’s something he should be working on.
I don’t know anyone more intimidating looking than him but a few of my close friends know what’s going on so they’ll check up on me. We have code words set up too
Just my two cents; you respect your community yet did not during this evening. So clearly you don’t totally respect the values, opinions, and judgment. Which is fine BTW.
You sound like your marriage is about living up to the community standards vs a relationship. Relationships need communication and trust to thrive.
Your guilt and your marriage sound like community driven. However isn’t your co-worker part of the same community? He asked a married woman on a date, got her drunk, then proceeded to be less than “conservative”.
I realize you are probably not American but in America if you get someone intoxicated to the point they don’t remember things it’s like they couldn’t “consent”. In very conservative environments here we see the woman getting the judgment even when they were not. Look up the Baylor University case. The women who reported were told they violated the “code of conduct” and would be punished if they went forward with the complaint, sometimes the complaint was rape.
Conservative communities aren’t always the best place for women. Maybe find a path out of that community and be careful who you tell until you know what will happen if you tell your husband?
A bigger ? doesn't necessarily mean better orgasms.
Could be for her though. The idea of big pp could turn her on so much she's much more sensitive to orgasms. Kinda like a self fulfilling placebo. Psyche is a HUGE factor for orgasms.
After how many days/weeks/ months of cocaine use is the hair test valid for?
And yea I’m slowly beginning to realize his behaviour. He wants to marry me and I’m having doubts if this is the man for me.
(I’m happy with all her planning there since she’s lived with roommates before so she knows what she’s talking about more than I do?)
This really isn't funny. This is why you should move out on your own first, and do a bit of growing up yourself.
At the same time, have a look at the term “emotional labour/mental load”, and check out the article “she divorced me because I left the dishes in the sink”. Do NOT expect your gf to plan things for you, she's not your mum.
Why is it so hard for a women to pick up a phone and talk to somebody they are interested in? I made the initiative of calling and having conversations over the phone as well as texting for 3 days straight. So I’m the bad guy because she didn’t feel like contacting me for a week? Whose the one showing disinterest? A relationship takes 2 people. I like a woman who is assertive and knows what she wants. This girl is shy and is scared to text a guy first. We’re not a good match and that’s OK. Go ahead and downvote me, I did nothing wrong. I’ve had plenty of successful relationships.
An invisible one at that
I personally feel that when your partner expresses discomfort, you take this into account.
Yes, this is how it should be. But not only did your boyfriend not taking your discomfort into account; he completely disregarded it, got upset at you for expressing it, and judged your character for it.
I'm polyamorous, and much like your boyfriend, I don't experience jealousy. However, on the few occasions my partner has told me that something I'm doing makes her jealous, you can bet your ass that I stop doing it immediately or — at the very least — I listen to her non-judgementally, take what she's saying to heart, and give it some serious thought. And all of the functional polyamorous people I know do this as well.
In short, your boyfriend is being incredibly disrespectful of you, and you deserve better. DTMFA, you're better than this.
Take her in!!!
Yeah seems like this is about training you to behave a certain way.
It's really gross and weird and unsafe to meet someone for the first time in a hotel room. I saw someone posted the poor Canadian girl getting murdered in a similar meetup situation. That should give you a wake up call.
Be smart – if this guy could hide his shit teeth and fatness from you for four (!!!!) months, he could be hiding a lot more.
How did you never video chat??
I don’t like the word consult, which indicates you’d be asking him, communicate with him about it before? Sure. But you don’t need to ask him.
You are on here arguing against people who are saying she is justified. Reread the comments you are responding to. You’d realize you agree with them, but decides to reply on behalf of OPs boyfriend
me (19M) fucked up by sending my ex's (20M) talks about her sex life to her mom, what can I do?
She's upset you spend too much time with your family right after your mom got diagnosed with cancer? Jesus Christ, she needs to get a grip. Get away from that self centered attention seeking person and focus on your family. They need you more than ever right now.
So now it’s changed to you hate doing it. See that’s a horse of a different motive. It’s not that he “has more time” it’s you hate doing it. And got used to him being your house bitch. Maybe he feels like you were taking advantage of him. And wants you to do your own shit. He’s not being unreasonable. You are. Wash your own clothes and stop taking him for granted.
Not normal. This is incredibly controlling and definitely not worth your peace of mind.
To be honest it feels to be much more than three dates cause he fantasizes already about me moving in with him etc. Makes it seem much closer than it actually is. Technically its just the early dating stage youre right
How do you know he wasn't looking at other avenues before that? Perhaps he asked her for help because he was struggling to find something good enough for you.
Not at the time but I’m open to it now that I know the situation
I think he's a shitty lover.
I brought a pint of ice cream into my house, and I swear I didn't touch it…..