I know you say you’re worried about his happiness but it’s not fair for you to make this decision for him, his wife, his family and your new child. The child is both his and yours. And just as that child is yours, whether you like it or not, both you and this guy are the child’s parents. It’s not fair to keep the truth from everyone because you’re worried about what he will say. It will hurt a lot of people in the long run. You need to tell him.
To be fair to you, she probably shouldn't have mentioned that a long distance could work before she had really thought about whether she would/could practically commit to one with you and whether she was keen enough to do that. Best not to throw hope-inducing comments around until you can follow through with them.
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You are incompatible and you will only stress yourself out more by continuing to stay with him. Clearly you have different expectations from the relationship. It’s best to break up.
He had been in a 4 1/2 year relationship before me that wasn’t “the one”. he has fears that that could happen again. which i totally understand! but i also think marriage is deciding “are you in or are you out”. But I get it. It’s hard to feel “sure”. But I also don’t think a specific number of years is ever going to be the difference between being fully sure or not.
It was deep and meaningful and revealed that she liked me the same way.
One thing I'd caution, is that some people are just good kissers. Unless someone straight out says they like you, you literally can't read anything from a kiss. Life isn't a Cher song.
Kissing someone else in front of you, regardless of feelings, is still pretty fucking rude, and really stupid if that someone is a friend though.
Since you want to maintain your friendships, best just give her a “yeah ok” snap and just avoid too much one on one time with her in the future.
Like a catfish. Someone pretending to be someone they’re not. It’s very common online. Like you could be a fat bald 59 year old man pretending to be a pretty woman.
I once knew someone that wanted to break up with his girlfriend and agonized about it for a month. He finally got up the nerve to do it and the first words out of her mouth were “Oh, thank God!” Turns out that she'd been wanting to break up with him for even longer and was afraid to do it.
I don't. I can't speak for all men, but I honestly don't think most of them have a problem with it.
I know you say you’re worried about his happiness but it’s not fair for you to make this decision for him, his wife, his family and your new child. The child is both his and yours. And just as that child is yours, whether you like it or not, both you and this guy are the child’s parents. It’s not fair to keep the truth from everyone because you’re worried about what he will say. It will hurt a lot of people in the long run. You need to tell him.
To be fair to you, she probably shouldn't have mentioned that a long distance could work before she had really thought about whether she would/could practically commit to one with you and whether she was keen enough to do that. Best not to throw hope-inducing comments around until you can follow through with them.
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You are incompatible and you will only stress yourself out more by continuing to stay with him. Clearly you have different expectations from the relationship. It’s best to break up.
He had been in a 4 1/2 year relationship before me that wasn’t “the one”. he has fears that that could happen again. which i totally understand! but i also think marriage is deciding “are you in or are you out”. But I get it. It’s hard to feel “sure”. But I also don’t think a specific number of years is ever going to be the difference between being fully sure or not.
It was deep and meaningful and revealed that she liked me the same way.
One thing I'd caution, is that some people are just good kissers. Unless someone straight out says they like you, you literally can't read anything from a kiss. Life isn't a Cher song.
Kissing someone else in front of you, regardless of feelings, is still pretty fucking rude, and really stupid if that someone is a friend though.
Since you want to maintain your friendships, best just give her a “yeah ok” snap and just avoid too much one on one time with her in the future.
Honestly, this whole mess has partly come about because you married someone that you were/are entirely sexually incompatible with.
Like a catfish. Someone pretending to be someone they’re not. It’s very common online. Like you could be a fat bald 59 year old man pretending to be a pretty woman.
How exactly, is it weird?
No I'm genuinely just at the end of my rope. I'm sick of hearing people gossip and judge us when I dare to hold my wife's hand.
I once knew someone that wanted to break up with his girlfriend and agonized about it for a month. He finally got up the nerve to do it and the first words out of her mouth were “Oh, thank God!” Turns out that she'd been wanting to break up with him for even longer and was afraid to do it.