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Date: December 3, 2022
And OP’s boyfriend was 12, like seriously? He was talking about music and dad made it about him.
Nobody is going to be able to help you here because most people are not going to understand how or why you’ve married someone without having sex. Either he’s gay, asexual or something else, but either way – why would you put up with any of it for another second? You aren’t being seen or fulfilled in your marriage.
If you joined there is no guarantee you will be stationed together. It makes for a good argument to the CO, but ultimately it’s based on what the military needs #1. Always.
Please don’t put yourself in a position to be financially dependent on someone if you are so uncertain. Especially a military man who may be transferred out at any time.
There is 0 guarantee he will follow through on any financial agreements; the military is highly unlikely to hold their member accountable to any such arrangement. In fact, in 20+ years I never saw it happen beyond deducting child support from pay. Plus, this is fraud, so you will have no real recourse because this marriage would be considered a “contract marriage” (getting married for the benefits). Yes, it happens very, very often, but it is still theft from the federal government. Just be aware of the reality; you would be participating in defrauding the federal govt. even if they do play loose and free with their money.
A LOT of young military do the “legally married for the benefits” thing & you haven’t known him long enough to even trust the proposal. He probably heard about it from some guys and they push the “great idea” way to save more money. Which they usually end up spending on partying anyway.
Have you guys discussed any of the following:
-Will you be expected to pack up halfway through your degree if he gets transferred? Will he cover two households expenses if he is shipped out and you stay for your degree?
-What about children? Will he push you to have two children? Just so you know, he will also get dependent pay for a wife and up to two children monthly. Again, HE gets that pay. Not you.
-Household duties? These guys tend to be more traditional in the misogynistic sense (not all, but many start off that way), so are you to manage everything at home except finances? Including finances? Is he clean? Trust me, just because he’s military does not mean he is clean. And his dorm room doesn’t count as they have to keep it clean and orderly.
-Money management. Discussing finances and how they would be/need to be handled? Joint account? Separate? Do you know his current income, savings, or financial situation? Does he have debt? Does he have a child or owe child support?
-Did he tell you how much his dependent pay will be? Remember: that is dependent pay that goes to him, his account. Not you and 0 guarantee you have a right to that, so he could say it’s $200/mo and do whatever with the rest. Or worse, you won’t have access to any money and he will just cover everything until he gets angry at you and kicks you out.
I’ve gone over some of the key discussions you guys need to clarify and these are some of the worst case scenarios I’ve seen irl. Truth be told, as a veteran myself & from a military family, things could get way worse than this.
As a woman, I suggest you stay independent until things feel right and align with your wants/needs/desires.
As far as you joining the military; yes, things can be shit for women in the military, but if you do choose to serve you could continue to make the military safer for the next group of women. It’s also likely to be better if you just stick to a life away from the military except during working hours. There are other steps to take when deployed, but I’ve written too much already.
A lot of military are pretty great, but there is a dark undercurrent of shitty shit that gets overlooked or covered up. This proposal for a contract marriage from a guy who needs “to get his life together” & you’ve known for 5 months is beyond risky, so at least consider the above in earnest before deciding.
Right, he knows he’s shit, he just wants to make her feel so bad about herself that she thinks she can’t do better than him.