Even an age gap of 5+ years is complicated to make work long-term, so 8 years(which is definitely a different generation) is extremely hard, particularly when both are under the age of 35.
If you want a fling or a casual relationship for 6-18 months, then why not. But long-term ie serious relationship my money is on no
He is a family friend who has known me since I was a child and my grandma did the same for him when his mom passed.
While I did not sleep with him we did kiss.
OP replied to another comment with this. It sounds like she is a grrooming victim.
he has been helpful to me (emotionally and financially) since I've been my grandma's sole caregiver
She was taking care of her sick Grandmother and he saw an opportunity to manipulate her into a sexual relationship by offering money and emotional support.
Although OP may have made a mistake kissing a married man, she seems more like a victim here than an affair partner.
This may be a past experience but this person is still an important person in your life today. Plus, sounds like you were in a relationship with them but you were not honest with your current fiancé about it.
So what do your parents want? Do they want your sister to lock herself away from the world and not talk to anyone? To be lonely, never have a relationship, never find love, never have kids and die lonely and alone? This is the reality of what they are forcing on her. They know Blake. Your brother can vouch for him, they have seen that the relationship has been good and your sister is in a place in her life that she's struggled to find since her abusive ex. They are now becoming the abusive ones and if they continue to act like they are then your sister should and most likely will cut them out of her life completely. They need to step away, realise that she is a grown woman and can make decisions for herself or they will lose her.
Are you seeing a therapist?
Cause this is a therapist question.
Go for it
Huge dicks and those slightly larger than average who like a comfortable condom and a stroked ego at the same time… thank you very much
Even an age gap of 5+ years is complicated to make work long-term, so 8 years(which is definitely a different generation) is extremely hard, particularly when both are under the age of 35.
If you want a fling or a casual relationship for 6-18 months, then why not. But long-term ie serious relationship my money is on no
He hasn’t agreed to anything bc you haven’t visited him yet so he hasn’t had to follow through on any promise.
He is a family friend who has known me since I was a child and my grandma did the same for him when his mom passed.
While I did not sleep with him we did kiss.
OP replied to another comment with this. It sounds like she is a grrooming victim.
he has been helpful to me (emotionally and financially) since I've been my grandma's sole caregiver
She was taking care of her sick Grandmother and he saw an opportunity to manipulate her into a sexual relationship by offering money and emotional support.
Although OP may have made a mistake kissing a married man, she seems more like a victim here than an affair partner.
Start gaslighting and manipulating her
I don’t think I text like a serial killer,
That's what all serial killers say. ?
I don't see any reasons in your reasoning for you NOT to be in that chat.
just give him a deadline and if he doesn't get it by then, it's on the curb with a curb alert posted.
This may be a past experience but this person is still an important person in your life today. Plus, sounds like you were in a relationship with them but you were not honest with your current fiancé about it.
So what do your parents want? Do they want your sister to lock herself away from the world and not talk to anyone? To be lonely, never have a relationship, never find love, never have kids and die lonely and alone? This is the reality of what they are forcing on her. They know Blake. Your brother can vouch for him, they have seen that the relationship has been good and your sister is in a place in her life that she's struggled to find since her abusive ex. They are now becoming the abusive ones and if they continue to act like they are then your sister should and most likely will cut them out of her life completely. They need to step away, realise that she is a grown woman and can make decisions for herself or they will lose her.