I think the emphasis on smoking in my flat has been misunderstood – that’s when the problems arose, and how I began to see he had an addiction (he was willing to lie and disrespect me over it, something which had never happened before), that isn’t the issue now. The issue is now he is completely unable to stop despite him saying himself he wants to, but I’m not sure how I can best support him to stop when nothing seems to work so far
Why don't you make some 'realistic observations' of your own? That he's verbally abusive, lacks empathy and makes you feel bad about yourself. Your partner should lift you up, not drag you down.
No advice to give but congrats!
I think the emphasis on smoking in my flat has been misunderstood – that’s when the problems arose, and how I began to see he had an addiction (he was willing to lie and disrespect me over it, something which had never happened before), that isn’t the issue now. The issue is now he is completely unable to stop despite him saying himself he wants to, but I’m not sure how I can best support him to stop when nothing seems to work so far
It's overwatch, and thank you for the response
I dont know, but I am still to see a situation in which “just a friend” is in fact just a friend
What’d you lie about?
Why don't you make some 'realistic observations' of your own? That he's verbally abusive, lacks empathy and makes you feel bad about yourself. Your partner should lift you up, not drag you down.