You're married with kids. You know the right answer… break contact with your ex and put yourself into your current actual life. not your “I wish I woulda” life. That's the past and not the current.
If you're going to make it the current instead? Then get a divorce and take the chance.
But one way or the other, you need to stop waffling and go all in.
Thank you for understanding. And I know the thought alone was not right. I really wouldn't want to hurt my ex or her sister by doing something irrational. I'm already seeking therapy and I'm moving out of town just to move along from all of this situation.
Although I get what you're saying about “NOT a date”, announcing it like that sounds more like you're trying to take her for a test drive.
Just ask, no need to elaborate. Coffee dates are so non-committal, they're not really DATE dates anyway.
One more thing (and I know you didn't ask), leave the co-workers out of the convo.
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Yeah, you just ruined her special night instead.
Why? Is it that you want to be just friends? Or friends with benefits without the relationship? Just tell her how you feel
What should I do?
Shit or get off the pot.
You're married with kids. You know the right answer… break contact with your ex and put yourself into your current actual life. not your “I wish I woulda” life. That's the past and not the current.
If you're going to make it the current instead? Then get a divorce and take the chance.
But one way or the other, you need to stop waffling and go all in.
She could have a second life
Thank you for understanding. And I know the thought alone was not right. I really wouldn't want to hurt my ex or her sister by doing something irrational. I'm already seeking therapy and I'm moving out of town just to move along from all of this situation.
Watch your on back OP, “Birds of a feather fly together “……..