Well that's just selfish. Not sure what about plain old missionary is uncomfortable for him. Even if you're tall…I'm failing to wrap my head around what's actually causing the discomfort here. Honestly just sounds like he's embarrassed to try or maybe he's afraid he won't satisfy you. That's not fair to you though. It means what you only ever have sex in one position. That's going to get old, fast. You gotta change it up. NO ONE wants to be on top every single time. He's gotta be more receptive here or your sex life will dwindle to nothing as you lose interest.
Sounds like a scam, and he may even be doing things online and have a submission kink, and using that out this all together to scam you guys. Just have a heart to heart with him and ask him if he has any kinks he may be embarrassed to share and that you won't judge. You sound very open and that you aren't the type to judge anyway so if it was the truth he'd probably tell you. He may just not have wanted to do so at the time of the phone calls or while away.
Otherwise what people said above is also likely. We have cameras on everything these days. This is why I will never have security cameras in my house. Too easy to hack, I also cover my cameras on laptops, PCs, and even my phone regularly.
I’m begging you to get rid of Ashley. Mark my words that that snake will come back around for your man regardless someday. I’d have eyes on her, and maybe have your fiancé tell her that she crossed a line and never wants to deal w her again
All these “you’re allowed to set the boundary that your partner can’t watch porn” would never ever ever be said if the genders in this post were reversed.
If a guy posted this about his gf masturbating to porn everyone here would come in knives out for the insecure male with “fragile masculinity.” It would be an all out assault.
Yet here we are, with every comment taking her side and telling her yeah you’re a teensy bit insecure but “you go girl!“ rather than telling her to grow up.
How immature is “Well, IIIIIII don’t do something so HE shouldn’t EVER do it because the action of masturbating is cheating”?
He is twice your age and acting like half your age. Honestly, I couldn’t even read all of this, he is controlling and manipulative aside from being a predator. Get far away from this person.
Well that's just selfish. Not sure what about plain old missionary is uncomfortable for him. Even if you're tall…I'm failing to wrap my head around what's actually causing the discomfort here. Honestly just sounds like he's embarrassed to try or maybe he's afraid he won't satisfy you. That's not fair to you though. It means what you only ever have sex in one position. That's going to get old, fast. You gotta change it up. NO ONE wants to be on top every single time. He's gotta be more receptive here or your sex life will dwindle to nothing as you lose interest.
Yall really need to stop infantilizing grown adults in the comments ?
Honestly? Just tell him. If it's going to be, then he'll accept you. Otherwise? It'll just be more painful if you wait longer.
Not my thing and I'd never get a suit made but if it's you and your thing? Then lean into it and he'll follow you.
Doesn't sound like you are into any of the darker parts of it so just offer to answer any questions, dispel any myths and be positive about it.
Sounds like a scam, and he may even be doing things online and have a submission kink, and using that out this all together to scam you guys. Just have a heart to heart with him and ask him if he has any kinks he may be embarrassed to share and that you won't judge. You sound very open and that you aren't the type to judge anyway so if it was the truth he'd probably tell you. He may just not have wanted to do so at the time of the phone calls or while away.
Otherwise what people said above is also likely. We have cameras on everything these days. This is why I will never have security cameras in my house. Too easy to hack, I also cover my cameras on laptops, PCs, and even my phone regularly.
okay, okay. so not a domestic violence situation in private.
but in public … yes. this is totally outrageous behavior and i'd be embarrassed af. have you asked him wth he was doing ? and why ?
I’m begging you to get rid of Ashley. Mark my words that that snake will come back around for your man regardless someday. I’d have eyes on her, and maybe have your fiancé tell her that she crossed a line and never wants to deal w her again
it’s shitty of him to say it’s ok when it’s clearly not ok, a
Imagine, a human not detecting his emotions with perfect accuracy! What a villain!
All these “you’re allowed to set the boundary that your partner can’t watch porn” would never ever ever be said if the genders in this post were reversed.
If a guy posted this about his gf masturbating to porn everyone here would come in knives out for the insecure male with “fragile masculinity.” It would be an all out assault.
Yet here we are, with every comment taking her side and telling her yeah you’re a teensy bit insecure but “you go girl!“ rather than telling her to grow up.
How immature is “Well, IIIIIII don’t do something so HE shouldn’t EVER do it because the action of masturbating is cheating”?
Stop paying it If she’s on your account, get her off of your account
You don’t owe her anything.
It's treading another humans most effing basic rights with ones feet.
On the grounds of being married!
OP… what he says is that YOU ARE HIS SLAVE, because you married him.
Hadn't you, it were rape.
Now that you did… hands clean. (HIS saying!)
THIS IS HOW RAPISTS JUSTIFY THEIR DOING!
It's lying to you and gaslighting you into submission!
There will be other situations where common sense are needed, and she clearly has none
He is twice your age and acting like half your age. Honestly, I couldn’t even read all of this, he is controlling and manipulative aside from being a predator. Get far away from this person.
Appreciate the honesty in your comment thanks. Do you think there was any obligation in letting her know earlier that I started dating?
I didn’t want that to be the reason for her to change her mind, but I can’t help but think something would’ve changed if I did.