It sounds like you want to keep the kid. So go full divorce and enjoy motherhood.
Everyone else's opinions do not matter if this is what you want.
And personally, husband sounds like a complete ass. Separating and immediately sleeping with someone then getting on your case? Yeah he can go fuck himself.
Comfort and the ability to relax are respectively comfort and the ability to relax, safety is not an appropriate word at all. I'm an introvert too, but I do understand that interpersonal relations are a thing, and that my partner is entitled to have his relatives come to stay with us.
We're just back from a week in Turkey with his relatives in fact, and any time they all started blathering on amongst themselves speaking their dialect that I cannot learn, I just curled up in a corner with a cracking good book or started looking at things to do in Istanbul for the next day, since they didn't seem at all competent at planning days out and Istanbul is a fantastic city with tons of utterly beautiful places to visit.
There is a difference in having a threesome as a couple and seeing you spouse enjoying 4 men at one time not counting him.. he was under the allusion it would be same and he could handle it.. unfortunately that isn’t what happened. Plus he has to deal with he gave you the ok and now he is upset over it.. imagine how you would feel seeing him with 4 other women.. you put him in a bad situation and truthfully I don’t see your marriage recovering from this.. he is always going to see you with them whenever he touches you.
She was 20 and we were set up through friends.
It sounds like you want to keep the kid. So go full divorce and enjoy motherhood.
Everyone else's opinions do not matter if this is what you want.
And personally, husband sounds like a complete ass. Separating and immediately sleeping with someone then getting on your case? Yeah he can go fuck himself.
Comfort and the ability to relax are respectively comfort and the ability to relax, safety is not an appropriate word at all. I'm an introvert too, but I do understand that interpersonal relations are a thing, and that my partner is entitled to have his relatives come to stay with us.
We're just back from a week in Turkey with his relatives in fact, and any time they all started blathering on amongst themselves speaking their dialect that I cannot learn, I just curled up in a corner with a cracking good book or started looking at things to do in Istanbul for the next day, since they didn't seem at all competent at planning days out and Istanbul is a fantastic city with tons of utterly beautiful places to visit.
People have many different ways of reacting to loss.
Yours is this.
My phone's wallpaper is still of my cat who died back in 2020.
Your feelings are valid. Keep up with the therapy.
There is a difference in having a threesome as a couple and seeing you spouse enjoying 4 men at one time not counting him.. he was under the allusion it would be same and he could handle it.. unfortunately that isn’t what happened. Plus he has to deal with he gave you the ok and now he is upset over it.. imagine how you would feel seeing him with 4 other women.. you put him in a bad situation and truthfully I don’t see your marriage recovering from this.. he is always going to see you with them whenever he touches you.
You should see my face right now. Your dad is not okay.
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