Although everyone fantasizes now and again, I worry that your wife's fantasies are quite specific and could eventually lead to cheating. Yes, I have fantasized about an ex a time or two in my 27 year marriage,but it's rare. Her posting a poll on it seems a bit too focused.
You can just come as a person that works in the profession, doesn’t have to be any real therapy. I’m sure the profession influences some of the perspectives you would have. But, obviously no one is making you come on the show, respectfully.
She wanted to play hard to get/chase after me bullshit games and is deviated that you have other options.
For future reference, when you ask someone out the answer should be a resounding Yes! even if they hide it or play it cool, the right person will be over the moon about being eith you.
Some people are just incapable of moving past things. I was married to someone like that, and it’s such a red flag personality trait. It’s great that this person is just an ex, but also know that if it becomes too much to deal with you should cut them off.
This doesn’t sound like a good relationship to start back up. I think you really made a poor decision. Because of the ghosting, immediately dating someone else, jumping right back to you, and keeping that other guy as a “friend”. What did that other guy do that pissed her off enough that she chose to run back to you?
Your feelings are valid. If this was a relationship that ended years ago, you would be in the wrong but it ended a month ago. If all she did was ghost you, you didn’t breakup and she cheated with this guy. Every time something goes wrong in this relationship that could be worked through, the temptation will be to go fuck this guy and dump you.
You are in the right to insist she break all contact with this guy but it’s her life and she can say no. If she does say no, end the relationship.
Or you can just opt out if this whole mess right now and move on
You deserve to be the center of attention of your own life.
Right now, you aren’t the center of attention in his, he’s going to be a new daddy and that’s something he’s going to share with the “ex” girlfriend, whom he, evidently, still finds comfort from. In his loneliness, he turned to Seems they have lots and lots of unfinished business which will take 18 years to work through.
I’d move on. Because YOU deserve to be first place in life – which starts with YOU choosing YOU and then, perhaps, finding someone who will be completely enamored with you and turns to you for comfort.
Red flag! Don't go
oh,,,, i hope ure doing better now op ): how come he stopped talking to you ?
Although everyone fantasizes now and again, I worry that your wife's fantasies are quite specific and could eventually lead to cheating. Yes, I have fantasized about an ex a time or two in my 27 year marriage,but it's rare. Her posting a poll on it seems a bit too focused.
You can just come as a person that works in the profession, doesn’t have to be any real therapy. I’m sure the profession influences some of the perspectives you would have. But, obviously no one is making you come on the show, respectfully.
I wonder what the police would say… why did they tell you then not give to you? That’s gross of them. I’m so sorry.
Fuck around and find out
She wanted to play hard to get/chase after me bullshit games and is deviated that you have other options.
For future reference, when you ask someone out the answer should be a resounding Yes! even if they hide it or play it cool, the right person will be over the moon about being eith you.
Some people are just incapable of moving past things. I was married to someone like that, and it’s such a red flag personality trait. It’s great that this person is just an ex, but also know that if it becomes too much to deal with you should cut them off.
Give her what she wants and leave the disrespectful man.
This doesn’t sound like a good relationship to start back up. I think you really made a poor decision. Because of the ghosting, immediately dating someone else, jumping right back to you, and keeping that other guy as a “friend”. What did that other guy do that pissed her off enough that she chose to run back to you?
Your feelings are valid. If this was a relationship that ended years ago, you would be in the wrong but it ended a month ago. If all she did was ghost you, you didn’t breakup and she cheated with this guy. Every time something goes wrong in this relationship that could be worked through, the temptation will be to go fuck this guy and dump you.
You are in the right to insist she break all contact with this guy but it’s her life and she can say no. If she does say no, end the relationship.
Or you can just opt out if this whole mess right now and move on
You deserve to be the center of attention of your own life.
Right now, you aren’t the center of attention in his, he’s going to be a new daddy and that’s something he’s going to share with the “ex” girlfriend, whom he, evidently, still finds comfort from. In his loneliness, he turned to Seems they have lots and lots of unfinished business which will take 18 years to work through.
I’d move on. Because YOU deserve to be first place in life – which starts with YOU choosing YOU and then, perhaps, finding someone who will be completely enamored with you and turns to you for comfort.