Agreeing here. I was always in tumultuous relationships and tried SO hard to make them work and obv they never did. I met my partner at 37 and we are going on 8 years now. We dont HAVE to try to make it work. It just does because we are compatible. I never knew it cold just be so easy! We have arguments and discussions but never fights and we both ‘fight fair’, no name calling, no hitting below the belt.
Living with one foot out of the door is the way to destroy a marriage.
Dating, which is the point here, does not require a vow of a life-long commitment, or a vow of any sort. You are free to choose who to date and to break off dates to be able to date someone else.
It's a reminder how women are expected to care for men if they're disabled or hurt, but women in the same situation get warned by their nurses how common it is for men to leave them in the long run.
He says all this started in the last 2 years and includes physical pain. Of course therapy hasn't helped much yet, she's probably only gotten in during the last year and it isn't a quick fix.
Men get to say “they tried” and “they have needs”, but women get horribly shamed if they try to leave in the same situation.
Can we stop with the trope “ he is a sick and harassing you because he likes you”. This sucks and is abusive. It sets up women to accept being debased and abused because it is normal. It is not .
Can we stop with the trope “ he is a sick and harassing you because he likes you”. This sucks and is abusive. It sets up women to accept being debased and abused because it is normal. It is not .
Best course of action is to get prepared for years of heartbreak as he cheats on you again and again. You keep it together for the children once you are married and have him leave you eventually for a younger woman once’s your best years are behind you and you have wasted your youth on a man who never really loved you. Just get yourself ready for that and you will be fine.
I had the exact same thing happen. When I moved in, my partner was abstractly “allergic” to me but we couldn’t find the exact culprit. So I went through all my personal care products — skin care, hair care, deodorant, fragrance, toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner, body wash, shave cream, you name it. Through an exhaustive trial and error, cross referencing, and research process, we determined he was allergic to Ethylhexylglycerine, Methylchloroisothiazolinone, and Methylisothiazolinone. I immediately cut everything out we had containing those ingredients and, in my opinion, upgraded to better personal care stuff that works for both our needs. I’d rather be comfortably close with my partner than a shampoo or conditioner so the process was worth it to me. Did I have to part with some expensive stuff that I loved like fantastic hair care? Yes. I gave it all away to friends. But I was able to find replacements that gave the same final result. It’s possible. And with you offering to pay for it, she really doesn’t have any excuse.
They both use, commas, quite a lot, outside of the normal, comma use. That's interesting.
If you're real people and not a silly writing exercise, you both suck and shouldn't be together. Britney Spears wrote a song about y'all…I bet you're already hearing it in your head right now.
Absolutely not. Splitting expenses is one thing, like utilities and insurance, but paying him “rent” when he doesn’t need to pay a mortgage is ridiculous. It sounds like he wants to be your landlord, not your boyfriend.
a month? losing a parent young bring a life time of misery.
Yeah that’s pretty shitty and such a quick response to an argument.
Agreeing here. I was always in tumultuous relationships and tried SO hard to make them work and obv they never did. I met my partner at 37 and we are going on 8 years now. We dont HAVE to try to make it work. It just does because we are compatible. I never knew it cold just be so easy! We have arguments and discussions but never fights and we both ‘fight fair’, no name calling, no hitting below the belt.
Living with one foot out of the door is the way to destroy a marriage.
Dating, which is the point here, does not require a vow of a life-long commitment, or a vow of any sort. You are free to choose who to date and to break off dates to be able to date someone else.
Like models in swimsuits or lingerie?
Ppl he crushes on? Like IRL? Does he have suggestive pics of them or like a pic of them at a party?
It's a reminder how women are expected to care for men if they're disabled or hurt, but women in the same situation get warned by their nurses how common it is for men to leave them in the long run.
He says all this started in the last 2 years and includes physical pain. Of course therapy hasn't helped much yet, she's probably only gotten in during the last year and it isn't a quick fix.
Men get to say “they tried” and “they have needs”, but women get horribly shamed if they try to leave in the same situation.
Definitely ask subtly if you can
I put my rings on a necklace when I travel because I'm paranoid that I'd leave them behind in a hotel/campsite or something.
And also sends a signal that you've noticed
You've been with him for twelve years? You were 15 and he was 24 when you met? Wow, that's just wrong.
I’d say that’s the point. Getting a text like that could make her day. Those kind of caught off guard moments can be good.
Can we stop with the trope “ he is a sick and harassing you because he likes you”. This sucks and is abusive. It sets up women to accept being debased and abused because it is normal. It is not .
Can we stop with the trope “ he is a sick and harassing you because he likes you”. This sucks and is abusive. It sets up women to accept being debased and abused because it is normal. It is not .
Best course of action is to get prepared for years of heartbreak as he cheats on you again and again. You keep it together for the children once you are married and have him leave you eventually for a younger woman once’s your best years are behind you and you have wasted your youth on a man who never really loved you. Just get yourself ready for that and you will be fine.
I had the exact same thing happen. When I moved in, my partner was abstractly “allergic” to me but we couldn’t find the exact culprit. So I went through all my personal care products — skin care, hair care, deodorant, fragrance, toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner, body wash, shave cream, you name it. Through an exhaustive trial and error, cross referencing, and research process, we determined he was allergic to Ethylhexylglycerine, Methylchloroisothiazolinone, and Methylisothiazolinone. I immediately cut everything out we had containing those ingredients and, in my opinion, upgraded to better personal care stuff that works for both our needs. I’d rather be comfortably close with my partner than a shampoo or conditioner so the process was worth it to me. Did I have to part with some expensive stuff that I loved like fantastic hair care? Yes. I gave it all away to friends. But I was able to find replacements that gave the same final result. It’s possible. And with you offering to pay for it, she really doesn’t have any excuse.
They both use, commas, quite a lot, outside of the normal, comma use. That's interesting.
If you're real people and not a silly writing exercise, you both suck and shouldn't be together. Britney Spears wrote a song about y'all…I bet you're already hearing it in your head right now.
Absolutely not. Splitting expenses is one thing, like utilities and insurance, but paying him “rent” when he doesn’t need to pay a mortgage is ridiculous. It sounds like he wants to be your landlord, not your boyfriend.