I feel your struggle and heartbreak seeing a friend lose themselves in this situation. The unfortunate truth is that in the end, you can't control her life.
All you can do is be there. Willing to listen. Giving advice and still show appreciation for her.You can try to stop her from making bad decisions. But in the end… it is still her decision.
Dont beat yourself up over it if she decides not to listen. She's going through a difficult phase and she can't see her worth and what to do against these feelings.
But she will get over it eventually… and she'll appreciate you for having stuck through all of it.
She needs therapy. She’s extremely insecure about something and it’s showing up as these dreams and they won’t go away until she works through them and it’s not fair or healthy to be taking it out on you.
If I initiate to bring dinner at her place with her kid around, would that be being pushy? I was just thinking I don’t want her to carve out time specifically for me given that her schedule is super packed already.
Also, how does he have this huge family with mom, dad, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins galore, friends who are marrying but has simultaneously 'not been around a lot of healthy relationships'. It sounds like that is something you've made up in your head to excuse your shitty relationship.
Yes, it’s homophobic and invalidating to real lesbians to spread fake ‘lesbian magically becomes attracted to man!’ stories.
Yes, it’s really ignorant to not understand that there is a difference between attraction and gender presentation. To not understand that how someone views themselves doesn’t magically change depending on who they are attracted to.
I disagree. He broke the arm of the man who slapped his wife to assure he thinks twice before ever doing it again. He’s probably slapped more women in his life than we could ever count. You DO know how they treat women in her home country, right? She would likely be killed in her home country now. The men in that culture kill women for not wearing head covers. Fuck them.
Annulment. I'm so sorry for you, but get an annulment so you're off the hook legally and if you want to he can earn his trust back or whatever. But legally you need to protect yourself, and 3 months of leniency will cost you an actual divorce in the end
I feel your struggle and heartbreak seeing a friend lose themselves in this situation. The unfortunate truth is that in the end, you can't control her life.
All you can do is be there. Willing to listen. Giving advice and still show appreciation for her.You can try to stop her from making bad decisions. But in the end… it is still her decision.
Dont beat yourself up over it if she decides not to listen. She's going through a difficult phase and she can't see her worth and what to do against these feelings.
But she will get over it eventually… and she'll appreciate you for having stuck through all of it.
As long as it’s understood that you’ll have sex with whoever you like as well…
Pretend to forgive her so you can delete the images than break up permanently
She needs therapy. She’s extremely insecure about something and it’s showing up as these dreams and they won’t go away until she works through them and it’s not fair or healthy to be taking it out on you.
If I initiate to bring dinner at her place with her kid around, would that be being pushy? I was just thinking I don’t want her to carve out time specifically for me given that her schedule is super packed already.
Religious trauma comes in many shapes and sizes.
You'd be surprised what someone might do when afraid of eternal damnation or worse, the scorn of their peers.
Its usually just late at night though
Oh girl. No.
Also, how does he have this huge family with mom, dad, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins galore, friends who are marrying but has simultaneously 'not been around a lot of healthy relationships'. It sounds like that is something you've made up in your head to excuse your shitty relationship.
Yes, it’s homophobic and invalidating to real lesbians to spread fake ‘lesbian magically becomes attracted to man!’ stories.
Yes, it’s really ignorant to not understand that there is a difference between attraction and gender presentation. To not understand that how someone views themselves doesn’t magically change depending on who they are attracted to.
I disagree. He broke the arm of the man who slapped his wife to assure he thinks twice before ever doing it again. He’s probably slapped more women in his life than we could ever count. You DO know how they treat women in her home country, right? She would likely be killed in her home country now. The men in that culture kill women for not wearing head covers. Fuck them.
Annulment. I'm so sorry for you, but get an annulment so you're off the hook legally and if you want to he can earn his trust back or whatever. But legally you need to protect yourself, and 3 months of leniency will cost you an actual divorce in the end
Is your gf dating you or Jenna?
Ah, thank you. I didn't realize that OP was one of the numerous spammers in this sub.