I wouldn't be able to sleep near this person ever again. I really recommend you dump this one. A fun way to initiate sex should always start with consent.
Or not. I’m 44, got my first ink at 18. The first couple I got are a little silly, and certainly not what I would get if I was going in to get worked on today, but I in no way regret the decision. It was a time in my life and it represents that.
You’ve tried to address the issue with him, but he’s not interested in fixing it. The only decision left is whether you want to leave him or keep living this way.
I vote leave. Having been divorced, I’m a big fan of it. Staying in unhealthy relationships is not worth it!
I really had to think about this because it’s a difficult one. In the end, I decided that I would adopt something that I (unfortunately) had to utilise for my own mother’s funeral.
There was a family member (by marriage) who had stolen from Mum, had bullied her, abused her and humiliated her. I don’t want to go into any more detail. But the fact is, so hostile would Mother have been to the presence of this woman, it would almost have negated her entire funeral, had the lady been there.
I wanted to have a loving, peaceful and dignified funeral for Mum, but what could I do? The woman had insisted that she was going to appear. At the risk of sounding extremely pompous, Mum and I (and my sister) were all brought up to be ladies. The thief/bully was not. I didn’t much fancy a slanging match (which could easily turn physical) at the door of the funeral. And this would surely happen, regardless of how peaceful and quiet I was-if I were barring the door to her entry.
Anyhoo, the solution presented itself, actually. I was approached by another woman who had known the family member for decades. Like everyone else who knew her intimately, she absolutely hated her. She had also had some dealings with Mum, and (like everyone who knew her), had nothing but the greatest respect for her. Although we had all kept quiet about the family member’s mistreatment of Mum, the family member had loudly boasted of it, which had incensed the other woman. Indeed, I had heard a rumour that she had happened across the family member (who was bigger than herself, but less courageous, apparently), in a local supermarket and chased her around the aisles, loudly shouting that she had defrauded a sick, elderly lady out of her life savings.
The other woman, when she approached me, warned me that the family member was intending to crash the funeral. I nodded, because I already knew. Then the woman asked if I would mind if she herself could attend. I told her that she was a friend, and was very welcome.
“Great!” She said, excitedly. “I’ve got my snooker cue and I’m going to be out the front. If I see that (I’m not going to swear in front of you): if I see that coming from the car park, she’s going to wish she’d never been born”. She looked very pleased with herself.
The day arrived, and I can honestly say I was relaxed, and able to concentrate on Mum’s funeral without giving a single second’s thought to whether that family member turned up. I had 100% faith in that little lady with her snooker cue and the righteous fire in her belly. It turned out that, warned about what was awaiting her, the miscreant decided to give it a miss.
There must be someone (probably several people, by the sound of it) who hates this swine as much as you do, and who has similarly suffered at his hands. Get a couple of them together, introduce them as “bouncers”, give them a little badge if necessary, with “official gatekeeper” on it, and station them on the front of the venue. The snooker cue would be a huge overreaction in your instance: just a couple of guys with crossed arms, barring the entrance to anyone wearing a clown suit.
Totally agree. I’ve tried convincing my parrot NOT to invaded Italy while on acid, and temporarily named him blue ally. Yet.. I’ve been in a room with strangers/friends without my partner and never ONCE crossed any type of line with them! Substances sometimes bring out the worst in people, aka.. what’s already there beneath the surface.
I think that she's inconsiderate and is basically telling you it's over. Who picks a 50 day time out? She's treating you like some sort of child by saying that. No respect for you…..
You think she has low libido?
I wouldn't be able to sleep near this person ever again. I really recommend you dump this one. A fun way to initiate sex should always start with consent.
Or not. I’m 44, got my first ink at 18. The first couple I got are a little silly, and certainly not what I would get if I was going in to get worked on today, but I in no way regret the decision. It was a time in my life and it represents that.
You’ve tried to address the issue with him, but he’s not interested in fixing it. The only decision left is whether you want to leave him or keep living this way.
I vote leave. Having been divorced, I’m a big fan of it. Staying in unhealthy relationships is not worth it!
Son maybe I dodged a bullet not moving into her place so fast? Lol
I really had to think about this because it’s a difficult one. In the end, I decided that I would adopt something that I (unfortunately) had to utilise for my own mother’s funeral.
There was a family member (by marriage) who had stolen from Mum, had bullied her, abused her and humiliated her. I don’t want to go into any more detail. But the fact is, so hostile would Mother have been to the presence of this woman, it would almost have negated her entire funeral, had the lady been there.
I wanted to have a loving, peaceful and dignified funeral for Mum, but what could I do? The woman had insisted that she was going to appear. At the risk of sounding extremely pompous, Mum and I (and my sister) were all brought up to be ladies. The thief/bully was not. I didn’t much fancy a slanging match (which could easily turn physical) at the door of the funeral. And this would surely happen, regardless of how peaceful and quiet I was-if I were barring the door to her entry.
Anyhoo, the solution presented itself, actually. I was approached by another woman who had known the family member for decades. Like everyone else who knew her intimately, she absolutely hated her. She had also had some dealings with Mum, and (like everyone who knew her), had nothing but the greatest respect for her. Although we had all kept quiet about the family member’s mistreatment of Mum, the family member had loudly boasted of it, which had incensed the other woman. Indeed, I had heard a rumour that she had happened across the family member (who was bigger than herself, but less courageous, apparently), in a local supermarket and chased her around the aisles, loudly shouting that she had defrauded a sick, elderly lady out of her life savings.
The other woman, when she approached me, warned me that the family member was intending to crash the funeral. I nodded, because I already knew. Then the woman asked if I would mind if she herself could attend. I told her that she was a friend, and was very welcome.
“Great!” She said, excitedly. “I’ve got my snooker cue and I’m going to be out the front. If I see that (I’m not going to swear in front of you): if I see that coming from the car park, she’s going to wish she’d never been born”. She looked very pleased with herself.
The day arrived, and I can honestly say I was relaxed, and able to concentrate on Mum’s funeral without giving a single second’s thought to whether that family member turned up. I had 100% faith in that little lady with her snooker cue and the righteous fire in her belly. It turned out that, warned about what was awaiting her, the miscreant decided to give it a miss.
There must be someone (probably several people, by the sound of it) who hates this swine as much as you do, and who has similarly suffered at his hands. Get a couple of them together, introduce them as “bouncers”, give them a little badge if necessary, with “official gatekeeper” on it, and station them on the front of the venue. The snooker cue would be a huge overreaction in your instance: just a couple of guys with crossed arms, barring the entrance to anyone wearing a clown suit.
Totally agree. I’ve tried convincing my parrot NOT to invaded Italy while on acid, and temporarily named him blue ally. Yet.. I’ve been in a room with strangers/friends without my partner and never ONCE crossed any type of line with them! Substances sometimes bring out the worst in people, aka.. what’s already there beneath the surface.
Tldr: boyfriend with robot fetish with past cheating has hid from me him being on fetish discord servers. Makes him difficult to trust.
This is way too much fetish for a non-kinky person to put up with. Let him go. He needs to be free to find his robo-domme.
And you need to be free to find a guy who is more aligned with your sexual and relationship needs.
You booked at one bed air bnb purposefully because you want to sleep with him.
I think that she's inconsiderate and is basically telling you it's over. Who picks a 50 day time out? She's treating you like some sort of child by saying that. No respect for you…..