It sounds like no one's been that willing to make a travel sacrifice so far, but I think you, your husband, and your family are going to need to do that to make this all work.
Two weeks is a long time for your husband to have to be away from your baby. Can you take shorter trips even if it's not the most inexpensive way to do it? Can you take one or two trips a year instead of four?
Why can't your family use their travel miles to come see you at home?
Can your husband suck it up and come with you for a longer trip to see your family? Can you stay in a hotel so he has more space to himself?
I get it, it sucks to live far away from your family. But you were pretty lucky to be able to travel to visit them eight weeks a year. Now you have a kid with your husband and the dynamic is different. I think if you compromise a little it'll be o.k.
This has happened to me, too. I think for reddit, you have to do a double return in order to make a paragraph.
I once posted this lovely list of questions or answers or something. All numbered, all one under the other, and then a paragraph separated each ….um, paragraph.
Only it didn’t. It posted as one long giant hunk of words and numbers and I was shocked and ashamed.
So I had to go back in and add another return in between paragraphs.
I’m sorry you suffered the same fate!
And while we’re discussing formatting- an asterisk before and after a word or phrase used to result in the text showing as italics. It doesn’t do that anymore. Also how do you make your text bold? Are we using HTML tags now?
Nope. Not a crime. And I gave my viewpoint. But this is not a “let’s start a discussion about random stuff” board. It’s for relationship advice. So what advice are you looking for here?
Personally, I think he's lying about what the issue is, or else he's simply subconsciously misinterpreting your tone of voice, but you might as well start by taking him at face value and assume he's telling you the truth. Some people genuinely do have a naturally off-putting tone of voice or facial expressions without realizing it. This can especially happen if you were raised in different cultures–a certain tone of voice in one culture can mean something different in a different culture, for example.
Even though this is totally unreasonable one level, give it a try: Literally ask him to help you practice your tone of voice. Try phrasing requests different ways with different tones of voice and ask him what works best for him. You could even use a voice memo app to record the conversation so you can refer back to it.
Personally, I think that on some level he just resents that he should ever have to do anything you ask of him, but that's not really a fair assumption, since I don't know either one of you.
So…your boyfriend hasn’t asked you to cut off your friend. That’s good. It would be unhealthy, controlling behavior if he did. And you’d be a real jerk to ditch good friends for some guy you’re dating.
Abusive husband/wife/boyfriend etc…isolate their partners as a way to control them. You are being manipulated to feel guilty. You are being blamed for his life…for his family's failure..for him not being independent…
Please leave. You are in an abusive relationship. It will get worse when you have kids. He may even try to baby trap you.
You are young. Don't settle for anyone treating you like this. You deserve better.
It sounds like no one's been that willing to make a travel sacrifice so far, but I think you, your husband, and your family are going to need to do that to make this all work.
Two weeks is a long time for your husband to have to be away from your baby. Can you take shorter trips even if it's not the most inexpensive way to do it? Can you take one or two trips a year instead of four?
Why can't your family use their travel miles to come see you at home?
Can your husband suck it up and come with you for a longer trip to see your family? Can you stay in a hotel so he has more space to himself?
I get it, it sucks to live far away from your family. But you were pretty lucky to be able to travel to visit them eight weeks a year. Now you have a kid with your husband and the dynamic is different. I think if you compromise a little it'll be o.k.
I don’t think it’s enjoyable on top – all just performance as a female
This has happened to me, too. I think for reddit, you have to do a double return in order to make a paragraph.
I once posted this lovely list of questions or answers or something. All numbered, all one under the other, and then a paragraph separated each ….um, paragraph.
Only it didn’t. It posted as one long giant hunk of words and numbers and I was shocked and ashamed.
So I had to go back in and add another return in between paragraphs.
I’m sorry you suffered the same fate!
And while we’re discussing formatting- an asterisk before and after a word or phrase used to result in the text showing as italics. It doesn’t do that anymore. Also how do you make your text bold? Are we using HTML tags now?
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Are we?
Hmmmm?
The above is an experiment!
Yeah pretty confused how she has a curfew but seems to be out all night?
Nope. Not a crime. And I gave my viewpoint. But this is not a “let’s start a discussion about random stuff” board. It’s for relationship advice. So what advice are you looking for here?
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Personally, I think he's lying about what the issue is, or else he's simply subconsciously misinterpreting your tone of voice, but you might as well start by taking him at face value and assume he's telling you the truth. Some people genuinely do have a naturally off-putting tone of voice or facial expressions without realizing it. This can especially happen if you were raised in different cultures–a certain tone of voice in one culture can mean something different in a different culture, for example.
Even though this is totally unreasonable one level, give it a try: Literally ask him to help you practice your tone of voice. Try phrasing requests different ways with different tones of voice and ask him what works best for him. You could even use a voice memo app to record the conversation so you can refer back to it.
Personally, I think that on some level he just resents that he should ever have to do anything you ask of him, but that's not really a fair assumption, since I don't know either one of you.
Red flag for sure. Why would she care if his wife won’t find out .
Why did she erase the messages if there is nothing to hide . Unless she erases everyone’s texts after reading
So…your boyfriend hasn’t asked you to cut off your friend. That’s good. It would be unhealthy, controlling behavior if he did. And you’d be a real jerk to ditch good friends for some guy you’re dating.
This has to be a troll. Fuck off.
Abusive husband/wife/boyfriend etc…isolate their partners as a way to control them. You are being manipulated to feel guilty. You are being blamed for his life…for his family's failure..for him not being independent…
Please leave. You are in an abusive relationship. It will get worse when you have kids. He may even try to baby trap you.
You are young. Don't settle for anyone treating you like this. You deserve better.
No. Just pack his shit and put him out.