His daughter never made an agreement to not contact her father. And your mother is complicit in denying a woman access to her father her entire life, so if the consequence of that is less money for her, Iβm ok with that. She decided to punish and deny a child. She now shares responsibility for how that effected that child.
She still needs to be legally allowed to work in order to be paid cash in hand. If she's hired, her employer is breaking the law. If her employer is deliberately hiring people who are not legally allowed to work, then they're taking advantage of her situation.
Be straightforward! After you talk for a bit tell him something along the lines of βI really enjoy talking to you and would like to get to know you better. Would you want to exchange numbers?β
So, this man. Does he tell you nice things? Give you compliments? Buy you presents? Claim that he doesn't usually date people as young as you but that you're special because you're much more mature than your peers?
There are important considerations in all that you've mentioned. But, none of them will help you get better. If you don't concentrate on caring for yourself then everything can only get worse. IMO your happiness is paramount if either of you is going improve your lives. Being happy should be your goal. Best wishes.
Right? Most comments wanna lambast this guy, seems from her responses he has some pretty good reasons to be suspicious lol.
He should change his diet, in that he should eat shit.
His daughter never made an agreement to not contact her father. And your mother is complicit in denying a woman access to her father her entire life, so if the consequence of that is less money for her, Iβm ok with that. She decided to punish and deny a child. She now shares responsibility for how that effected that child.
And the choking dramatically increases the probability that he's gonna kill her.
You're missing my point.
She still needs to be legally allowed to work in order to be paid cash in hand. If she's hired, her employer is breaking the law. If her employer is deliberately hiring people who are not legally allowed to work, then they're taking advantage of her situation.
Reading your posting history I donβt even know why you want to salvage that train-wreck.
Be straightforward! After you talk for a bit tell him something along the lines of βI really enjoy talking to you and would like to get to know you better. Would you want to exchange numbers?β
I am confused.
He wants complements for participating in the relationship?… A participation trophy?
Those sound like a bare minimum level kind of stuff, a baseline standard that should be in a relationship.
Not going to lie, those sound like subtle signs of red flags:
You should appreciate me for the sole reason I exist in your life. My time is not an entitlement, its a gift to you.
So, this man. Does he tell you nice things? Give you compliments? Buy you presents? Claim that he doesn't usually date people as young as you but that you're special because you're much more mature than your peers?
Just do it then. What's the big deal? It'll put him at ease and you guys can move on.
There are important considerations in all that you've mentioned. But, none of them will help you get better. If you don't concentrate on caring for yourself then everything can only get worse. IMO your happiness is paramount if either of you is going improve your lives. Being happy should be your goal. Best wishes.