Do it. Preserve yourself and think if he’s really the man you want to spend the rest of your life. If it’s fair to keep your mouth shut forever (because he’ll only get worse). I wish you well.
She could have been instrested at the start but obviously that died pretty quickly You need to leave this poor woman alone, I'm not trying to spesificly be mean but there's no nice way to tell someone (you) sound Lowkey obsessed with her for having barely even known her
The purpose of therapy is to hash out/make aware problems underneath that make your daily life harder.
It sounds like your gf is looking for problems because she's now paranoid due to Susan's recent breakup with an abusive ex. If you've been together 6 years, accusing someone of potentially being an abuser is just cruel and unfair to you. The irony of her demanding you to go to therapy is that she needs it if this is her response to Susan's situation.
A brain parasite like this will sabotage every relationship she enters for the rest of her life if this isn't addressed.
That's her problem, not yours. This sounds like the only way this relationship is worth salvaging is couple's therapy; mainly for her. If she's this deeply afraid of her partner secretly becoming an abuser one day, she has no business being in a relationship.
6 years is a long time to commit to someone, if you feel that this is worth saving. It's this or bust.
What? You want him to not say anything and simultaneously cry about it, to who? To her? I'm confused.
I also don't know what we're lying about. What? “It was a shock to me that you don't like me as much as I like you.” That is an absolute truth, that's exactly what happened. He didn't break down sobbing in the middle of the dance floor.
Forgiveness is for your benefit, not his. Even if you do forgive him, that doesn't mean you need to contact him and have any kind of relationship with him. It sounds like you are doing the right things by taking care of yourself and seeing a therapist. I would leave the past where it belongs.
They don't know I'm queer, also, I doubt that they'd physically harm me themselves but I sometimes wonder if they would trick me into going to conversion therapy “for my own good”.
I do live with them, but I can't get out right now because I'm in a complicated legal situation.
Do it. Preserve yourself and think if he’s really the man you want to spend the rest of your life. If it’s fair to keep your mouth shut forever (because he’ll only get worse). I wish you well.
She could have been instrested at the start but obviously that died pretty quickly You need to leave this poor woman alone, I'm not trying to spesificly be mean but there's no nice way to tell someone (you) sound Lowkey obsessed with her for having barely even known her
This is wrong.
The purpose of therapy is to hash out/make aware problems underneath that make your daily life harder.
It sounds like your gf is looking for problems because she's now paranoid due to Susan's recent breakup with an abusive ex. If you've been together 6 years, accusing someone of potentially being an abuser is just cruel and unfair to you. The irony of her demanding you to go to therapy is that she needs it if this is her response to Susan's situation.
A brain parasite like this will sabotage every relationship she enters for the rest of her life if this isn't addressed.
That's her problem, not yours. This sounds like the only way this relationship is worth salvaging is couple's therapy; mainly for her. If she's this deeply afraid of her partner secretly becoming an abuser one day, she has no business being in a relationship.
6 years is a long time to commit to someone, if you feel that this is worth saving. It's this or bust.
What? You want him to not say anything and simultaneously cry about it, to who? To her? I'm confused.
I also don't know what we're lying about. What? “It was a shock to me that you don't like me as much as I like you.” That is an absolute truth, that's exactly what happened. He didn't break down sobbing in the middle of the dance floor.
Forgiveness is for your benefit, not his. Even if you do forgive him, that doesn't mean you need to contact him and have any kind of relationship with him. It sounds like you are doing the right things by taking care of yourself and seeing a therapist. I would leave the past where it belongs.
They don't know I'm queer, also, I doubt that they'd physically harm me themselves but I sometimes wonder if they would trick me into going to conversion therapy “for my own good”.
I do live with them, but I can't get out right now because I'm in a complicated legal situation.
Don’t