I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. Yes a crying baby can be triggering (I have one, I should know) but him waking you up to yell at YOU, when it’s not your baby and also he never wants to sleep at his place or use ear plugs is ridiculous. I’m so so glad you are out of that relationship (also having a baby in an apartment is my worst nightmare because I am so stressed when my baby cries that I can’t imagine also stressing about my neighbors being mad)
Understood. The impact was not minimised, I didn’t think of it at all. I realised it when she put my nose in my own poop. I don’t see her lacking in any ways. I’m willing to own up to it all, whether it gets better between us or not. I may not have thought about it at the time, but if it hurts her, then I faulted, big time. Simple as that. I’ll absolutely chat about it seriously, if she gives me the chance to do so. If she doesn’t, or if it’s not enough, I will understand. I appreciate the input.
She stays up because she is irrationally afraid. She probably knows damn well that she IS irrational, but she is not facing her fears and just rolls with it.
And one of the reasons that it works, is that he lets her roll with it as she sees fit.
Eventually, he will have to challenge her fears. The only way to do it is to say “mum, I know that you are not going to like this, but I am going to sleep over at Alicia's as much as I want from now on”, and then just do it.
(Now, I REALLY hope that your name ISN'T Alicia, because THAT would be weird.)
Only way she is EVER going to learn to deal with it, is to get accustomed to it in reasonable, healthy doses. Or swift and more unhealthy doses.
If you look at it like that, you realise that it would probably be easier on her – and as a result, in the long run easier for you – if she is eased into it.
Also, one thing I don't really understand here. He's a grown man. He's working. And he pays half the rent. Why is that ANYTHING weird? It's how he and his mum has settled once and for all that they are equals. She's not leeching on her. He's not leeching on him. I see nothing strange here.
The strange part here is how he let's his respect for his mothers irrational fears get in the way of a good relationship. Help him change that, and that's that.
you are not in a serious relationship
you didn't cheat but you are not honest, you started a relationship with the other man when you changed your place, the man didn't kiss you by chance,
It's not wrong to think that you're actually investing in your career.
I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. Yes a crying baby can be triggering (I have one, I should know) but him waking you up to yell at YOU, when it’s not your baby and also he never wants to sleep at his place or use ear plugs is ridiculous. I’m so so glad you are out of that relationship (also having a baby in an apartment is my worst nightmare because I am so stressed when my baby cries that I can’t imagine also stressing about my neighbors being mad)
If they are gold, have them melted down and cast into another piece of jewelry
Understood. The impact was not minimised, I didn’t think of it at all. I realised it when she put my nose in my own poop. I don’t see her lacking in any ways. I’m willing to own up to it all, whether it gets better between us or not. I may not have thought about it at the time, but if it hurts her, then I faulted, big time. Simple as that. I’ll absolutely chat about it seriously, if she gives me the chance to do so. If she doesn’t, or if it’s not enough, I will understand. I appreciate the input.
Why are you stuck? Can you get help from friends / family to get unstuck faster? Maybe somewhere to live temporarily?
Yea you are a troll, you definitely are here to get a reaction out of the xhe/xer pronounce. Go do something else with your time.
Tax season??
She stays up because she is irrationally afraid. She probably knows damn well that she IS irrational, but she is not facing her fears and just rolls with it.
And one of the reasons that it works, is that he lets her roll with it as she sees fit.
Eventually, he will have to challenge her fears. The only way to do it is to say “mum, I know that you are not going to like this, but I am going to sleep over at Alicia's as much as I want from now on”, and then just do it.
(Now, I REALLY hope that your name ISN'T Alicia, because THAT would be weird.)
Only way she is EVER going to learn to deal with it, is to get accustomed to it in reasonable, healthy doses. Or swift and more unhealthy doses.
If you look at it like that, you realise that it would probably be easier on her – and as a result, in the long run easier for you – if she is eased into it.
Also, one thing I don't really understand here. He's a grown man. He's working. And he pays half the rent. Why is that ANYTHING weird? It's how he and his mum has settled once and for all that they are equals. She's not leeching on her. He's not leeching on him. I see nothing strange here.
The strange part here is how he let's his respect for his mothers irrational fears get in the way of a good relationship. Help him change that, and that's that.
Yeah I understand where you’re coming from.
I 100% agree, it’s an impulse I have in those situations too. OP should let her know he’s hurt