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Date: November 23, 2022
Yes. You should call it quits.
tl;dr – both of us are of Asian background, stuck with 2 sets of parents in this fun house and neither are leaving for various reasons.
Funny you've mentioned COVID. During the peak a year ago, our kids were mostly home schooling and I had to look after the 2 of them on my own while she insists on working in the office because she gets distracted. Do I not get distracted? As an aside, she pulls in 1/3 of what I earn and I know she's being underpaid by about 20% in the current market. We've argued over why isn't she going to get a new job (blaming the recruiters are toxic – let's be real, a candidate is just a number…sorry) and start pulling her own weight financially.
Intimacy is an issue. At first, I get enough action in bed so I don't really complain but as the years goes by, it goes from a once or twice a month to I have to beg her to get something every 6-8 weeks. I said to her, this is hurting my pride and makes me feel emasculated.
She doesn't seem to believe in these mental health thing. For example, our son is diagnosed with ADHD and ASD, I had to beg her to come along to the psychiatrist. I suspect this is all related to her culture where psychology is only a recent thing and psychiatrist is for the straithjacket types. Counsellors is probably more or less like a fortune teller to her as there's no exact science behind it.
My parents have been living with us all the time. We were young and poor initially and now, my parents have made some stupid financial mistakes and not in a position to have a place of their own so they're living with us. My brother FO to overseas so I'm stuck with them. We are from an Asian background but even so, there's enough subtle differences between the culture itself.
Some of my friends and another forum basically advocated to get rid of both sets of parents. My wife disagreed. I've asked her do you want me to kick my parents out? She said no. It's because my parents does a lot of the chores around the house, cooks the food (a lot of the times they pay for the groceries too and my in laws eat it too…I was called being petty when I pointed this out – your parents eat the food bought and cooked by my parents, WTF?), do some of the kids drop off/pick up duty (her parents don't know how to drive) etc so my parents does serve a purpose for being around.
I've offered to buy her parents an apartment so they could move out to their own place. She said no because I'll ended up owning that apartment anyway. Of course, I'll need to take out another mortgage and I can't exactly have their names on it?
Her parents, over the years, have made all sorts of comments/remarks:
– My wife's car is old, why don't you replace it? We'll chip in some $. All talk, no $ ever got delivered.
– We're well off, we can afford our own place and we'll bring x amount over with us to look for a place of our own. So a week after they arrived, I've asked the wife should I take our son to swimming instead of you. She said why? Well don't you need to find time to go house hunting with your parents? That more or less kick started the latest round of arguments as she thought I was trying to push her parents out (yes I am because I can't stand them).
– We'll buy this and that for the grandkids, made plenty of promises but never realised and left the kids a bit annoyed.
Back to the neglect thing…3 years ago coincide with her mum being here more or less full time and she only left 1.5 years ago because COVID is getting worse in my country whereas it was pretty tamed in China at the time.
Are you in a position to help your mother get away from him, and have a safe space until a divorce could go through. If you are, I would get her someplace away from him and let her know that if she needs to escape, if she needs a safe place, she has one and doesn't have to feel trapped. Tell her everything he's done and said, tell her how you're concerned about this kind of alienating, abusive and controlling behavior, and tell her that while you won't dictate her choices, he's forcing you to leave, and you would feel safer if she left with you. If she's not ready, don't push- just let her know you will be there for her if she ever changes her mind.
Cool story, bro. Needs more dragons.
Honestly even when I be honest and express how I feel they still dont see what they did wrong. Trust me im a very communicative person but just certain people like this isnt even worth to communicate with at all.
Oh no I didnt randomly unfollow her, she probably thinks it was random but to me it wasnt. So you see she doesnt think she did anything wrong.
to rephrase it: i dont care to take social media personally i just have fun, you know when we are younger with media we take it very personally thinking its our lives in our phone but it really isnt or we care about who unfollows us or who doesnt follow back like just this age is a waste of time trying to track who unfollows you or doesnt follow back
id just straight up talk to her about it. No new age “im confident our relationship is strong! No insecurity!” bullshit, just straight up honesty and emotions on the situation she just painted to you
If she doesnt take you seriously then then you have your answer
Settling is a tough mean word but in reality in any relationship you don’t find someone who matches everything. That being said telling her how you feel and what your goals and what you think success is along with your ideal family life is important to discuss.
People here stating you need to run need to back off and you need more information first.
Same! I’m reading all the supportive comments and can’t believe my eyes. Yes, crushes happen but the timing is awful and honestly that’s what friends are for. That’s how it usually goes in my small circle:
A: I met this cute guy at work and…
B: SNAP OUT OF IT, YOU’RE MARRIED!
A: yes, m’am!