I think its valid to say. I don't feel like people understand how traumatic stuff can cause you to need more insight in the way of reassurance from looking through a partners phone. I'm not going to pass judgement. I think that it is easy when single and desperate to gravitate towards easy showy women because of sex drive and loneliness. I wouldnt worry about the sexting and photos or videos because from the way you describe it it sounds like porn bots or doctored photos/videos. Also I can look sexy and flawless in camera but I have a whole host of flaws in real life. I would express yourself in a way that is true to you and also kind to him. Do not feel threatened by an image. Unless he is a weirdo (you would know) doctored beauty isn't everyone's cup of tea.maybe he isn't for you, or maybe he simply wasn't mature then. Its worth an honest conversation. But I'll just say this. Sex appeal is about confidence. Just like photography is about lighting and posing. Don't get too inside your head. If he isn't for you, someone else will check those boxes and vice versa.
Im exhausted of living a life I simply don’t want to be here for.
Well, you have kids, it's too late now. This is about them, because what ever you're going through they will have to grow up with worse.
That's just the long and short of it, not saying you don't have my sympathies (I'll probably never get to where you are in life)
The therapy is fine but it feels like it will never be able to help me get my wife back
Nope, you need to cut that tie, because when most women break up, that's it, even if you got back together, she will hate you and make your life worse, the respect is gone.
You need your family around you, you parents, siblings, and kids, your life is for them, they need you, you need them more than your wife than you realise.
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Tell him no means no. He sounds really spoiled. You may want to find someone else who is mature enough to respect when you tell them you’re sore. I mean, he’s horny and you sucked him off. What else can one want?
Oh buddy… she’s only the love of your life because she’s your first real love. You need to move on. She’s clearly more into your brother than you, and she knows you won’t break up with her. She’s just too scared to do it. She might not necessarily want to be with your brother, but she’s over you, and she’s too much of a coward to say anything
Take her off the pedestal, tell her that your mental health is not worth continuing a relationship that just causes you to suffer, and move on with your life. Find someone who actually loves you.
And stop calling her the love of your life! She’s just a woman that didn’t treat you particularly well when you were together. She’s just the first person you loved, and you’re too inexperienced to move on
Words are cheap and easy. Acrions are what counts. Please gather your dignity and self-respect, tell her this isn't working for you at all, find a good therapist who will help you do the work to figure out why you're tolerating this horrible treatment, how you can fully cut ties, and how you can learn the red flags to watch for so you don't get into another relationship like this ever again. Wishing you peace and happiness, OP! (Which you'll never have with her, to be clear. She's using you and seems to enjoy the control she has over you.
Most colleges have free psychological counseling..just saying…anyways, your guy is going to end up alone for the rest of his life, since as you age most people accumulate more sexual experiences. so unless he plans on dating 15 year olds or puritans, he better get some help.
for yourself, move on to someone without his issues with human nature.
Thank you, you are so kind. I told him and he was very understanding actually, not angry at all. He even made me his contact (before) that if he might die, I would be the person who could look into his phone and files. He never even told me that before but yeah it's safe to say I feel a lot lot better now. Thanks again for your empathy
I think its valid to say. I don't feel like people understand how traumatic stuff can cause you to need more insight in the way of reassurance from looking through a partners phone. I'm not going to pass judgement. I think that it is easy when single and desperate to gravitate towards easy showy women because of sex drive and loneliness. I wouldnt worry about the sexting and photos or videos because from the way you describe it it sounds like porn bots or doctored photos/videos. Also I can look sexy and flawless in camera but I have a whole host of flaws in real life. I would express yourself in a way that is true to you and also kind to him. Do not feel threatened by an image. Unless he is a weirdo (you would know) doctored beauty isn't everyone's cup of tea.maybe he isn't for you, or maybe he simply wasn't mature then. Its worth an honest conversation. But I'll just say this. Sex appeal is about confidence. Just like photography is about lighting and posing. Don't get too inside your head. If he isn't for you, someone else will check those boxes and vice versa.
That’s not right
Just say it’s financial irresponsible with out the correct skill set which includes
Data analytics Video editing Graphic designs Buisness management Getting lucky Marketing Ect.
Im exhausted of living a life I simply don’t want to be here for.
Well, you have kids, it's too late now. This is about them, because what ever you're going through they will have to grow up with worse.
That's just the long and short of it, not saying you don't have my sympathies (I'll probably never get to where you are in life)
The therapy is fine but it feels like it will never be able to help me get my wife back
Nope, you need to cut that tie, because when most women break up, that's it, even if you got back together, she will hate you and make your life worse, the respect is gone.
You need your family around you, you parents, siblings, and kids, your life is for them, they need you, you need them more than your wife than you realise.
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Tell him no means no. He sounds really spoiled. You may want to find someone else who is mature enough to respect when you tell them you’re sore. I mean, he’s horny and you sucked him off. What else can one want?
Seconded, not even close.
Ah so… we're betting on your mom?
One of you has to get out of it.
Oh buddy… she’s only the love of your life because she’s your first real love. You need to move on. She’s clearly more into your brother than you, and she knows you won’t break up with her. She’s just too scared to do it. She might not necessarily want to be with your brother, but she’s over you, and she’s too much of a coward to say anything
Take her off the pedestal, tell her that your mental health is not worth continuing a relationship that just causes you to suffer, and move on with your life. Find someone who actually loves you.
And stop calling her the love of your life! She’s just a woman that didn’t treat you particularly well when you were together. She’s just the first person you loved, and you’re too inexperienced to move on
Yes. You should. Communication is key in any relationship
Words are cheap and easy. Acrions are what counts. Please gather your dignity and self-respect, tell her this isn't working for you at all, find a good therapist who will help you do the work to figure out why you're tolerating this horrible treatment, how you can fully cut ties, and how you can learn the red flags to watch for so you don't get into another relationship like this ever again. Wishing you peace and happiness, OP! (Which you'll never have with her, to be clear. She's using you and seems to enjoy the control she has over you.
Most colleges have free psychological counseling..just saying…anyways, your guy is going to end up alone for the rest of his life, since as you age most people accumulate more sexual experiences. so unless he plans on dating 15 year olds or puritans, he better get some help.
for yourself, move on to someone without his issues with human nature.
Thank you, you are so kind. I told him and he was very understanding actually, not angry at all. He even made me his contact (before) that if he might die, I would be the person who could look into his phone and files. He never even told me that before but yeah it's safe to say I feel a lot lot better now. Thanks again for your empathy