That's controlling; you're forcing her to choose between a trip and you. It doesn't matter if she (possibly out of guilt and to not have you be more upset with her) agreed with you.
The reason that this isn't a great idea is because being controlling/controlled can escalate very quickly. What will be the next thing you don't approve of? What is the next way she will need prove her trustworthiness after she skips this trip?
Another thing to consider is that you are both adults. Isn't it much better to allow someone to live their life and choose to come back to you? If they make a wrong choice, it might hurt like hell but you dust yourself off and move on with or without them.
You have a bumpy road ahead of you and I wish you both the best. You're both young and she made a big mistake but owned up to it and it's great of you to honor what you two have built so far.
Your friend studied with a girl who he also had a relationship with and your takeaway was 'wow it must be that simple! Let me ask that girl who's nice to me in study group if she wants to fuck me. I mean I'm sure that this is how it works. Why am I being called a creep??'
This one isn’t worth it. He’s not bright and is willing to repeat anything he’s heard on social media. It’s called negging and he thinks it’ll work on you. Show him it won’t (by walking away).
I am sorry, this makes me so sad! Get rid of him. He sounds horrible. [I have a fur baby that I look at as my 3rd child ?❤️] You love your dog like she's a human, and that's OK! He doesn’t view pets the same way, and that's OK. Him trying to impose his views on pets is NOT OK. You guys have a glaring incompatibility, and it will only get worse.
It's time to end it. Your baby doesn't deserve to be treated this way by him or manhandled by his disrespectful children. They need to learn that the growl is her way of communicating her boundaries since she can't use words. If she growls, she is saying, “Stay back.” If they ignore her warning and she does bite them, that is on the children for ignoring her boundaries.
Nowhere near enough info here for anyone to make a judgment
Good thing I'm a dog person then.
Well said.
That's controlling; you're forcing her to choose between a trip and you. It doesn't matter if she (possibly out of guilt and to not have you be more upset with her) agreed with you.
The reason that this isn't a great idea is because being controlling/controlled can escalate very quickly. What will be the next thing you don't approve of? What is the next way she will need prove her trustworthiness after she skips this trip?
Another thing to consider is that you are both adults. Isn't it much better to allow someone to live their life and choose to come back to you? If they make a wrong choice, it might hurt like hell but you dust yourself off and move on with or without them.
You have a bumpy road ahead of you and I wish you both the best. You're both young and she made a big mistake but owned up to it and it's great of you to honor what you two have built so far.
You are clueless.
Your friend studied with a girl who he also had a relationship with and your takeaway was 'wow it must be that simple! Let me ask that girl who's nice to me in study group if she wants to fuck me. I mean I'm sure that this is how it works. Why am I being called a creep??'
Lol
What is her reasoning?
How is your bf working on his personal issues? Does he have professional support?
Ask him out again.
This one isn’t worth it. He’s not bright and is willing to repeat anything he’s heard on social media. It’s called negging and he thinks it’ll work on you. Show him it won’t (by walking away).
Hang in there. I can't really tell what is going on from this post, but hopefully the therapy will help.
The more you cry and beg, the more you'll push him away, so try to be strong.
My heart goes out to you. Wish I had something better to help you.
I am sorry, this makes me so sad! Get rid of him. He sounds horrible. [I have a fur baby that I look at as my 3rd child ?❤️] You love your dog like she's a human, and that's OK! He doesn’t view pets the same way, and that's OK. Him trying to impose his views on pets is NOT OK. You guys have a glaring incompatibility, and it will only get worse.
It's time to end it. Your baby doesn't deserve to be treated this way by him or manhandled by his disrespectful children. They need to learn that the growl is her way of communicating her boundaries since she can't use words. If she growls, she is saying, “Stay back.” If they ignore her warning and she does bite them, that is on the children for ignoring her boundaries.