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Date: October 6, 2022
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“Hello I'm a male boyfriend (18f) my male boyfriend (76m) has been telling me about how men love p enises way more than v aginas is this true and how true is it?”
Yep, that's abuse.
He's nice some of the time because if he was mean all of the time you would leave. But the back-and-forth keeps you stuck. In fact, the rush of good feeling you have when his nice switch is flipped is addictive, and keeps you stuck. Abusers know how to abuse you so you'll stay, like parasites know how to suck your blood without killing you. If you die, the parasite needs a new host.
Ehh that won’t really help me haha. I’m on a social media cleanse and he doesn’t reach out to me so really it doesn’t make a difference. You can check my post history and see how poorly I’ve been dealing with this entire situation.
In short, we broke up a year ago, we kept in contact the entire year, spoke to each other like a normal couple until mid year he asked for me to come back and I said no because I didn’t see he made any changes, he started talking to someone else but still spoke to me, but he made me aware since he wanted to be honest, told me that he almost broke it off twice with her so I assumed he wasn’t pursuing anything with her after, he still called me by my pet name in September, said I miss you, and then all of a sudden became official with the girl in October, still kept in contact with me and finally told me in November that he was dating the girl because I called him and said I missed him. He told me he felt the same way but that he now has this going on. It was after all of THIS that he said we weren’t compatible lol
Nah it’s just straight up hiding the truth from Op can’t see how y’all seeing it this way
You shouldn’t date until you can learn to get over this. It’s a you problem. Maybe consider therapy because this really isn’t something that matters or affects you.
Before you feel worse about anything try and ask him why it changed and be calm about it. Because there could be an underlying reason for it maybe he can't afford to live that way anymore and is embarrassed or ashamed. And this was his subtle way of saying he's struggling too. A talk about what is going on could help relieve some tension. Also maybe he thinks you are only using him for his money.
Maybe get a financial advisor…savings for a retirement…savings for a home…savings for a vacation…etc that he needs to put money in every month then maybe he will be more responsible and not spend money on stupid stuff.
Boyfriends should not be therapists, therapists should not be boyfriends, and you should be neither, at least to this person.
They aren't your friends. They are using you as a punching bag. I would drop out of this group.
It’s such a scary thing but please, please meet him. You will not regret it!
we arent sure yet, both of us dont mind living in each others countries
Is the friend of the opposite sex or are you queer in your sexual orientation?
These two factors matter as to why he may have gotten upset.
At the end day it's your body and you two need to communicate what constitutes “cheating” and what doesn't.
My point was that it isn't as much of a joke as the rest of the subreddit is making it out to be
Yeah, it really is.
Stop saying anything about what she should do unless she specifically asks. Literally just listen and validate her feelings.
Soubds like you are already emotionally cheating on him and I feel bad for him. You should tell himand figure out if you really love him at all… Cause you hiding this shows you don't.
Let her go to the concert obviously. Graduations are boring af.
I sometimes pee outside with the dog, sometimes pee in the garden, sometimes I pee around different corners of the yard. Change in temperature causes men to want to urinate.
No trust = bad relationship
Sorry bro
I get what you are saying, but that`s the thing, im not pretending to be there friend they know full well what i feel towards them. i fell in love with them because there one of the few people i met that have a similar life goal then i. And it`s hard because of the fact that being with her makes me feel happy in a way that for a long time i haven't felt
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So only “alpha males” are allowed to have cats in an apartment that they share with a roommate? You are ridiculous, man.
Well i wouldn't stay with someone who lied about sex if he gave me an STD. He's showing hes untrustworthy.
Sounds like he was grooming you.
As a father who has daughters I wish I could be there to lend you the confidence you need. However I know that you can find the strength in yourself to be ok.
Do people just give up their lives to move cross country for partners (aside from 90 day fiancé)?
Sure, some do, but most are smart about it (e.g. they have plenty of savings, they already have a job lined up, they often get their own place first, they move for other reasons than just their SO, they have a back-up plan).
You got annoyed with her because she got up to get water?
Ok first off all, calling it “relations” is kind of weird. Secondly, she is a decade older than you. Find someone your own age.
Dump this “friend” ASAP – he either wants to get into your pants or your boyfriend's!
I agree. I tried to do it face to face and he knocked my basket of clothes all over the floor and through a rage-filled fit. He also will hug me and curl in a little ball holding me. And it makes me sad
Great nick aswell
Please, from someone who has been in this exact situation(excluding the engagement), LEAVE. You're so young. What you want at 18 will NOT be what you want at 22. A relationship where you can't say no to sex is such a red flag.
Okay, you know the wedding is not the finish line, it is an event. It is literally the beginning of the rest of your life. Is this truly how you envision the next decades?
If you can’t get you Fiancé to listen to you now, before you are locked in by marriage (and god forbid, kids) be prepared to be treated poorly for the rest of your marriage.
Leaving is only not an option if you are content with being disrespected by your Partner for the rest of your life. Are you good with that?
He gets mad when you push him off…. You mean he gets mad when you fight back against rape? If you're saying no and he is still trying, the word you are missing is rape. That is not a fiance, that is not a good man, that is a rapist and an abuser.
Also, did she forget that monogamy goes both ways? It doesn't limit women's sexual freedom any more than it does men's. Both people are now limited to having each other as a partner.
If it was designed specifically to limit women's sexual freedom, monogamy would only be applied to women. We have so many patriarchal concepts that's only applied to women, so there's no reason that wouldn't also be the case for monogamy if limiting women's sexual freedom was its purpose.
Yes, it’s a free country. Which means if people hate your jokes, they don’t have to hang out with you.
Same with my mom… No dementia in my case, just straight up brainwashing lol
What happens when she gets a job and is the only woman who works there? Are you going to feel this way about her coworkers? You are correct that this is a you problem, and it is on you to fix how you feel about this. It is not her responsibility to make you feel better about the fact that half the world is male and she will have interactions with males her whole life.
I’m not trying to be harsh, just realistic. I have had boyfriends who were jealous of my male friends/coworkers…that really sucks because the implication (to me) is that he viewed me as was untrustworthy… no relationship like that can survive.
He's an athlete at your high school?
I appreciate this. I’m sorry you had to go through that. Gotta be tough with the kids.
It is possible. My mum drinks but very rarely now, but when she does i start to panic and hide in my room like i did with my dad. Every time i was left home with him i would never want to leave my room or even bump into him if he was drunk. Not something you want to put up with even in a relationship.
YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER…… REPEAT – YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER…. REPEAT…YOU NEED TO LISTEN…. YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER….AND THE LIFE OF YOUR CHILD IS IN DANGER…….
But do you take the silica packet from your new pair of shoes and hang onto it for your dried goods?
This was literally my first thought
You knew she comes with a past, when you got into it with her, right? It seems like a very sensible, sorted thing tbh. But your feelings are valid too.
Ask her when you get to meet John and what are her plans with regards to you being her serious partner. What is your relationship with the kid? Ideally you'd be a big part of their life. You may not replace the kid's father but you definitely should be there in all his celebrations, big and small.
Does your girl feel indebted to John and his family? I know I would. But she should make an effort to gradually include you for things.
I disagree with the entire second half of this post and I have autism.
You don’t have cameras in or around your house?? Especially with your insecurities.
If that’s true then just know that you made your ex develop Stockholm Syndrome. Go to therapy before you start dating again.
I don’t think there’s a set average; it’s going to differ for each couple. Some couples will see each other almost everyday, some only on weekends like you and your girlfriend. I’m wondering if part of the reason she’s upset is that you consider one night a week to be plenty and aren’t bothered by not seeing more of her, even if you can’t do anything about it at the moment.
OP- You don’t know that your dad doesn’t know. This is between your mom and dad. NOT YOU!!
You are a terrible person, as is your affair partner, and you both need to come clean to the people you pretend to live, who you are betraying.
A good act for the wrong reasons is still a good act
Thank you
Why’s your house better than the office? Your reasoning is sound on not wanting everyone at your place.
Its a been a little bit of both. But 2 of them I have met on dating websites.
You didn't put cheaters of dating websites. They put themselves there.
You're not responsible for the behaviour of other people.
Just stop going or if they invite you places when you reply just say that all 4? of you will be there. It's not hard. If they buy you and your children tickets but not your partner they will learn the hard way.
An hour isn't all that far. Tell her when work is over you'd hate not seeing her. Ask if you could come up to see her. That will be your answer. If she lets you travel an hour to see her, she is interested.
I'm going to say, the lying is the problem not the money. But based on 2.5 with 6 minutes songs/transitions with 3 dollar tips (3×15) and a soda generally run 4/5 bucks. If he bought both their drinks he only had to buy 8 sodas (4 each) though this is based more on my knowledge of drag clubs than strip clubs.
He is bored with you. He wants a new girlfriend (or maybe already has one) and wants to blame it on you. Either way, you'll end up separating. Better to leave him now.
this reminds me of how I had to engage in a complex, logical argument to convince my engineer friend that he should arrange his living room to be an attractive and inviting space as opposed to “the most efficient design for playing board games.”
My reply was just to the point in that post, but I would agree that he's trying to override her wishes. That said, letting him move in and living together was bound to cause problems and I'm surprised she agreed to it if she didn't want to sleep with him.
I'm not sure if this would be a good idea, as if he is on drugs it could go badly, but – If I were in your position, I would put a couple of the pills into a bag and go to the police or a sexual health clinic. Maybe bring someone you feel safe around with you? Let them know about the situation, and perhaps they can check to see what the pills are.
Look after yourself, this person sounds potentially dangerous.
This relationship is a dumpster fire.
This relationship is a dumpster fire.
I mean, they're in the UK. If it's necessary surgery then it shouldn't be costing.
or you can of course be also really petty… assuming your friend is a straight male . start sending him Gay Porn especially with guys with bigger cocks then he is
You ask her to say this in response to all men who ask her to go do something – “My boyfriend and I will love to come do that….”
I feel so conflicted cause I want the kids to but I want his last name.
I wish I could tell you that you aren't a rebound but it's entirely possible. But so what? That guys gone and you guys have a happy relationship now. Don't overthink it.
It would be different if he were still in her life or she was still doing things for him but she's not. He fumbled and let her go and you made her stay. That's what matters. Plenty of strong relationships started from a rebound.
Tell me your age otherwise you’re making yourself sound worse and worse because it’s proving you’re a little teenager with no clue about the world
If you don't end it you are teaching your children to stay in unhappy relationships. Is that what you want for them?
No, it won't. The only way she gets respect is to demand it, not to kneel.
God, don't any of you people believe in personal liberty as a higher moral ground? Don't you understand you have to make sacrifices and do whatever you need to do to secure your own personal liberty? Jeez!!!
This is really great. Good for y’all.
I'd genuinely ask him why he didn't get you a birthday gift
For example if there is still a mortgage and he has to pay his folks say 2000 a month and he asks you for 600, I'd say that is pretty fair. If there is no mortgage and mum and dad still make him pay rent and he asks you 600 as part of that…. well his parents seem a little greedy, or that's how they raised him, no free lunch. In such a case rent may still be cheap. If he is paying his parents nothing a month and asking you for 600 a month then I'd say you have real issues then.
“Speaking as a man ?”
Girl run. Also 2 things
fear that I would leave him
This is the most important. This is an extremely essential information to share. And he chose to lie to keep you. He chose the easier way. The cowards way. He doesn't know how to communicate and isn't in a place for a relationship because of it.
I understand the fear, but in life and especially in relationships, the fear needs to be passed.
he wasn’t sure if she was being 100% truthful about the pregnancy
She is 7 MONTHS pregnant. She has had several consultations AND has shown FOR A WHILE.
If you have not recuperated, then by god when you do do not reciprocate.
Texting 30-45 minutes it’s know when she parties if she safe or not. The read thing is because what if something happened and she couldn’t answer, and I don’t mean read by 3 minutes, I mean by 3 hours.
About the SA I already blame myself for it so don’t worry about it.
Normal relationships don’t need posts with chapter breaks.
i realize that. that’s what i assumed. needed the outside POV. thank you
Damn well I hope not. She doesn’t know that I’m not religious.
Did you post yesterday?
Well this ruined my appetite for meatloaf night.
You are far too young to be dealing with any if the nonsense you mentioned in this post.
This is tough without knowing the full situation, but generally I would say to think about what you want long term and discuss that with him, and see if that’s something that can be achieved if you leave even if you do face a setback. How far back will it set you? Will you eventually have the same opportunities where he wants to be as you would where you are now? Are you willing to sacrifice your short term goals for longer term ones? Also this is a pretty big ask on his part, does he plan to make any sacrifices on his part? Partners are meant to support each other and sometimes you do end up having to ‘take one for the team’ so to speak but that has its limits and only works if both partners are willing to put in the work. Ultimately only you can decide what the right move is for you, but don’t give up your dreams for a man who wouldn’t do the same for you.
It sounds to me like she is hesitant and unsure, which is why she invited her friend. She would feel more comfortable having a friend with her. Maybe she is shy.
She probably does have interest in you. I wouldn’t read too much into the not texting you, especially if she’s busy with studies at this time.
My opinion; just take it in strides, don’t try to rush anything. If you want to make conversation outside of of plan arrangement then shoot her a text now and then and say “Hey!” And start a conversation?
As far as the movie goes.. that’s a good sign! If she invites her friend, I would say it’s clear she only wants to be friends with you.
Don’t worry too much about the male situation. She’s 25 and single, she probably has a few men on her radar. If she likes you, she will pursue you.
When it comes to owning dogs, to each their own so long as the dog is not harmful to anyone. This sounds like a new relationship and you’d be better off without him. You have already established routine with your dog and it is not worth changing it for someone else.
However, as an experienced dog owner with sensory issues (specifically noise) I can understand where you boyfriend is coming. To be very blunt and honest, you have a piss-poorly trained dog. Reading past the rose-tinted glasses opinions, your dog is exhibiting harmful possessive behavior and is suffering from separation anxiety. In order for her to thrive and be a confident and well-round dog she needs structure and consistency.
Some people don’t mind their dogs having anxiety or being possessive but it can and will lead to aggression. It starts with growling now but those are her warnings. Eventually she will bite.
You are an enabler. You keep mentioning her size and how sweet she is but your boyfriend sees otherwise for good reason. You are enabling her bad behavior which only encourages her to act more like this. I would whole heartedly recommend staying out of relationships till both you and your dog get the proper help/training you guys need.
The way you act and think spells disaster for potential relationships and could steer you into another abusive situation. Otherwise, I would leave your currently boyfriend because he does sound abusive himself. He is yelling at your dog and demanding change in your home. Properly training a dog does not require yelling and can be very harmful to the dog.