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It’s a very sensitive subject. Especially for women .
I would suggest OP try the don’t talk about it method and leave her alone. Let her , an adult, figure it out for herself and do what she needs to do when she is ready.
There is no need to tell your current partner anything about your sexual past. It’s none of their business. No good is going to come from telling them. There are things that your current partner has a right not to know about you. This idea of complete and total openness and transparency about every aspect of your life is vastly overrated when it comes to romantic relationships. Human beings have a right to privacy. You are two separate individuals in addition to being in a romantic relationship together. Learn to draw appropriate boundaries between your private personal life and the one you share with your partner.
He love bombed me in the beginning , used to call me daily for an hour in addition to messaging practically the entire day, also would call late night. So yes, I did have expectations
Listen, you don’t want to be with anyone that threatens to kill you for something. If ever someone mentions that they are going to kill you, and it’s someone that is supposed to be your loved one you run.
I hope you choose yourself over the relationship and find a safe space and contact which authorities you can and keep him Away from you.
She's been telling me that if I feel uncomfortable, to use my academics as an out. It's pretty believable, since I'm taking 18 credits. Basically say “I've gotta go get work done, see you later,” that sort of thing. That and telling her that I can't help her with what she's got going on, trying to bring the issue of what she's saying to focus like “Wow, that was really something I didn't expect to hear today” etc etc.
Honestly dude, I'd say just comfort her and tell her it doesn't matter to you at all whether she's shaven or not. If she still feels uncomfortable with it, then you can't force her to not be self-conscious or enjoy it. Just let it go. Personally I don't think its a huge issue to begin with, shaven pussy is a million times better than getting pubic hairs in your mouth but to each their own.
So I guess the thing is that I looked at the conversations he had with these girls to see if they were flirty and if I should distance myself, which I’m sure he would not appreciate because he didn’t consent to me reading their conversations. And yes I have told him about how hurt I was in the past and he has apologized multiple times and I’ve also shown appreciation for how he has changed and made such an effort to have a healthy relationship with me currently
Yes. Appreciating someone aesthetically is not related to leaving you for someone else. He isn't with you for your body, he's with you because he thinks he can put up with waking up next to your personality for the next sixty or seventy years. After all, your body's going to change; your personality won't. He's not looking for someone who looks like you, he's looking for someone who thinks, talks and acts like you. In other words, he's looking for you. And I hope this doesn't come as a surprise, but, this girl he's complimenting is probably not as good at being you as you are.
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“ these types”?
It’s a very sensitive subject. Especially for women .
I would suggest OP try the don’t talk about it method and leave her alone. Let her , an adult, figure it out for herself and do what she needs to do when she is ready.
Or of course, he could just leave her
There is no need to tell your current partner anything about your sexual past. It’s none of their business. No good is going to come from telling them. There are things that your current partner has a right not to know about you. This idea of complete and total openness and transparency about every aspect of your life is vastly overrated when it comes to romantic relationships. Human beings have a right to privacy. You are two separate individuals in addition to being in a romantic relationship together. Learn to draw appropriate boundaries between your private personal life and the one you share with your partner.
I'd leave. He doesnt care what she thinks.
He love bombed me in the beginning , used to call me daily for an hour in addition to messaging practically the entire day, also would call late night. So yes, I did have expectations
It sounds like he’s the one that’s afraid of his mom as
Why did you get the shivers? Are you concerned you'll rape her and meet the same fate?
Good for her regardless for getting her justice, not like it's freely available elsewhere.
He’s only going to get worse. If you want more of this, stay with him. If not, move on.
Listen, you don’t want to be with anyone that threatens to kill you for something. If ever someone mentions that they are going to kill you, and it’s someone that is supposed to be your loved one you run.
I hope you choose yourself over the relationship and find a safe space and contact which authorities you can and keep him Away from you.
She's been telling me that if I feel uncomfortable, to use my academics as an out. It's pretty believable, since I'm taking 18 credits. Basically say “I've gotta go get work done, see you later,” that sort of thing. That and telling her that I can't help her with what she's got going on, trying to bring the issue of what she's saying to focus like “Wow, that was really something I didn't expect to hear today” etc etc.
Honestly dude, I'd say just comfort her and tell her it doesn't matter to you at all whether she's shaven or not. If she still feels uncomfortable with it, then you can't force her to not be self-conscious or enjoy it. Just let it go. Personally I don't think its a huge issue to begin with, shaven pussy is a million times better than getting pubic hairs in your mouth but to each their own.
So I guess the thing is that I looked at the conversations he had with these girls to see if they were flirty and if I should distance myself, which I’m sure he would not appreciate because he didn’t consent to me reading their conversations. And yes I have told him about how hurt I was in the past and he has apologized multiple times and I’ve also shown appreciation for how he has changed and made such an effort to have a healthy relationship with me currently
Yes. Appreciating someone aesthetically is not related to leaving you for someone else. He isn't with you for your body, he's with you because he thinks he can put up with waking up next to your personality for the next sixty or seventy years. After all, your body's going to change; your personality won't. He's not looking for someone who looks like you, he's looking for someone who thinks, talks and acts like you. In other words, he's looking for you. And I hope this doesn't come as a surprise, but, this girl he's complimenting is probably not as good at being you as you are.
Id burn it all down if I was you, but you have an opportunity to take the high road if you choose