I’d give him lots of positive verbal feedback. Goal for at least a few per day. “I’m proud of you.” “Thank your for helping me with xyz.” “You did a great job on that project.” “I admire the way you handled that situation.” “I love spending time with you.” I’m excited for us to spend some quality time together this weekend.” Etc.
Yep, I met someone with a great personality but I just wasn't that physically attracted. I called it off within a few dates and felt awful because they were cool. But I didn't want to continue something through lying and would hurt a lot worse down the road.
Even ignoring the comment itself, him saying you’re “insane” to be offended by it is reason enough to end it. This guy has the emotional maturity of a thumb
This situation involves a lot of nuance that can't be well understood by people that weren't involved. Even less so by people that don't know you or your GF at all.
As a general observation, dumping your emotional GF with someone else usually isn't a good call. Whether shes being reasonable is irrelevant. You're responsible for resolving that situation. Ashley took this opportunity to make you look bad, but you set it up for her.
The problem here is not that your sister chose to sleep with your husband – it sounds like she was far too drunk to consent to sex and it sounds like that is a pattern with her.
The problem is that your husband sounds like a rapist who took advantage of an incapacitated person.
Did she make good choices? No. Did she deserve to be assaulted? No. Are you mad at the wrong party? Yes.
(Also even if they were both dead sober and both actively consented to sex, which didn't happen – your husband would be the one choosing to break his marriage vows, not your sister).
It's not uncommon for people from sexual minority groups to find platonic friendships amongst other people in that same group. Not because they're sexually attracted to each other, but because they can bond (again, platonically) over some shared life experiences. Surely the two of you, both together and individually, have other lesbian friends. This may speak more to your own insecurities than to anything your wife, or her friend are doing. If you find that this is a pattern in you whenever your wife talks to another woman it might be worth checking in with a therapist about.
Give him a call…I'm sure he'll appreciate the support.
I’d give him lots of positive verbal feedback. Goal for at least a few per day. “I’m proud of you.” “Thank your for helping me with xyz.” “You did a great job on that project.” “I admire the way you handled that situation.” “I love spending time with you.” I’m excited for us to spend some quality time together this weekend.” Etc.
Sounds like it’s time to do some more work on your trauma
Yep, I met someone with a great personality but I just wasn't that physically attracted. I called it off within a few dates and felt awful because they were cool. But I didn't want to continue something through lying and would hurt a lot worse down the road.
Even ignoring the comment itself, him saying you’re “insane” to be offended by it is reason enough to end it. This guy has the emotional maturity of a thumb
Nothing wrong with you keeping your own stock.
This situation involves a lot of nuance that can't be well understood by people that weren't involved. Even less so by people that don't know you or your GF at all.
As a general observation, dumping your emotional GF with someone else usually isn't a good call. Whether shes being reasonable is irrelevant. You're responsible for resolving that situation. Ashley took this opportunity to make you look bad, but you set it up for her.
I don’t get why she’s mad. She asked for your input and you basically give her input that to you it was fine either way. Why she mad?
The problem here is not that your sister chose to sleep with your husband – it sounds like she was far too drunk to consent to sex and it sounds like that is a pattern with her.
The problem is that your husband sounds like a rapist who took advantage of an incapacitated person.
Did she make good choices? No. Did she deserve to be assaulted? No. Are you mad at the wrong party? Yes.
(Also even if they were both dead sober and both actively consented to sex, which didn't happen – your husband would be the one choosing to break his marriage vows, not your sister).
You tell her to kick rocks and goodbye.
It's not uncommon for people from sexual minority groups to find platonic friendships amongst other people in that same group. Not because they're sexually attracted to each other, but because they can bond (again, platonically) over some shared life experiences. Surely the two of you, both together and individually, have other lesbian friends. This may speak more to your own insecurities than to anything your wife, or her friend are doing. If you find that this is a pattern in you whenever your wife talks to another woman it might be worth checking in with a therapist about.