Are you making all of the effort you reasonably can to speak HER love language and make her feel wanted in the way that works for her? Mismatched libidos often come with mismatched feelings. You feel loved and close through, well, basically sex it seems like.. but what about her? If she feels more loved through.. things being done for her.. do those things without the pressure for sex and you're more likely to match closer to the beginning. The gap gets wider as people get comfortable and return to their habits instead of the new phase where you're trying to win someone over.
If you've already tried that, cut your losses in a kind way because you're going to become resentful and mean if you let it continue, and she doesn't deserve that.
Jesus. If you don’t trust the guy, either get couple’s counselling/ individual therapy or leave him. You can’t live with all this anxiety and he shouldn’t be a grown man having his wife tell him who he can and can’t talk to. It’s ridiculous.
Don’t say “I do trust him, I don’t trust HER”, because if you actually trust him, what she might do is immaterial.
We had a connection. We instantly fell in love. We turned out to be compatible in almost all aspects. He's got an old soul. He wants to settle down very soon. I wouldn't have pursued this if this was another casual relationship where 10 year age gap, him having no formal career yet and not travelled well yet. We acknowledged each other's imperfections because we had this one same goal to settle down with each other. That is why I was in shock and confusion when I saw those screenshots. And yes ofc, DM'ing other women is considered cheating in my books too.
I think I know what happened.
So many red flags.
Are you making all of the effort you reasonably can to speak HER love language and make her feel wanted in the way that works for her? Mismatched libidos often come with mismatched feelings. You feel loved and close through, well, basically sex it seems like.. but what about her? If she feels more loved through.. things being done for her.. do those things without the pressure for sex and you're more likely to match closer to the beginning. The gap gets wider as people get comfortable and return to their habits instead of the new phase where you're trying to win someone over.
If you've already tried that, cut your losses in a kind way because you're going to become resentful and mean if you let it continue, and she doesn't deserve that.
She intends to take your BF.
Jesus. If you don’t trust the guy, either get couple’s counselling/ individual therapy or leave him. You can’t live with all this anxiety and he shouldn’t be a grown man having his wife tell him who he can and can’t talk to. It’s ridiculous.
Don’t say “I do trust him, I don’t trust HER”, because if you actually trust him, what she might do is immaterial.
We had a connection. We instantly fell in love. We turned out to be compatible in almost all aspects. He's got an old soul. He wants to settle down very soon. I wouldn't have pursued this if this was another casual relationship where 10 year age gap, him having no formal career yet and not travelled well yet. We acknowledged each other's imperfections because we had this one same goal to settle down with each other. That is why I was in shock and confusion when I saw those screenshots. And yes ofc, DM'ing other women is considered cheating in my books too.