I promise you can do better. I’m 36 dicorced with a child and can barely cope with my 42 year old divorced guy with 2 kids . The issues are very very difficult and ur young and do not need to put yourself into these problems thr 30s/40s crowd has. Free yourself from this toxicity
This is Reddit, take the comments of others or leave it. This isn’t a safe space to be unchallenged or to lazily utilize things someone already said to you onto them. Imaginary comments mean that I think something was written that wasn’t yet your initial comment absolutely said she should refrain from sexual contact with her partners outside of the home until she had a conversation. This is an advice sub but that advice can and should be challenged if it’s questionable and tenuous. The responses you guys are giving without actually acknowledging your arguments are indicative of your own personal issues and hang ups. She be fucking, get over it
You obviously have no right to be upset that she's dating other people. However, posting something so intensely personal on social media definitely means she's missing the privacy/propriety gene. So you would be wise to be wary of her. Always remember that anything the two of you do or discuss could become fodder in her quest for social media clout. People who don't know the difference between personal and public are dangerous.
For the rest of her whole life? She’s gonna live 40+ years alone? Even asexual people pursue relationships. But if that’s what she wants then god bless her. The husband should leave her to do that.
She has been having sex with my best friend after we hang out nearly every time she comes over.
It's worth considering that helping you through this difficult time might be very emotionally draining for her and she could be leaning on her friend/ex for her own support. That's not to say she doesn't want to help, she obviously cares a lot for you, but that's not always easy to do when people are experiencing extreme grief.
I'm increasingly overwhelmed, especially since they both keep telling me about their sex life and personal stuff.
If hearing about their sex life makes you uncomfortable or is painful for you then just tell them that. Tell them that you're happy for them, but given your current mental state you don't really want to hear about other peoples intimacy.
Are you seeing a therapist or grief counselor? I think it's wonderful that you have close friends that you can rely on and that will go out of their way to care for you during this difficult time, but the emotional load that they're helping you carry is not something they can or should deal with long term. By all means, keep relying on your friends, but you'll also need professional help if you want to get back to “normal”.
This is a rage post. Isn't it? How many girls date man old enough to be there fathers. Reddit makes me believe that a lot of them do it and it ends badly most of the times.
Maybe they are not sure how to accommodate your disabilities now? Have you told them the things you can and cannot do or are you still able to do the things you used to do? I would just organize something where they all come over and you can explain things you can still do with them and how you still enjoy spending time with them
Think it all you want, but your kid actually realizes something is wrong in your relationship. If you truly want to live with this for the rest of your life and dive bomb your mental and physical health. You should start therapy like yesterday, both individuals and couples
I promise you can do better. I’m 36 dicorced with a child and can barely cope with my 42 year old divorced guy with 2 kids . The issues are very very difficult and ur young and do not need to put yourself into these problems thr 30s/40s crowd has. Free yourself from this toxicity
This is Reddit, take the comments of others or leave it. This isn’t a safe space to be unchallenged or to lazily utilize things someone already said to you onto them. Imaginary comments mean that I think something was written that wasn’t yet your initial comment absolutely said she should refrain from sexual contact with her partners outside of the home until she had a conversation. This is an advice sub but that advice can and should be challenged if it’s questionable and tenuous. The responses you guys are giving without actually acknowledging your arguments are indicative of your own personal issues and hang ups. She be fucking, get over it
I do agree but then where do I go from here ? Divorce and break up my home just based on intuition?
If he was feeling lonely he should have discussed it. You don't cheat period.
You obviously have no right to be upset that she's dating other people. However, posting something so intensely personal on social media definitely means she's missing the privacy/propriety gene. So you would be wise to be wary of her. Always remember that anything the two of you do or discuss could become fodder in her quest for social media clout. People who don't know the difference between personal and public are dangerous.
It’s only two of you. If she wasn’t unconscious and insisting you continue then she’s the only one to blame (and will go to hell maybe?)
For the rest of her whole life? She’s gonna live 40+ years alone? Even asexual people pursue relationships. But if that’s what she wants then god bless her. The husband should leave her to do that.
Yeah I don't get why all my comments are being downvoted
I'm sorry for your loss.
She has been having sex with my best friend after we hang out nearly every time she comes over.
It's worth considering that helping you through this difficult time might be very emotionally draining for her and she could be leaning on her friend/ex for her own support. That's not to say she doesn't want to help, she obviously cares a lot for you, but that's not always easy to do when people are experiencing extreme grief.
I'm increasingly overwhelmed, especially since they both keep telling me about their sex life and personal stuff.
If hearing about their sex life makes you uncomfortable or is painful for you then just tell them that. Tell them that you're happy for them, but given your current mental state you don't really want to hear about other peoples intimacy.
Are you seeing a therapist or grief counselor? I think it's wonderful that you have close friends that you can rely on and that will go out of their way to care for you during this difficult time, but the emotional load that they're helping you carry is not something they can or should deal with long term. By all means, keep relying on your friends, but you'll also need professional help if you want to get back to “normal”.
You should both shower before sex.
This is a rage post. Isn't it? How many girls date man old enough to be there fathers. Reddit makes me believe that a lot of them do it and it ends badly most of the times.
Real bro action from her
Maybe they are not sure how to accommodate your disabilities now? Have you told them the things you can and cannot do or are you still able to do the things you used to do? I would just organize something where they all come over and you can explain things you can still do with them and how you still enjoy spending time with them
Think it all you want, but your kid actually realizes something is wrong in your relationship. If you truly want to live with this for the rest of your life and dive bomb your mental and physical health. You should start therapy like yesterday, both individuals and couples
Might be over spending the food budget.