This isnt a double standard .. this is a pteferance thing also the guy didnt bring up the 3sum she did and she specifically said a chick and then mentioned a guy which her bf wasnt okay with. This is all on her
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She wants to avoid awkwardness and that’s why she’s gonna stay with him. She truly believes he won’t try anything again. He didn’t make any physical moves on her, just verbal so she thinks it’s okay. I just can’t change her mind and I don’t even know if I should insist that hard
What’s that saying? Women grieve, men replace. Don’t try to replace your gf with your friend. She isn’t interested in you beyond being a caring friend. Plus trauma bonding with a ‘rescuer’ isn’t healthy for anyone.
Reach out to get therapy. There’s also support groups for people who lost a loved one to suicide. There’s online forums to. Just talking can help.
I understand that you are in a bad place. But you know the difference between friendship and romantic relationships. You are capable of understanding that you are trying to plug your friend into the gf place to try and ease your pain. If you keep doing it, you will ultimately wind up rejected and maybe even losing both your friends and their support.
She's likely been planning this all along and is hoping that you'll follow her back home.
If that's not in your plans, then cut your losses and wish her good luck with her life.
This isnt a double standard .. this is a pteferance thing also the guy didnt bring up the 3sum she did and she specifically said a chick and then mentioned a guy which her bf wasnt okay with. This is all on her
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Hey thank you for your comment. I’ll look into seeking a psychologist. And thanks for reminding me that it’s my responsibility.
It doesn’t sound like she is in a healthy enough headspace to be in a relationship.
I just lost all sympathy
She wants to avoid awkwardness and that’s why she’s gonna stay with him. She truly believes he won’t try anything again. He didn’t make any physical moves on her, just verbal so she thinks it’s okay. I just can’t change her mind and I don’t even know if I should insist that hard
What’s that saying? Women grieve, men replace. Don’t try to replace your gf with your friend. She isn’t interested in you beyond being a caring friend. Plus trauma bonding with a ‘rescuer’ isn’t healthy for anyone.
Reach out to get therapy. There’s also support groups for people who lost a loved one to suicide. There’s online forums to. Just talking can help.
I understand that you are in a bad place. But you know the difference between friendship and romantic relationships. You are capable of understanding that you are trying to plug your friend into the gf place to try and ease your pain. If you keep doing it, you will ultimately wind up rejected and maybe even losing both your friends and their support.
Sounds like you're on track! Keep up the good work 🙂
Nope. It’s a nope. It’s a nope nope nope.