My ex was almost the exact same way with me. Relationships and life are never perfect, and shit often just happens. There will be many many times where one or the other won’t be able (emotionally, physically, whatever) to have sex. Your partner is showing you two things; one, they are unable to communicate their feelings to you; and two, that they think their needs are more important than yours. This attitude WILL bleed over in to other aspects of your relationship. It is possible to overcome these things if the individual is willing to listen and learn and grow, but many people don’t. In my case, my ex did not listen learn or grow, so it ended. I unfortunately wasted 4 years with someone who didn’t deserve my time. 10 months is not all that long, so think long and hard about whether or not this is the kind of person you want to commit your life to.
To be clear, you were wrong to snoop but I get the impression that you suspected she was being shady, at least subconsciously. I see so many people on this subreddit who do all kinds of mental gymnastics to avoid being single. Being single is far superior to being in a relationship with a dishonest person that you feel like you can’t trust.
You need to put your sister on an information diet. Stop telling her anything about your pregnancy. You also need to get very clear with your mother about your feelings about how you feel abandoned by her. Stop depending on your family to celebrate you. You must have friends and IL’s that can organize a baby shower for you. But the biggest thing is that you need to get to therapy and start untangling yourself from your family. You clearly do not feel seen, supported and celebrated by them and it is harming your mental health. Take your power back and go to therapy so that you can get better communication skills and boundaries with your family.
this is a really good point bc after reading your comment i’ve realized that i’ve seen it played out in uni, my own friends group and with my directors in the corporate world
crazy how i consciously didn’t think about it right away.. and can see how subconsciously it can ‘color’ my behavior towards my spouse without even realizing it
I think op knows, I’m not in public calling his lady this…I’m saying this as a hopeful wake-up call guy to guy that this is not ok. She’s straight up acting like a bitch
My ex was almost the exact same way with me. Relationships and life are never perfect, and shit often just happens. There will be many many times where one or the other won’t be able (emotionally, physically, whatever) to have sex. Your partner is showing you two things; one, they are unable to communicate their feelings to you; and two, that they think their needs are more important than yours. This attitude WILL bleed over in to other aspects of your relationship. It is possible to overcome these things if the individual is willing to listen and learn and grow, but many people don’t. In my case, my ex did not listen learn or grow, so it ended. I unfortunately wasted 4 years with someone who didn’t deserve my time. 10 months is not all that long, so think long and hard about whether or not this is the kind of person you want to commit your life to.
Just stop acting like you care about her. This hypocrisy is worse than anything.
Divorce her. She's toxic for you and your daughter.
Drop it. She’s doing it because it makes her feel happy
and eat it too!
To be clear, you were wrong to snoop but I get the impression that you suspected she was being shady, at least subconsciously. I see so many people on this subreddit who do all kinds of mental gymnastics to avoid being single. Being single is far superior to being in a relationship with a dishonest person that you feel like you can’t trust.
You need to put your sister on an information diet. Stop telling her anything about your pregnancy. You also need to get very clear with your mother about your feelings about how you feel abandoned by her. Stop depending on your family to celebrate you. You must have friends and IL’s that can organize a baby shower for you. But the biggest thing is that you need to get to therapy and start untangling yourself from your family. You clearly do not feel seen, supported and celebrated by them and it is harming your mental health. Take your power back and go to therapy so that you can get better communication skills and boundaries with your family.
If you were exclusive then you shouldn't have invited another woman to sleep at your place regardless ?♂️.
this is a really good point bc after reading your comment i’ve realized that i’ve seen it played out in uni, my own friends group and with my directors in the corporate world
crazy how i consciously didn’t think about it right away.. and can see how subconsciously it can ‘color’ my behavior towards my spouse without even realizing it
I think op knows, I’m not in public calling his lady this…I’m saying this as a hopeful wake-up call guy to guy that this is not ok. She’s straight up acting like a bitch