This is the best answear so far, many women experience assault but also many of them use it as an excuse for cheating, in this case chances that she cheated are very high, she had a boundary set by her bf to not go drunk with someone of the opposite sex in a room, someone caught them, she doesn t wanna press any charges or use a rape kit, she EVEN TOLD HIM TO NOT ASK OTHER PEOPLE WHAT HAPPENED THAT NIGHT “because she doesn t want to remember or know”, so my take is that she cheated and got caught by a 3rd party.
Love bombing is normally used as a reaction of guilt from a cheater you just can’t be a “love bomber”. Your description makes you romantic and thoughtful. You are literally what women always complain that they can’t find. Keep doing you and don’t change!
It’s the fact that he’s taking her opinion more into account than yours that is worrisome. You may have to let him go, he seems intent on never lifting a finger to protect you.
This is not about insecurities don't let anyone gaslight you. This is how she values you. When a woman says your BF or husband material, it is not a compliment. She is saying you have to work for what I gave away to everyone else for free. She will carry this attitude into everything else in the relationship
But the real issue is not her – it’s his boundaries. Unfortunately this is a him problem not a her problem. Are you comfortable in a relationship where he puts her first?
If it was me I would plan a dinner and discuss the relationship with him. Let him know you are unsettled with his “friend” being overly familiar with you. Let him know if he wants to run off after her, when you are doing planned activities it’s a no deal. Explain you are uncomfortable with the lack of boundaries in their friendship. Point out you are not entering into competition with his bestie or comparing yourself to past situations. However, you want a partner who puts you and the family you want to build first.
This is the best answear so far, many women experience assault but also many of them use it as an excuse for cheating, in this case chances that she cheated are very high, she had a boundary set by her bf to not go drunk with someone of the opposite sex in a room, someone caught them, she doesn t wanna press any charges or use a rape kit, she EVEN TOLD HIM TO NOT ASK OTHER PEOPLE WHAT HAPPENED THAT NIGHT “because she doesn t want to remember or know”, so my take is that she cheated and got caught by a 3rd party.
Move in together
Love bombing is normally used as a reaction of guilt from a cheater you just can’t be a “love bomber”. Your description makes you romantic and thoughtful. You are literally what women always complain that they can’t find. Keep doing you and don’t change!
Yeah, sounds like you should break up 🙁 there's other guys out there, closer to your age too
Well I don’t think she is one yet
It’s the fact that he’s taking her opinion more into account than yours that is worrisome. You may have to let him go, he seems intent on never lifting a finger to protect you.
This is not about insecurities don't let anyone gaslight you. This is how she values you. When a woman says your BF or husband material, it is not a compliment. She is saying you have to work for what I gave away to everyone else for free. She will carry this attitude into everything else in the relationship
But the real issue is not her – it’s his boundaries. Unfortunately this is a him problem not a her problem. Are you comfortable in a relationship where he puts her first?
If it was me I would plan a dinner and discuss the relationship with him. Let him know you are unsettled with his “friend” being overly familiar with you. Let him know if he wants to run off after her, when you are doing planned activities it’s a no deal. Explain you are uncomfortable with the lack of boundaries in their friendship. Point out you are not entering into competition with his bestie or comparing yourself to past situations. However, you want a partner who puts you and the family you want to build first.
Your man’s a fascist. Get out now.