Don't “try and be friends” I don't know better terminology but that's beta orbitter shit, she doesnt care enough about your to be honestso why should you spend your time and effort being nice to her? Tell her what you know once your assets are all organised and just leave
the only reason you want this is because you are holding out hope for things to get better or to give you the feelings you are nostalgic about from whenever in your past, it's better to just move on without her actions poisoning every interaction you have for the next decade
Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it 🙂 I do really acknowledge that he is showing love in what he knows best and I do see that he does. It’s what he’s used to and needs, and I’m not much of a words person. Yeah, sometimes I’ll bring it up in the moment, and sometimes after. It’s been a few months now since we’ve had these conversations and I think that’s what’s leading to this feeling now. Thank you for the resources, I’ll check those out!
For what it’s worth, I highly encourage you to read about the science behind being blackout drunk, what happens the the person’s mind and how that inhibits their ability to function and make decisions. You say that you can’t believe your sister would do this to you, and to a point that wasn’t really your sister who did that, not the sister you know and love. Lacking the ability to retain memory, removes a frame of reference for decision making in the moment, meaning your sister was unable to give consent. Understanding what happens to the mind when blackout drunk might help you in how you approach your sister.
As for your husband, based on the limited information you provided, he saw an opportunity and chose to date rape your sister.
You don't start telling someone that they “deserve better” and their partners are “out of their league” unless they're constantly complaining about their partner. That's what it all comes down to. She is shit talking about you. If she's talking you up and telling truth about your relationship, then people would be all “awe OP is wonderful”… Certainly she's also dumb, or she wouldn't have said it to you. You deserve better. I read your update and I like that!
You don't need to do ANYTHING. Just sit back, and stay out of it. These people aren't kind to you, they don't include you in planning, and they don't do anything to help you (without taking it out on you). Just stop.
Don't adjust your plans for them. Don't go to events, just don't. You don't have to wave a flag, just say no and be done.
Don't cave to his bullshit. Sami absolutely needs you. She needs to leave Tom she doesn't owe him anything wtf kinda mentality is that. Tell Mark that you will not cut of your friend when she needs support.
I love how I can always spot a red pill douche bag with one comment.
So I went to see if I was write. You wrote:
“A woman that doesn't have sex with the man she is with it is lack of respect for the man. It means that she doesn't respect him and that she doesn't consider him alpha male.”
My young friend. Stop listening to these assholes. Tate and Peterson. They’re losers. Nobody likes them. Except other women. You will only find unhappiness and loneliness if you continue on this path.
This is such a red flag for two reasons: he PRE doesn’t trust you and he’s probably consuming realllllly problematic “red pill” material. I think he’s a lost cause, lose him before this scenario takes place
Don't “try and be friends” I don't know better terminology but that's beta orbitter shit, she doesnt care enough about your to be honestso why should you spend your time and effort being nice to her? Tell her what you know once your assets are all organised and just leave
the only reason you want this is because you are holding out hope for things to get better or to give you the feelings you are nostalgic about from whenever in your past, it's better to just move on without her actions poisoning every interaction you have for the next decade
Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it 🙂 I do really acknowledge that he is showing love in what he knows best and I do see that he does. It’s what he’s used to and needs, and I’m not much of a words person. Yeah, sometimes I’ll bring it up in the moment, and sometimes after. It’s been a few months now since we’ve had these conversations and I think that’s what’s leading to this feeling now. Thank you for the resources, I’ll check those out!
This post is such obvious rage bait it makes me twitch.
For what it’s worth, I highly encourage you to read about the science behind being blackout drunk, what happens the the person’s mind and how that inhibits their ability to function and make decisions. You say that you can’t believe your sister would do this to you, and to a point that wasn’t really your sister who did that, not the sister you know and love. Lacking the ability to retain memory, removes a frame of reference for decision making in the moment, meaning your sister was unable to give consent. Understanding what happens to the mind when blackout drunk might help you in how you approach your sister.
As for your husband, based on the limited information you provided, he saw an opportunity and chose to date rape your sister.
You don't start telling someone that they “deserve better” and their partners are “out of their league” unless they're constantly complaining about their partner. That's what it all comes down to. She is shit talking about you. If she's talking you up and telling truth about your relationship, then people would be all “awe OP is wonderful”… Certainly she's also dumb, or she wouldn't have said it to you. You deserve better. I read your update and I like that!
You don't need to do ANYTHING. Just sit back, and stay out of it. These people aren't kind to you, they don't include you in planning, and they don't do anything to help you (without taking it out on you). Just stop.
Don't adjust your plans for them. Don't go to events, just don't. You don't have to wave a flag, just say no and be done.
Have her recover the messages so you know what you are dealing with. If she refuses, they you know it was much worse.
Your husband is being extremely unreasonable.
Don't cave to his bullshit. Sami absolutely needs you. She needs to leave Tom she doesn't owe him anything wtf kinda mentality is that. Tell Mark that you will not cut of your friend when she needs support.
The fuck did I just read
Its 1:44am and I already got my daily dose of “what the actual fuck Reddit”. Congrats, it’s a new record for me.
I love how I can always spot a red pill douche bag with one comment.
So I went to see if I was write. You wrote:
“A woman that doesn't have sex with the man she is with it is lack of respect for the man. It means that she doesn't respect him and that she doesn't consider him alpha male.”
My young friend. Stop listening to these assholes. Tate and Peterson. They’re losers. Nobody likes them. Except other women. You will only find unhappiness and loneliness if you continue on this path.
I will cut her off.
This is such a red flag for two reasons: he PRE doesn’t trust you and he’s probably consuming realllllly problematic “red pill” material. I think he’s a lost cause, lose him before this scenario takes place