Does he want to have sex with men because he's attracted to men or does he want it because it's the modt convenient way to get his prostate stimulated? those are two different things.
source: i am asexual and still have a libido- its just not centered around attraction to other people. i am not sexually attracted to people regardless of whether their anatomy is conveniently pleasurable.
Your mom is being childish and needs to grow up. Move in with your boyfriend and put this nonsense behind you. Your mom/fundamentalism have oppressed you for 30 years – time to move on.
This is abuse. Doesn't matter if you weren't planning on going through with it, the threat of violence is still abusive. She shouldn't have spit on you, but this is fucked up and you need to own it way more than it seems like you are right now.
Honestly… This is such a petty issue and I actually cannot believe she is upset about not receiving “substantial” gifts from your parents. She clearly runs in a circle with more affluent people (or at least, people who are willing to spend this kind of money whether they can afford it or not), and has obviously not realised that not only do people have different levels of affordability, but that even if they could afford it, they don't OWE it to her.
Of all the things she wants to hold a grudge over, it's a BAG.
Everything you're mentioning here is all very financial and frankly, she sounds materialistic. The cost of gifts does not equate the amount they love you. This is not a problem I would sympathise with her about. In fact I would call her out about it and not entertain this.
You say her parents are financially well off, but they obviously didn't instill in her that it's not just about money.
You’re going to potentially be co parenting with them. Take the high road! It feels better to be the bigger person. Karma will get them don’t you worry about that! They won’t live happily ever after. But you can when you move forward and don’t look back!
Does he want to have sex with men because he's attracted to men or does he want it because it's the modt convenient way to get his prostate stimulated? those are two different things.
source: i am asexual and still have a libido- its just not centered around attraction to other people. i am not sexually attracted to people regardless of whether their anatomy is conveniently pleasurable.
Your mom is being childish and needs to grow up. Move in with your boyfriend and put this nonsense behind you. Your mom/fundamentalism have oppressed you for 30 years – time to move on.
What makes you question?
I jumped up and pretended I was going to hit her
This is abuse. Doesn't matter if you weren't planning on going through with it, the threat of violence is still abusive. She shouldn't have spit on you, but this is fucked up and you need to own it way more than it seems like you are right now.
Great. Continue to not do that thing.
I love how you started this comment. Thank you.
That's fascinating. Okay ?
You’re allowed to grieve before you recover.
Honestly… This is such a petty issue and I actually cannot believe she is upset about not receiving “substantial” gifts from your parents. She clearly runs in a circle with more affluent people (or at least, people who are willing to spend this kind of money whether they can afford it or not), and has obviously not realised that not only do people have different levels of affordability, but that even if they could afford it, they don't OWE it to her.
Of all the things she wants to hold a grudge over, it's a BAG.
Everything you're mentioning here is all very financial and frankly, she sounds materialistic. The cost of gifts does not equate the amount they love you. This is not a problem I would sympathise with her about. In fact I would call her out about it and not entertain this.
You say her parents are financially well off, but they obviously didn't instill in her that it's not just about money.
You’re delusional honey not insecure just naive for 30 take some time to be single and reestablish some values
If you can’t even trust the man while you’re broken up, do you REALLY want to be with him?
Do you want to spend the rest of your life worrying about what some jerk is doing when you aren’t around? I wouldn’t.
And exchanging three phrases with the guest would have saved him a headache later on that day. C’mon, it’s just respectful to say hi and then leave.
You’re going to potentially be co parenting with them. Take the high road! It feels better to be the bigger person. Karma will get them don’t you worry about that! They won’t live happily ever after. But you can when you move forward and don’t look back!