Girl… if you have to beg your partner to have basic hygeine, it's time to go. And the fact that he acts like you need to reward him with sex because he had a shower or brushed his teeth is both disgusting and sad.
This is not on you. Maybe you played a part in why this problem started, but it doesn't seem like you're the reason it's perpetuating. How are you supposed to feel attracted to someone that is dirty, unkempt, and feels entitled to your body?
“Wow your first shower in days? Gosh that makes me horny, come over here babe…” Like… no… that's not realistic.
That's not to say you shouldn't be uplifting or encouraging towards him for having better habits, but you certainly shouldn't be made to feel you have to give your body over for it. It sounds like he's struggling with depression – which I sympathize with – but if it's to the point he can't shower and it's wrecking his relationship, it's on him to get help and fix it. Not on you.
Honestly I would walk away. But if you're set on staying, make it mandatory he goes to counselling and starts helping himself get better. Explain that he is not entitled to sleeping with you, and that he needs to work with you in a more healthy way to get things back on track.
>Pretty much everyone noticed the strong mutual attraction. It was overpowering.
And the opening sentence of the next paragraph…
>She either gave low effort responses, like reactions rather than messages, or she took two days to respond
Doesn't sound like there's strong mutual attraction after all.
>Should I ask her if my crush is doing okay
I re-checked your age. You're 36 years old! You shouldn't be having “crushes”. Either ask her out, or ask her how she's doing. If she doesn't respond, let it be.
>If my friend were to tell her I asked about her after she ignored me,
You're 36 (I think… you sure you aren't 16?). If she ignores you, cut your losses and move on.
Girl… if you have to beg your partner to have basic hygeine, it's time to go. And the fact that he acts like you need to reward him with sex because he had a shower or brushed his teeth is both disgusting and sad.
This is not on you. Maybe you played a part in why this problem started, but it doesn't seem like you're the reason it's perpetuating. How are you supposed to feel attracted to someone that is dirty, unkempt, and feels entitled to your body?
“Wow your first shower in days? Gosh that makes me horny, come over here babe…” Like… no… that's not realistic.
That's not to say you shouldn't be uplifting or encouraging towards him for having better habits, but you certainly shouldn't be made to feel you have to give your body over for it. It sounds like he's struggling with depression – which I sympathize with – but if it's to the point he can't shower and it's wrecking his relationship, it's on him to get help and fix it. Not on you.
Honestly I would walk away. But if you're set on staying, make it mandatory he goes to counselling and starts helping himself get better. Explain that he is not entitled to sleeping with you, and that he needs to work with you in a more healthy way to get things back on track.
>Pretty much everyone noticed the strong mutual attraction. It was overpowering.
And the opening sentence of the next paragraph…
>She either gave low effort responses, like reactions rather than messages, or she took two days to respond
Doesn't sound like there's strong mutual attraction after all.
>Should I ask her if my crush is doing okay
I re-checked your age. You're 36 years old! You shouldn't be having “crushes”. Either ask her out, or ask her how she's doing. If she doesn't respond, let it be.
>If my friend were to tell her I asked about her after she ignored me,
You're 36 (I think… you sure you aren't 16?). If she ignores you, cut your losses and move on.
Yes, it was. Leave him.