There is no coming back from someone who shows you that they don't respect consent. He was hiding that all this time until he thought he controlled her, but that's even worse than just being honest about this up front. He agreed to this relationship under these conditions and now he's being physically aggressive to the point that she has to push him off. Do you realize how traumatizing it is to have to protect yourself from your partner? Your partners, the people you trust and love, should never even think about violating your bodily autonomy and hurting you.
I understand but it's not like I make these choices everyday. Yes, it was selfish, but stop acting like everyone does not make these choices. If everyone dumped each other on every decision like this every single person would be single.
I have replied to many about what are some of those reasons are
There is no coming back from someone who shows you that they don't respect consent. He was hiding that all this time until he thought he controlled her, but that's even worse than just being honest about this up front. He agreed to this relationship under these conditions and now he's being physically aggressive to the point that she has to push him off. Do you realize how traumatizing it is to have to protect yourself from your partner? Your partners, the people you trust and love, should never even think about violating your bodily autonomy and hurting you.
Which I think she showing.
We live a life devoid of community, so she’s asking on Reddit.
She is asking “is this normal?” “Is this healthy?”
We are letting her know.
Anything beyond that is out of your control.
Making her feel shame, or guilt for not knowing earlier achieves nothing.
Slapped, hit her and yanked her hair. Awful.
I understand but it's not like I make these choices everyday. Yes, it was selfish, but stop acting like everyone does not make these choices. If everyone dumped each other on every decision like this every single person would be single.