You are his mom, his made, his bank, his emotional punching bag… He's a liar.
All you have from him is a promise to propose and that would make you miserable for the rest of your life. Of course you don't feel it anymore.
He needs to become a responsible adult. It's not something that you can teach him, also it's not your job to teach him or try to change him. See him for who he is.
Let me guess, if you try to communicate with him, he'll get defensive and blame you for same things?
If you end the relationship he'll promise you the world, suddenly changed and become the best version of himself for a week or two?
How comfortable would you feel if your wife comforted a friend in the same manner? Would you be happy about it? Would you think it was cheating? It’s definitely crossing lines. Especially since you both felt it necessary to keep it a secret from your wife.
Also, if I were you I would explain exactly what happened. Do you really wan to her find out another way? What if the friend or you slips up and makes mention of it or the friend tells someone who tells your wife? It’s best to come clean than hide it. You want to ruin any trust then by all means keep the secret.
When someone has a porn addiction, they no longer can relate to what a healthy normal sexual relationship is. The cannot get off on the sexual act, they can only get off with the use of porn. Find out how much porn she is using. I bet it will be much higher than what normal would be considered.
I don’t think it’s as “normal” as others are making it out to be, especially if you’re concerned enough to post here, it’s not something you should brush off. Don’t let anyone in these comments dismiss your concerns. Teen girls (age 16-19) are 4 times more likely than the rest of the population to experience SA. You’re a good mum to be worried and protective. It’s hard to know who’s a danger.
I had perverts in their 40s hitting on me when I was 17. Yes some men are attracted to younger women but how young? I personally think it’s wrong. My ex used to want me to wear pigtails and I found out at the end of our relationship he had a history of CSA. Sometimes it could be an indicator of more. Sometimes maybe not. Who knows ??♀️
I can’t tell you what to do. If you’re asking here you probably already have a gut feeling of what to do. Good luck with everything ??
Lol you can’t play defence on guys because you found your perfect girl. These replies all seem so fuckkng insecure. “This is mine!” Lmao ya girls love it when you act possessive and scared your girl would be stolen. I wouldn’t even care about hanging out with this dude, nothing says big dick energy like befriending a guy who wants your wife. Show him that he’s so little of a threat that you don’t care about him at all, give it your best go home boy. If guys put the energy they do into being jealous and worrying about other dudes into just being a great partner a lot of relationships would be better
What is confusing to you?
You are his mom, his made, his bank, his emotional punching bag… He's a liar.
All you have from him is a promise to propose and that would make you miserable for the rest of your life. Of course you don't feel it anymore.
He needs to become a responsible adult. It's not something that you can teach him, also it's not your job to teach him or try to change him. See him for who he is.
Let me guess, if you try to communicate with him, he'll get defensive and blame you for same things?
If you end the relationship he'll promise you the world, suddenly changed and become the best version of himself for a week or two?
How comfortable would you feel if your wife comforted a friend in the same manner? Would you be happy about it? Would you think it was cheating? It’s definitely crossing lines. Especially since you both felt it necessary to keep it a secret from your wife.
Also, if I were you I would explain exactly what happened. Do you really wan to her find out another way? What if the friend or you slips up and makes mention of it or the friend tells someone who tells your wife? It’s best to come clean than hide it. You want to ruin any trust then by all means keep the secret.
I'm so confused. I thought she was the one who found him attractive..?
No, I mean her reasons for breaking up and wanting you back.
When someone has a porn addiction, they no longer can relate to what a healthy normal sexual relationship is. The cannot get off on the sexual act, they can only get off with the use of porn. Find out how much porn she is using. I bet it will be much higher than what normal would be considered.
She needs some professional help—and so do you do you can learn to shut this stuff down.
I’d start making an exit plan to move out.
You're a teenager. Do not get married yet.
I don’t think it’s as “normal” as others are making it out to be, especially if you’re concerned enough to post here, it’s not something you should brush off. Don’t let anyone in these comments dismiss your concerns. Teen girls (age 16-19) are 4 times more likely than the rest of the population to experience SA. You’re a good mum to be worried and protective. It’s hard to know who’s a danger.
I had perverts in their 40s hitting on me when I was 17. Yes some men are attracted to younger women but how young? I personally think it’s wrong. My ex used to want me to wear pigtails and I found out at the end of our relationship he had a history of CSA. Sometimes it could be an indicator of more. Sometimes maybe not. Who knows ??♀️
I can’t tell you what to do. If you’re asking here you probably already have a gut feeling of what to do. Good luck with everything ??
Lol you can’t play defence on guys because you found your perfect girl. These replies all seem so fuckkng insecure. “This is mine!” Lmao ya girls love it when you act possessive and scared your girl would be stolen. I wouldn’t even care about hanging out with this dude, nothing says big dick energy like befriending a guy who wants your wife. Show him that he’s so little of a threat that you don’t care about him at all, give it your best go home boy. If guys put the energy they do into being jealous and worrying about other dudes into just being a great partner a lot of relationships would be better